Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer chats with licensed therapist and relationship specialist, Dr. Joy Berkheimer, about the challenges and rewards of adult friendships. Dr. Joy shares practical strategies for finding new friends as an adult, building trust, navigating conflict, and knowing when it’s time to let a friendship go — all while honoring your own capacity, interests, and boundaries. Discussed in this episo...

Delanie Fischer chats with psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington—flipping the narrative of “we’re in a mental health crisis." They explore the loneliness epidemic sweeping our generation, even amid unprecedented access to people and information. They unpack record levels of burnout, the real dangers of disconnection (including life-threatening consequences), and how our society (not our minds) is often...

Delanie Fischer chats with Dane Johnson, founder of CrohnsColitisLifestyle and Board-Certified Nutritionist, who specializes in supporting people with Crohn’s disease and Ulcerative Colitis. They explore the factors that contribute to IBD, IBS, Crohn’s, and Colitis, practical ways to take control of your health and environment, and how to step away from the “culture of fake.” Dane also shares his...

Delanie Fischer chats with Suzanne Warye, author of The Sober Shift and host of The Sober Mom Life, about the culture, conditioning, and emotional underpinnings of alcohol. They unpack everything from mommy wine culture, dude beer culture, and the dark side of normalizing drinking to the marketing tactics increasingly targeting women, how relationships can shift in sobriety, and the freedom, oppor...

Delanie Fischer chats with author of Fetishized: A Reckoning with Yellow Fever, Feminism, and Beauty Kaila Yu to discuss the dangerous side of fetishization. She shares about the evolving perception of Asian women, the impact of media and representation (or lack thereof), and practical ways to recognize and dismantle harmful patterns. * This episode contains sensitive subject matter. Listener disc...

Delanie Fischer chats with Arielle Loupos, founder of Flower Girl, for a revealing look at the hidden toxins in mainstream menstrual products and their impact, the history of “feminine hygiene” marketing, and the safe alternatives everyone should know about. They explore cycle stigma, period traditions, and why rethinking our everyday products is essential for our health. Please share this with th...

Delanie Fischer chats with bestselling author and artist Rebecca Campbell about how creativity, ritual, and our connection to nature can transform the way we think and feel. They dive into how belief systems shape our health and choices, approaching traditions with mindfulness and respect, and what happens when we start listening to the natural rhythms around us — and within us. Discussed in this...

Delanie Fischer chats with board-certified pediatrician Dr. Joel Warsh about vaccines and why it’s crucial to navigate this divisive topic with clarity. They explore vaccine research gaps, misinformation, and what’s taught in medical school, as well as how vaccines are tested, the influence of pharmaceutical companies on healthcare and media, and systemic safety and efficacy concerns. This episode...

Delanie Fischer chats with Gen X viral content creator and entrepreneur Sherri Dindal about midlife transformation — diving into the fluidity of identity, purpose, and the realities of reinvention. Sherri opens up about her bold career pivot in her 40s, leaving behind a 26-year career as a corporate investigator to pursue entrepreneurship, and how she’s released the baggage of societal expectation...

Delanie Fischer chats with Kelsey Perry about her experience living and working abroad in New Zealand through a Working Holiday Visa. Kelsey shares practical travel tips, different visa options, and advice for finding accommodations and seasonal work. She also breaks down what to consider when preparing (and packing) for a big international move. Whether you’re heading to New Zealand or planning t...

Delanie Fischer chats with licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole about high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how to set healthy boundaries to prevent burn out, resentment, and feeling underappreciated. They explore signs like auto advice-giving, auto-accommodating, and keeping the peace at all costs, and uncover why many try to control others unknowingly. Terri shares actionable tools for shifting...

Delanie Fischer chats with Elliott Connie, Psychotherapist and renowned leader in the field of Solution Focused Brief Therapy, about shifting the questions we ask ourselves in order to transform our lives. They discuss the difference between comfort and happiness, how to go deeper in times of indecision and struggle, and simple practices and rituals that create lasting change. Discussed in this ep...

Delanie Fischer chats with John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, about confidence, culture, and the power of conversation. They unpack how cultural conditioning, fear, and the desire to be "good enough” shape identity and self-worth. John shares the lessons he learned from his year-long experiment in radical honesty—during which he came clean to friends and family about past lies and committed to...

