Rethink Your Rules

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever felt like you're running on autopilot, overwhelmed with an endless to-do list and struggling to be present, you're not alone. In today's episode, I’m sharing all about Headless Chicken Syndrome: what it is, the root causes, and what you can do about it. I’ll explain how the 5 Unspoken Rules (control enthusiasm, perfectionism, people-pleasing, hus...

Send us Fan Mail Ever find yourself puzzled by the choices you make? This week, I'm sharing the answer to one of life's biggest mysteries: why do we do the things we do? (and why DON'T we  do things even when it seems we should?) I'll explore the complex relationship between our emotions and behaviors. Gain insights into how your feelings can both fuel and foil your professiona...

Send us Fan Mail When was the last time you asked yourself: "What do I need here?" Or if you did, when was the last time you answered honestly, from the heart, noticing what emotional needs you have in that given moment? In this episode, I'm sharing why this deceptively simple question is so powerful.  If you're like most of the high-achieving working moms I know, you can'...

Send us Fan Mail Happy New Year! As we kick off 2024, it's a great time to think about our goals for the New Year. In today's episode, I'm sharing a simple, straightforward system that will help you evaluate where you are and where you want to go. As you go through this process, you'll learn to manage your mind to stay focused and positive. This will make your goal-setting more...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I’m walking you through my favorite tools to prepare your mind for the upcoming family holiday gatherings. We often get so busy rushing to do all the physical preparations for the holidays that we neglect the mental prep. But if you want to cultivate a calmer and more centered experience around your family this year, you must prioritize your mindset. Of course we’re all...

Send us Fan Mail Ever found yourself feeling overwhelmed and fatigued as the holiday season approaches? Trust me, you're not alone.  In this episode, I'm sharing a personal experience with managing my holiday exhaustion using the CALM method. I'll take you through the steps of Connect, Assess, Loosen Your Grip, and Make a Decision. Discover how I applied this simple, practical metho...

Send us Fan Mail Can you imagine the holidays without the crushing weight of an endless to-do list creating a wall of stress?  In this episode of “Rethink your Rules,” I explore practical strategies to move from holiday overwhelm to a calmer, more connected experience. I’m bringing back one of my most popular episodes from the “pre-RYR” era in 2019. Not only is it perfect for the holidays, but it’...

Send us Fan Mail In this “special Thanksgiving episode,” I’m sharing insights on tackling overwhelm during the holiday season. Discover my simple yet powerful CALM method that will help you feel less stressed and more…well…calm! Drawing  from some recent coaching sessions with my amazing clients, this episode is full of inspiration and actionable steps to make this holiday season more enjoyable an...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I'm exploring one of my favorite metaphors for managing your mind when you feel stuck in overwhelming thoughts or emotions. Whether it’s anxiety about parenting in public, workplace challenges, or battling your inner critic, these feelings can be like characters in the movie “Inside Out.” Picture them in the backseat of your mind, vying for attention. Of course, yo...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, discover how asking, "Do I like my reasons?" can guide you through moments of discomfort, challenge people-pleasing tendencies, and lead to choices that resonate with your true self.   Using a real-life example from a recent traffic encounter, you’ll see how it looks to choose discomfort for the right reasons.  Then we will explore the significance of as...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I'm sharing a practical self-coaching tool that has made a huge difference for my clients who feel overwhelmed and find themselves thinking there is just too much they "have to" do. If you struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or the hustle mentality,  this one is for you!  Learn to take back control of your schedule by asking three simple q...

Send us Fan Mail This episode was from the summer of 2022, and I think it really fits with the times right now. Life is tough, and sometimes it throws curveballs that leave us grappling with a whirlwind of emotions. Ever felt engulfed by your feelings to the point where they become unbearable? Trust me, I've been there. Join me in this episode as we navigate the stormy seas of life together,...

