The Positivity Xperience

Resentments are something we feel from time to time especially if we are not on our healing journey.  Resentments, envy and jealousy are all under the same umbrella.   You can resent someone for various reasons which we will discuss in this episode. The energy from resentment and anger reside in the gallbladder and the liver.  Holding onto resentment with the idea that you are protecting yourself...

It is amazing to have goals and dreams and work towards reaching them.  It becomes problematic when you are so married to the outcome that when one thing goes off course you fall apart and often throw in the towel.  Your outcome has to be a simple bench marker that shows your progress. The journey itself is the reward and the lesson. The setbacks and redirections and even the things that never com...

Different plants require a different method of care just like humans.  Let's go through 5 ways you can relate your life to how plants thrive.   Focusing your foundation self love and surroundings is what a plant experiences in their soil.  If the soil is not ph balanced or weak in nutrients the plant can't thrive.  If your surroundings are not providing you the proper nutrition, replant yourself....

As we approach the beginning of 2023 I want to make sure you have  tools you need to set goals and understand why you are setting them in the first place.   What is the reason behing your goals? What systems will you use to prevent falling back into bad habits? Which goals are REALLY a priority and not just a "want"? These are just a few questions you need to be clear on when establishing your new...

When you are authentic, your relationships are authentic.  In contrast, when you are trying to fit into an idea of what others want you to be your relationships are not built on honesty.    You will NEVER please everyone but you need to make sure that you are pleasing yourself but you have to know who YOU are before you can actually be authentic.     When you are shape shifting into others comfort...

When you feel as though someone wronged you, you may want to lash out and hurt that person so they can "feel" how you feel. You want to seek revenge in hopes of validation of this pain but you will not get that outcome.  The relief of revenge is temporary at best and it doesn't take away that hurt from you.  It prolonges that hurt by allowing you to replay that injustice.   Forgiveness is so power...

Harsh truths can be difficult to hear and accept but the sooner you do accept them, the sooner you can release the idea of how you want it to be and accept it as it is.    Accepting that perfectionism, people pleasing and material wealth will never give you inner peace and sustainable happiness.  Its amazing to have goals and to look towards the future but don't assume that you have to acheive the...

Anger is part of our emotions but when it takes you over and causes outburts and prevents sleep then its problematic.  Anger is rooted in fear, frustration or hurt.  Yes, it can be all of those at once but it is up to you to process those feelings.   You want to be cautious in using YOU statements and focus on I statements.  Allow yourself to communicate but don't carry expectations.  You have the...

Jennifer Hale is an amazing human who took her adversities and turned them into power. She is a Guiness Book record holder, Voice Over and Voice Actor.  I am so excited to share this interview with you guys.  I hope that you can find inspiration from her as much as I have. www.jenniferhale.com Interested in doing voice work?  Go out to www.skillshub.life Follow Jennifer on Instagram @Jhalegram Bec...

All or nothing thinking is a form of self sabotage and distorted thinking.  It will prevent you from starting projects, victim mentality, anger and self loathing.  The gray area is where sustainable self love, relationships and goals live.  Failure, mistakes and the unknown live in the gray area.  When you fear those things you are in the all or nothing distorted mindset.   Become A Patreon! www.p...

Boundaries are established for you not anyone else.  When you hold those boundaries, other people can NOT overstep them but often they will continue to try.  This is a normal response when they have not established their own boundaries.   To protect your peace you may have to distance and disengage from people who continue to not respect your boundaries regardless of bow badly you want them in you...

A habit is a routine that has become automatic and doesn't require a lot of thought or intent.  When you are establishing new habits you start with small integrations of the habits you want to aquire with the ones you currently have.  As with anything, having patience and realistic expecations requires baby steps and a well established plan.   Become A Patreon www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperienc...

To be self aware is to know who you are spiritually, mentally and physcially.  Know what your beliefs and morals are that align with YOU.  Self awareness is NOT the awareness of how others see you or how you think they see you.   Knowing what makes you thrive and grow and how to protect your peace when others don't align with you is a huge part of self awareness.  When is the last time you paused...

The ego consists of three parts, the ID, Super Ego & Ego. The ID is related to primative instint and wants what it wants when it wants it.  The Super Ego is what houses your personal morals and the ego balances the two.   When you have trauma your ego is off balance which can be difficult to find that balance between the two.  When you work to heal that trauma part of that healing is to not live i...

Believing in yourself is essential to your personal development. To believe in self means that you can block the chatter of the voices in your head and accept that you are enough.  To believe in self is to understand you will fail and make mistakes.  Knowing that you are enough as you are and accepting that others narrative isn't your responsibility will allow you the space to take action in livin...

Striving for perfection is striving for something that doesn't exist.  There is no gold standard of perfection and can be stemmed from trying to live up to others vision of perfection.  When trying to achieve "perfection" it creates burnout, disappointment, depression, anxiety, strained relationships, judgement and fear of achieving your goals.   Become  Patreon! www.patreon.com/loriwheeler Social...

Codepependency isn't just depending on your partner, family or friend for your emotional needs.  It has many layers that you may not realize falls under codependency.  The need to "fix" or "rescue" also falls under the codependency umbrella.   Childhood and other events can be the root to where the codependency starts but not the excuse to not work through it.  It may seem scary and isolating in t...

Judgment of others is a normal part of being a human but only when you see the situation as it is as decide if it aligns with you.  When however you try to understand their why and judge them in a superior way it creates a habit of looking for the negative in others and in self. Acceptance that others are not you and do not have to respond as you would is a great place to focus.   Become A Patreon...

Triggers are something that we all experience but you don't have to remain a prisoner to avoiding those triggers.  Some triggers are not as obvious as others but you will typically have a pretty consistent emotional response which is a good indicator of a trigger.  It's important to not hate the triggers.  They are a valuable tool to understand where you need to focus your energy on additional hea...

Multiple decisions and having enourmous amounts of options leads to overwhelm and procrastination.  Micro goals become that much more effective with you have less options to micro goal.   Putting in the time and effort in the immediate lends to a less stressful longterm.  Planning your day the night before, prepping your clothes for the week and minimilizing all your options will decrease the risk...

Radical acceptance is just as it sounds.  Radically accepting that it is what it is and that what has happened has happened.  You may not like someone's lifestyle or behavior but its not for you to like or dislike.  When you accept its not you condoning something, it is releasing the attachement that you have developed. Working on distress tolerance and processing your feelings by actually feeling...

Are you living with intentions?  Intentions are a foundation to self love and manifestations.  To live intentionally comes with releasing what no longer serves you and accepting that you have to reevaluate your goals and belief systems on the regular.   Manifestation comes with the understanding as though you already have it.  Not out of desperation and desire.   Become A Patreon  Socials, service...

Non attachment is appreciating things, people and circumstances as they are and not attaching an expecation to the outcome.  This isn't something that is achieved overnight since trauma leads to attachment styles and issues. Things to help with non attachment are: meditation, acceptance, mindfulness and self love.  The daily wellness practice allows you to love and appreciate withouth the need to...

Burn out isn't just work related.  Burn out can also mimick depression and anxiety or at the least emphasise it.  You are not a machine and can't do it all so stop trying.  Accept that you can be burned out by overextending who you are.  You are NOT defined by the role that you play in life. You get no special awards for burning the midnight oil all week.  It also breeds hostility towards others w...

The definition of a boundary in the dictonary: ....a line that marks the limits of an area; a divding line. This is something to remind yourself of when developing and establishing your boundaries.  Think of that dividing line and the limits in which you need to establish a healthy boundary that originates withing\ and for yourself.  To establish a boundary you must first know what it is that your...