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This Valentine's Day I was thinking about a different love to celebrate, Self Love. For a lot of us, it is hard to stop and take the time to check-in with ourselves. Make sure that the things we are doing, the situations and relationships we are in are right for us. So I took a look back at my younger self, my friend's recent dissolving of a relationship and my indulgence in self love. Poe...

One minute things are calm and still and the next minute the phone rings and your peace is up-ended. After that call you are left uncomfortable, anxious even and left feeling dysregulated. Here are some stories and how I found my way out.

What happens when you have given to all, your work, your family and your relationships, well you may find yourself, like me, reaching the last stop - Emotional burnout.

When over-investing and showing up, in all ways, costs you.

The more relationships you get in and get out of the more patterns start to show. You see what it takes to keep something going or what you gave to get and it becomes clear and so does the cost of these connections. From this you realize what matters to you.

When you ask yourself "What do you want, really" you have to accept what your life is, what it isn't and what you would have to try, change and walk away from to get what it is that you see for yourself.

What is your personal style? Have you given that much thought? I hadn't and then that changed.

What is your true nature, your essence? For some of us we always know it and for others, me included, we have to discover it through awareness and what feels right.

When you are in a toxic relationship or environment and you start to realize that wake up, what does that mean

Knowing that change is inevitable then what holds us back from accepting change? What if, when a lesson in a relationship or job has been learned we acknowledged what has been learned and then release the hold? That is where I find myself now.

What is it to be emotionally unavailable? Sometimes all it takes is being too invested in an outcome that will never be and the lack of awareness to let go.

When I got let go from my job it created a toxic time in my life. This experience would make me question how I could have let this happen and what I needed to make things right, for me.

There are certain people and experiences that test us and shape us, for the better. This is the story of my sister-in-law walk with cancer and me by her side.

What if our life is not about our purpose but instead is about the myriad of experiences that together form us and how we experience people and the world? So, with this idea in mind, I decided to accept what comes and even seek out experiences, including the embarrassing and the ridiculous. Here are a few of those stories. 

When you or a friend is caught up in a situation, I refer to that as being "In It". When I found my way out I tried to figure out how. In this episode I share my findings.

There are things we learn from our parents and there are ways we become like our parents. To understand myself, it starts with HER. My mother.

I do not remember when I lost the desire to say NO and started saying YES instead. As I settle into my forties I hear NO knocking and the journey I began to reclaim my NO.

It is hard to know what someone wants and what will fulfill their needs but after an unusual conversation I was left seeing relationships for what they are.

Have you thought about your love language and others? Most people would say, "not really." So I decided to spend some time getting to know them all and report back on what I learned.

After 30 years of receiving gifts poorly, one gift would shift my thinking to acceptance.

Life happens and how we handle the things that come at us comes down to our actions. So I started to just breathe.

A chance encounter made me realize that I no longer just thought differently... I now felt differently and was different. It was time.

What if you could remove the questioning of WHY and the wishes that come with SHOULD and by doing both you shed the victim story? That is what I experimented with.

When the stories we tell ourselves hold us back, and how to let go.

When fitting in becomes harder than standing out.