Send us Fan Mail Calling all overwhelmed working moms! Do you find yourself rolling your eyes when people talk about taking time for yourself? Sounds nice, but who can carve out an hour or two when the to-do list never ends and you're not sleeping enough as it is ? Then this episode is for you! I am sharing 25 of my favorite simple self-care practices that take take 10 minutes or less.  These...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wonder why you attach certain meanings to everyday situations? Well, prepare to have your mind blown as we discover the power of self-coaching through the insightful question - what am I making this mean? The fascinating world of brain processing is our playground today, as we delve into how our brains interpret the signals we receive and how our emotional state can skew thes...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt like you're doing everything by the book but still don't feel fulfilled? Well, you're not alone. Dr. Jennie Eckstrom, my friend and fellow physician, shares her experiences in a powerful conversation that is guaranteed to make you question your own life rules. Despite a successful medical career and personal life, Jennie found herself yearning for somethin...

Send us Fan Mail Ready to improve your emotional and mental health, all at the tip of your fingers? In this episode,  I share three smartphone apps that have been game-changers for my mental wellbeing. I truly believe everyone can benefit from using these tools, and they are particularly invaluable for working moms with ADHD (like me and many of my clients). 1 - "How We Feel" -   Improve...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know it is possible to believe new things? This week, I'm sharing a simple strategy to do just that.   Sometimes we hear a concept on a podcast or social media post and it makes sense, but it sounds too good to be true. We think "Sounds nice...for her. It's not true for me. " I think of this as my brain calling "BS" on it.  Or perhaps it sound...

Send us Fan Mail Are you struggling to truly enjoy your life and career? You've worked hard, you've built an incredible life...yet somehow, you still feel stuck and unhappy. If so, this episode is for you! Today, I'm sharing 5 simple yet powerful mindset shifts that can help you feel better in any situation - even if you can't find a way out, or you can't get the other per...

Send us Fan Mail Do you ever feel like traditional medicine doesn't quite have all the answers? Meet Dr. Santi Tanikella , a pediatrician who has merged the path of conventional and integrative medicine to help children - and their parents - cope with emotional, behavioral, and developmental issues. Dr. Tanikella’s unique approach combines her expertise in traditional and non-traditional medi...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I'm sharing the Unspoken Rules that keep working moms stuck in exhaustion and overwhelm. These rules are beliefs that have been ingrained in us by family and society since childhood.  Often we aren't even consciously aware of them anymore, but we still follow them and they can have a lot of power over how we feel and how we act. I've found that all high-a...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I’m sharing about a painful rejection I experienced recently. This episode is raw.  There are a few tears along the way. (You’ve been warned!) I wanted to share this openly because I’m betting you can relate. And I want you to see how it looks to coach yourself through it. I know this is not the done thing. High achieving women - especially coaches - are supposed to hav...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I'm interviewing my colleague and friend Dr Jo Braid , The Burnout Recovery Doctor. Dr Braid is a fellow physician, coach, and mom. She provides inspirational keynotes as well as group and individual coaching.  Dr Braid is dedicated to helping doctors overcome burnout, find greater joy and fulfilment, and thrive in their personal and professional lives. In this epi...

Send us Fan Mail Last week's episode was inspired by Taylor Swift. This week it's Beyonce. (And @bluecentric who shared about this on IG) A NYT music critic wrote a scathing review of Beyonce's first solo album back in 2003. Imagine if she had let his criticism stop her. In this episode: https://www.instagram.com/p/CucZVFdRevk/ _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready f...

Send us Fan Mail It’s Taylor Swift Week in Seattle, so of course I found a way to include her as a topic for this week’s podcast. As I embraced my inner Swiftie in prep for her amazing Eras tour show, I was thinking about the journey she’s taken. It reminded me of one of the most downloaded podcast episodes I did in my “pre-COVID era” 😂 about Imposter Syndrome. Listen for inspiration from Taylor&...

Send us Fan Mail This week, we're picking up where we left off last time.  Your answer the question "why is this a problem for me?" will give you the root cause of the issue. This is the core thought or belief that is making it so difficult. You can then use this insight as a guide to solve your problem & begin feeling better. Because you always have options. Even if at first it...