The Susan Winter Show

Lawrence writes, “Hi Susan. My wife and I have separated and she's sleeping around and meeting men off dating sites. She suffers from alcohol abuse stemming from a traumatic childhood. I'd love her to fix this and us be a family my heart keeps wanting to reach out. Is there anything I can do to get her to realise and her tackle her problems and issues or is that something she must see alone?”

A ‘Band Aid' relationship is neither good nor bad. It's a get-by type of romantic construct that demands little of its participants. One or both partners are marking time and treading water. The point is to identify if you're in a ‘Band Aid' relationship, just in case you're the partner who wants forward movement.

Wondering why your partner's taking so long to trust you? Here's how to figure out if it's something you're doing to create this situation, or if it's an underlying issue that belongs to (and benefits) your partner.

Johnny writes, “Hello Susan. First I wanted to thank you for all your precious advice. My relationship with a man I'm dating is moving forward and my insecurities are coming to the surface. I'm a young man and the guy I'm dating is older than me, very attractive and put together, and I still feel very uneasy around him. Do you have any pieces of advice for me to try to overcome my personal anguish...

Charlotte writes, “Hi Susan. Thank you for all of your wonderful, wise advice in your YouTube videos. You clearly have a gift in understanding human nature. Please may I ask - if you meet a guy that you feel inexplicably drawn to in less than ideal circumstances and with clear obstacles in the way, is this the Universe's way of telling you're way off the mark and that it's a “no-no?” Thanks so muc...

External factors can collide with your inner world to set you up for emotional obsession — even when you're a rational person.  This creates insecurity, and a heightened dependency on a partner. Learn what those situations are, and how to avoid this negative loop.

Dustin writes, “Hi Susan. I got out of a very toxic relationship 6 months ago. My ex broke up with me. She has bpd. I've been through a lot emotionally post breakup. I know for my salvation I need to move on from her but I still find myself painfully longing this person. How do I move on? I'm terrified that my next relationship will be just as painful if not worse. How do I feel good again and tru...

Have you made it easy for your partner to devalue your worth? If so, here's what you did wrong and here's how to make it right. Learn the inner workings of person who takes their partner for granted, and how the non-prioritized partner gets stuck in the loop of believing their false promises.

Laetitia writes, “Hi Susan,Thank you for all your fabulous advice. So helpful! Here is my question: how to know when to give a chance to some one?”Is there someone you're considering dating? Here are the questions you need to ask yourself in order know if this person is someone you'd like to know more intimately. This worries me lots! We talked about both wanting something serious.”

Anna writes, “Hi Susan. Hope all is well. I've been improving myself so much, thanks to all of your break up videos. I have one question: What should I do if my partner has "The grass is greener" syndrome? He broke up with me out of the blue, turned into a different person. He has a girlfriend now, but begs me to talk to him whenever I cut the cord. But when I mention commitment, he pulls away? Th...

Is your spiritual practice weakening your romantic boundaries and making your ‘go blind' to an unhealthy partnership? The overwhelming love that occurs from devoted spiritual awareness is magnificent, but may leave you confused as to how to integrate self-esteem and boundaries in the real world. Here's your guide to that integration.

Petter Fagerlund writes, “Should you try to resolve an ambivalent situation, that might be characterized as hot and cold, by being open or are you jeopardizing the relationship by doing so?”

Tanya writes, “Should previous relationship history matter? I met this guy on tinder and we had such an awesome first date! We clicked right away and I felt comfortable. One of my good friends knows him. My friend did a bit of a background check for me and found out from a source he's been in and out of many relationships and might be a player. This worries me lots! We talked about both wanting so...

Stella writes, “Hello Susan. I have been dating a man 11 years older than me for 2 years. Both divorced. I'm 40. He has had past failed relationships. I have ddated, nothing serious. He told me from beginning he wasn't boyfriend material?? He acts like a boyfriend when we are together. He won't commit to anything. My gut tells me he's the one and he's afraid of being hurt. Am I kidding myself?”

Charles Belfort writes, “HI Susan, could you please make a VIDEO on the logic behind "it's just and doesn't mean anything", while the person is holding back with someone they date and like in all sorts of ways? In other words whatever has the potential of turning into something meaningful and romantic is put on hold, while casual sex here and there is fine - up until the actual dating started or e...

We're all afraid of being hurt. But the unbelievable remorse of staying silent is to miss the opportunity to experience love with the person who also loves you. Here's how to speak your truth and embrace the love that is awaiting you.

Jessie Magliocco writes, ”Do people run hot and cold when they're on the rebound or when an ex is trying to get back into their lives?”Here's the answer to that question and how to handle hot and cold in general.

Marko writes, “Hi Susan, greetings from Europe. What is your opinion on male-female friendships when in a relationship? To give it more context, how are you suppose to react to your partner spending time in private, late at night, with friends from an opposite sex? Especially when you have never been introduced to them in a relationship that's lasted for more than 6 months. Wish you all the best,...

Future Faking is a form of mental/emotional seduction that lures a dater in the gate. It's the bait of what's wanted; exclusivity, a future together, family, children, lifestyle… whatever it is that rings your bell will be offered in lip service only. Learn the red flags of this specific dating game to be one step ahead of the manipulation.

Viewer Fiona writes, “How do you date when your career is in shambles or ‘in process?' It's not ideal, but if the career is not a 6 month fix, should you abstain from the dating market? I have met interesting men in the past two years. Despite an initial attraction, all evaporate. I've been very unsuccessful on the career front and wonder if the two are related? Is my disappointment with career ac...

Shanewrites, “Dear Susan, Enjoying your videos and website, finding your perspective refreshing and insightful. I have a question that's recently crossed my mind. For us younger men who are attracted to and/or seeing an older woman what would you say is the most common mistake we make with an older woman?”

Hot and cold isn't always what it seems. Though we're savvy to this dating game, what if we're wrong? Could our partner be having a reaction to our reaction? And could two loving people become distanced simply due to fear? Here's how to discern between your partner caring, and one who's only playing a game.

Viewer Gary H writes, “In your opinion, when is it the best time to let someone know that you like them. Can it ever be too early to do so? Thanks, Gary.“  Here are several options to let someone know you're interested, with the proper timing.

As a self-empowered dater, you may seem ‘too good to be true.' Honest, open and real, your demeanor may throw off a new partner. Here's why being real looks like a game to the disempowered, and how you can remain calm while they warm to your truth.

Viewer Lana writes, “Dear Susan. Thank you so much for your helpful videos. My friends claim that a man knows very quickly whether the woman is girlfriend material or not. Perhaps just after few dates. Could you make a video about this topic? I was seeing a guy who played hot and cold on me, and my friends explained that it is because he knew from the beginning that I am not girlfriend material. T...