The Women Are Plotting

Someone asked Jane if he could saran wrap her boobs, which sets this episode's tone: honest, hilarious, and more thoughtful than you’d expect. We discuss sexual kinks and fetishes without fake shock or shame, using real experiences and real definitions so you can finally understand what people mean when they say “I’m into that.” We break down the kink vs fetish difference in a way you can act...

You can feel it happening: the internet is getting louder, flatter, and more crowded with machine-written words. So where does that leave writers who actually care about voice, craft, and meaning? Etty, Heidi, and Jane talk through the real, messy middle of generative AI and writing, from the stats behind AI content growth to the gut-level question writers keep asking privately: can I use ChatGPT...

We swap our most unforgettable celebrity close encounters, from sweet sidewalk chats to moments that feel too strange to be random. Along the way, we dig into fan etiquette and why photos can kill a real connection. • Dwayne Johnson’s no-snooze alarm app and the psychology of motivation  • Debbie Harry’s terrifying Ted Bundy car ride story and trusting your instincts  • Paul McCartney’s take on ph...

Something shifts in a friendship—you miss a call, dodge a check-in, or quietly stop showing up—and suddenly that easy, comfortable bond has tension running underneath it. We follow that feeling straight into the messy, meaningful world of accountability, where being called out might be the very thing that keeps a relationship alive. We dig into the science first: friendships aren’t just nice to ha...

Something is “off” in the woods, your dog freezes, and suddenly every harmless shadow has a pulse. We follow that feeling straight into the world of cryptids, starting with the perfectly named “Not Deer” and ending with the question that haunts every Bigfoot thread: if everyone has a camera now, why is the evidence still so hard to come by? We dig into Sasquatch lore through personal stories and m...

We roast terrible dating photos, celebrate profiles that actually work, and trade stories about the green flags and red flags hiding in plain sight. From “naked elf on the shelf” to coachable partners and clever bios, we map the line between playful and off-putting. • why bathroom selfies and hotel tub shots repel • how smiling, eye contact, and daylight build trust • why context photos beat brood...

We trade outrageous, honest stories about sexual mishaps and pair them with real medical facts, hygiene guidance, and hard boundaries that keep intimacy safe and fun. From penile fractures to water-vacuum myths, we turn cringe into caution and humor into useful advice. • common mishaps vs real injuries • ER data on penile fractures and how maybe to avoid them • hickeys, clots, and surprising medic...

What if your roommate hung clown masks in the kitchen, nurtured a mold colony, or secretly read your pay stub? We dive into the relatable world of shared living—where tiny habits tell big truths—and trace the line between quirky and dangerous.  We start with internet legends—the bean scientist, the salsa collector, the almost-house‑trained dog, and the hidden parrot—then pivot to real life: dorm m...

Menopause shouldn’t feel like a mystery you solve in the dark. We pull back the curtain on overlooked symptoms and the relief many women are still told to fear—from local estrogen for UTIs and urethral irritation to transdermal estradiol that supports heart and brain health. Alongside our guest Daisy, we trace a two-year odyssey through shrugging specialists, “normal” labs, and finally a team that...

Dating can sometimes be thrilling. And other times absolutely unhinged. Our wildest dating horror stories may make you laugh, cringe, and rethink your safety plan for your next first meet.  We start with a hilarious “not-a-date” blind date to a Hamptons rave that brings hostage vibes to mind, before moving on to an OKCupid date featuring age lies, drunk negging, and leering tag-a-long friends.  We...

We swap myths for methods and share the rituals, tools, and edits that actually move pages from first draft to final. From Hardy’s shawl to Hugo’s naked deadline, we strip the romance down to reliable habits, smart structure, and brave cuts. • Thomas Hardy’s routine and why rituals prime focus • Kerouac’s scroll and the limits of superstition • Victor Hugo’s nude deadline hack and modern equivalen...

Jane, Heidi, and Etty trade raw, funny, and unsettling babysitting stories—celebrity trivia, 80s nostalgia, grooming red flags, an axe in a basement—while tracing how babysitting moved from teen rite of passage to vetted adult work. We end with clear lines on safety, values, and what kids miss when teens stop sitting. • how 80s babysitting shaped teen autonomy and risk • why teen babysitting decli...