Delanie Fischer chats with Em Schulz, co-host of And That’s Why We Drink and one of Delanie’s best buds, to discuss past heartbreak, healing from breakups, and what they wish they would’ve known - like how to avoid tolerating, and dishing out, toxic behavior. Having been with their current partners for nearly a decade, they share their perspective on what’s led to the most relationship growth.  Pl...

Delanie Fischer chats with Chika Uwazie, writer, cultural commentator, and someone instrumental in amplifying the soft life movement, to discuss life transitions, normalizing pivots, and prioritizing presence, rest, and joy along the way. They discuss timeline grief (when life doesn't go as planned), rebuilding and reinventing yourself as needed, and embracing who you truly are vs. who you've been...

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Dave Rabin, board-certified psychiatrist, translational neuroscientist, and inventor, to discuss the future of mental health and medicine. They discuss the efficacy of psychedelic-assisted therapy, technological therapeutics, ancient modalities, and ground-breaking discoveries about consciousness. * This episode is not a substitute for medical advice. Please consult...

Delanie Fischer chats with Brittany Moore, who shares her experience being married to Steve Moore, a past guest on Self-Helpless and someone who has struggled with porn addiction (and now helps others overcome it). She describes how she found out, the impact it’s had on her, and where her and Steve are now after 20 years of marriage. Plus: + The Unexpected Way Brittany Found Out  + The Signs She N...

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Judy Ho, licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, tenured professor at Pepperdine University, and TV host, about attention-seeking behavior. They take a deep dive into one common type, sympathy-seeking, to explore its root causes, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy attention-seeking, and share practical tips for approaching conversations with empathy....

Delanie Fischer chats with actor and filmmaker Kit Williamson, best known for Mad Men, Eastsiders, and Unconventional , about the ebbs and flows of a long-term creative career. They dive into the resilience and recommitment required for longevity, navigating big breaks and dead projects, exercising creative agency, and behind-the-scenes insights into filmmaking. Plus: + The Process of Selling a Pr...

Delanie Fischer chats with engineer and choreo-roboticist Dr. Catie Cuan about the future of AI, robotics, and the art of human-robot interaction. They explore potential pitfalls, promising upsides, and everything in between—impacting creativity, health, the environment, and human connection. Plus: + Rethinking Machines in Hospitals and Beyond + The Evolution of Jobs and Emerging Careers + "Uhm......

Delanie Fischer is joined by Michelle “MACE” Curran—former fighter pilot, combat veteran, and the second woman in history to fly lead solo for the U.S. Air Force Thunderbirds—to share lessons from a demanding, high-stakes career. They discuss tactics for managing fear and self-doubt, navigating pivots and reinvention, and the importance of following your evolving excitement and sense of adventure....

Delanie Fischer is joined by Behavioral Change Expert and Bestselling Author, Karen Salmansohn, to discuss insights from her latest book, Your To-Die-For Life: How to Maximize Joy and Minimize Regret . . . Before Your Time Runs Out. Karen combines neuroscience, psychology, philosophy, and personal stories to share effective mindset hacks, exercises, and the core values that will help you avoid the...

Delanie Fischer is joined by Billie Lee—comedian, activist, and the first openly transgender cast member on BravoTV’s Vanderpump Rules—and Dr. Gina Torino, psychologist and microaggression expert, to share insights from their book, Why Are You So Sensitive?: Navigating Everyday, Unintended Microaggressions. They discuss why microaggressions aren’t “micro” at all, the devastating impact they can ha...

Delanie Fischer is joined by Sam Laura Brown, host of The Perfectionism Project and Founder of Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, to discuss how to approach your personal and professional goals in a way that works with your brain, not against it. Sam shares insights on Power Planning, the importance of clean rest, and an astounding reason why we procrastinate and consistently burnout—it'll change y...

Delanie Fischer is joined by Dr. Tara—Tenured Professor of Relational and Sexual Communication and Quantitative Research at California State University Fullerton, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and Co-Host of the iconic radio show Loveline—to unpack the “whys” behind infidelity. Dr. Tara shares the 3 main reasons people cheat, how to begin healing from betrayal, and what to consider for creating...