The Transformational Leader

Great job! It is an easy phrase to say to people if they are doing a great job. Society has a high bar for what a great job is. It is a never-ending set of goalposts you never really get quiet for. Most of the time, you are very stingy with yourself to the great work that you are doing. You become very hesitant to receive praise and acknowledgment.  This episode will remind you that when you pract...

There is a distinction between projection and being.  In leadership, you see a lot of projection of confidence, and the projection of confidence is radically different from confidence. How would you know a projection of confidence? It has no room for things like, "I am not afraid because being afraid would mean I'm not confident." However, to be confident, it must have room for fear. You can show...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses topics such as Ontology's origins, Taking support as needed vs. Committing to being supported, working with cynicism, somatic work, how to become accountable, when you don't achieve your result, learning to learn, and more!

Agreeing or disagreeing on something is a situation that arises when you meet feedback that causes a degree of dissonance. Dissonance is an experience where you have a perspective about the world, and how you are about everything, and then you receive feedback that does not align with that perspective. This moment of dissonance is interesting because it represents the moment where transformation i...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses A lack of desire to take responsibility, Learning to use rigour, Bad trips, Gaslighting, Narcissism and Imposter Syndrome, Magnetism and Relationships, Staying in the Conversation, Studying NXIVM and more!

"How could I bring the being of leader more in a situation?" In a traditional hierarchy, leadership is a uni-directional relationship. If you are having your leadership developed by someone, for you to turn back and point to what they are doing, that won't work. As soon as you point to their stuff and tell them to take on that work, it fouls everything out. It also breaks the understanding that we...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses sharing goals vs. keeping them private, calming your nervous system before big moments, resilience, how Who Do Think You Are was created, coaching mastery vs. leadership mastery, the importance of fun, understanding why we feel as we do, magnetism in relationship, and more!

Gaslighting is a super popular term these days. The essence of it originally came from a 1944 American psychological thriller movie "Gaslight." The idea in this movie is that a woman marries her accompanist, and the husband slowly but surely starts to isolate her wife and convince her that she is crazy. In that way, the husband makes his wife doubt her own senses, and he can do whatever he wants t...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses Integration, Isolation, Our fundamental Innocence, Learning to be receptive and sensitive to feedback, Stages of openness, and more!

There are lots of things happening in leadership. The first is that a leadership relationship is not an equal footing relationship. It happens for a few reasons: First, the person generally leading you in a corporate environment usually occupies a higher position on a hierarchy. So there's a lack of equal footing based on that. But there's also a lack of equal footing in the energetics of a leader...

That is the most common complaint of people who have a leader or a coach. Most untrained "coaches" are helping, fixing, and guiding you toward a path. They give you advice that does not empower you to discover your path in your wisdom. It has you become reliant on his advice. It is important to distinguish that it is your default as a human. Holding space, not giving answers, and supporting people...

When you take something new, you have the desire to make something happen, resistance shows up. If you try to wake up early in the morning, connect more openly with people, or meditate, all of these might drive up some of your resistance.  Transformation isn't something you can make happen on your own because we will continue to operate inside the circle that you operate in. Your thoughts, your be...

Transformation always starts with awareness. One of the most essential practices in transformational work is to notice the start that you do. Most of the time, it is challenging to distinguish that you create a world designed to avoid what you don't want. Most of you are creating lives that are a function of what you don't want rather than lives that are a function of your hearts and desires. Any...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses What is showing up vs. What you want, Completion, Coaching in a vacuum, 1-on-1 vs Group Work and more.

How did Adam Quinney get caught in "How?" When your vision and mission have grown, there is a demand to do something. Looking for what's next is scary because there is the beauty of what is created and the fear that if you change something, you could screw up, and then you can't go back. When you create a rough vision of good things to happen, you get that wide, open grassy field of possibility. N...

"How do you know you are not just getting addictive?" It is a common question for transformational coaching. The pattern of addiction is one where you take or engage in something and gives you this momentary experience of feeling better and back down to your same baseline. Getting high in transformational work like coaches or workshops is common because the experience it creates is often so powerf...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam is joined by special guest Ruth Arnott, a member of The Forge 2022 leadership team and the first registrant for the Forge 2024 (that's right, she's already registered for the year after this one), as they jam on challenges, difficulties, why we resist transformation and more.

You are predisposed to be like, "This is for someone other than me." Why? Because our society is ironically opposed to the notion of victimhood. This quality is inherited by all of us. There is no way to escape this, and every one of you falls into victimhood.  How do you support people that are in a victim mindset? They are saying they want something, but they are at the effect. You look to someo...

What is deep work? Some people call this "the work of being." These are like asking questions that feel deep or go beyond the surface of one's self. Deep work might cause trouble for you as a leader. It is because deep work can become very masturbatory. It can become very insight-driven and feels good because it gives you insight. The trouble here is it's like going to a cave and meditating by you...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses Shadow work and Ontology, Career Coaching, Supporting Executive Leadership, Bringing out the best in our children, Arguing for our limitations, AI and the future of humanity (keeping it light), The art of distinguishing and more!

"I'm sick of being a leader for people." That expression shows how you are mistaking leadership as just inspiring other people, motivating other people, and getting other people to do stuff.  You might feel exhausted if you do a lot of work to inspire others. You always try to put a lot of effort into encouraging them. Instead of doing much to inspire others with your work, why not become a leader...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses What coaches do that hurt, more than help their clients, Supporting those in victimhood, Doing the deep work, Tony Robbins, Tools, Approaches, NLP and transformation, The Art of Distinguishing and the Problem with the Problem and more!

We have an amazing guest for The Transformational Leader today! It is no other than the Executive Coach, Lord Adam Quiney! Jason Feltman from Impact and Freedom talked with Lord Adam as he shared his great background on how he became a coach and some pain he had gone through. Adam worked for five years as a software developer and project manager. In that span of years, he became really good at man...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam interviews Allison Garner about her transformation, including the leadership team on the Forge.

Transformational leadership involves expanding and increasing one's capability to be with whatever is showing up. However, this is often hindered by one's tendency to stop doing something as soon as it is brought to their attention. While not everyone can see it as it actually is, the desire to "stop doing it" is one of the early roadblocks to growth. What impact will this have on your leadership?...