Think a festival is just loud music and long lines? Try building a city from nothing, losing your tent to a dust storm, getting adopted by strangers, and watching 70,000 people cheer a sunset after the sky finally breaks. We go deep on Burning Man’s origin and layout, the wild generosity of the gifting economy, and why art cars, late-night DJs, and a “library” with severe late fees can add up to s...

What if attention and emotion could nudge your biology toward healing? We dive into a potent mix of emerging research, lived experience, and practical tools to explore how meditation, sound baths, and intention might change the way the body behaves. We talk through exosomes—tiny messengers that carry proteins and microRNAs—and the provocative idea that elevated neural activity and emotion could in...

What happens when you sit at 4 a.m. and breathe yourself into stillness for five and a half hours? We follow that question into Joe Dispenza’s retreat world, where heart-brain coherence, deliberate breathwork, and intention-setting collide with stories of recovery, time dilation, and a surprising lack of stress after the fact. We’re candid about how a structured seven-day schedule can change your...

What if the fictional worlds that raised us were more than escapes—what if they were blueprints? We trade closets for cosmos and follow the thread from Narnia’s lamp-lit snow to Starfleet’s hopeful future, from campus rooms that spark courage to city streets where magic hides in plain sight. Along the way we test our cravings: a society without want, a classroom that opens a life, a love story tha...

Part 2 of Martha’s long road through endometriosis continues. In this episode, we discuss more complications she experienced post-hysterectomy, including sudden menopause and the hormone therapy that finally restored her life. We focus on advocacy, access, and the value of specialists who treat endo beyond “bad cramps.” Yale article mentioned in part 1 & 2:  https://medicine.yale.edu/news/yale...

Pain that steals whole years shouldn’t be shrugged off as “just a bad period.” We sit down with Martha, a nurse who spent years begging to be believed, and trace the arc from precocious puberty and crippling cramps to an overdue MRI that finally revealed advanced endometriosis. Her story cuts through myths and minimization to show exactly how endo can derail work, intimacy, and mental health—and w...

What if the signs weren’t pointing to “the one,” but to the work? We pull apart the magnetic chaos of twin flames and the steady, grounded ease of soulmates, sharing real stories of closure, synchronicities, and the kind of love that doesn’t ask you to shrink. We discuss why runner-chaser dynamics feel addictive, how telepathy-like moments and “meant to be” coincidences can mask unhealed wounds, a...

A good friendship rarely “just happens” after 30. Between work, caretaking, and the aftershocks of a pandemic, the casual paths that used to pull us together have narrowed—and the loneliness stats prove it. We’re diving into what it really takes to build and keep female friendships in midlife, from turning neighborly small talk into real support to setting boundaries when values clash. We compare...

What if sex isn’t something we do, but a place we go together? We take that idea seriously and use it to reexamine the stubborn orgasm gap—how men climax more often in partnered sex, and what it actually takes for women to feel safe, aroused, and heard. From the lens of intimate justice to the very real numbers behind the disparity, we lay out how culture, porn scripts, and silence combine to make...

What if consciousness can wander—during sleep, during sex, or in the quiet of a deep meditation—and return with a story that won’t fit inside ordinary life? We open that door with firsthand accounts of floating above a childhood bedroom, being “seen” across continents while asleep elsewhere, and a night vision of a house fire that matched the morning’s grim news. The conversation moves from gooseb...

A lot of us carry a bathroom story like a secret scar. We decided to tell ours out loud. We open with clear, useful GI truths, then tumble headlong into the messy middle where science meets life: nurses dodging diarrhea, a patient seemingly “birthing” something awful, and an outrageous septic tank failure that no one was prepared for. It’s raw, ridiculous, and surprisingly reassuring. We step back...

What if the person you love most thrives on making you small? We go straight into the lived realities of narcissistic parents, partners, and friends—how they isolate, control, and turn you into “supply”—and what it takes to break free. We start with the facts, including DSM-5 prevalence estimates and why real-world numbers may be higher, then move into raw personal stories: body shaming in public,...

The bravest thing about midlife isn’t the leap. It’s admitting the life you’ve outgrown—and choosing the one that actually fits. We dig into the surge in “gray divorce,” the myths around the midlife crisis, and why so many of us are trading the familiar grind for a more honest path. The stories are personal: leaving long marriages with care, discovering the power of therapy, and finding new career...