ResponseABLE Parenting

This episode explores friendships. My son had a run in with his "best friend" and he was essentially told "you're not my friend." So wounded and so confused he felt blindsided by this. He admires this kid so much and truthfully this kid is awesome. I totally get why my son wants to be his bestie. But this kid already has a bestie who loves all the same things he loves, is lock step with this kid a...

This is possibly the most important episode I've ever made. After experiencing the unrelenting stress of fires, arsonists, hurricane force winds + fire was almost too much for the human body to bear witness too. Most everyone in LA right now is walking around as a zombie. We are in "low power mode" and from what I've heard from almost everyone, "we're just putting one foot in front of the other."...

Trigger Warning. This episode is about my son who was stillborn in 2019. I share a few moments that I experienced in the hospital. If you have lost a child, experienced a stillbirth or miscarriage, please be gentle in your listening. My hope is that you find comfort in my story, that you are not alone. And that we can continue to heal together. My son Jackson would have been 6 years old this year....

In this episode, I share a personal story about my four-year-old son's traumatic accident during a holiday recital rehearsal, where he severely injured several teeth. I reflect on his resilience, the lessons we've learned, and the importance of connection, asking for help, grounding tools, and letting go of control as a parent. Let's talk about navigating trauma, finding joy in adversity, and resp...

In this week's episode I share why it's so easy for us to hop back into our "roles" inside our families when we see each other for the holidays. Even if we've done SO MUCH WORK we still find ourselves falling back into these roles.  We do the same thing in our immediate families when we get stuck in the same loops and patterns.  I hope to bring some insights, some new perspectives and some skills...

This is a fun and juicy episode! I am going to share with you a huge self discovery. A way that I have managed to CALM down in really high pressure moments. And its a secret that's been hiding in plain sight this whole time.  I cannot wait for you to take a listen and I hope that this serves you well during this holiday season and into the new year.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide t...

I didn't think I'd share this personal story from my Thanksgiving break but I felt like it really hit home for me on my journey of parenting as well as self discovery. So I invite you to take a listen, and possibly see yourself in my story.  We are so deeply intertwined with all of our "shoulds" that we've lost a large part of ourselves. My goal in everything I do as a coach is to help us figure o...

You're catching me days after the Thanksgiving break here in the states. And not even 24 hours after my youngest fell and busted out most if not all of his front teeth. I'm a little shell shocked but learning a big lesson. The lesson being, I was never allowed to be messy. And so that's why parenting feels so hard because IT'S ONLY MESS!  This is a heart felt, loving, accepting message to all the...

I love the holidays, but let's be honest, they are filled with challenges. Tricky family dynamics, expectations not being met, routines being off, more sugar, alcohol, etc. It can leave us feeling drained, resentful and frustrated.  In this episode you'll get a 4 step framework from Marshall Rosenberg, the father of Non-Violent Communication. It's THE MOST effective strategy for those tricky situa...

Do you dread the holidays? Do you feel anxious about how you're going to handle so much time together? Does it feel like gentle strategies never work with your strong-willed kid? This is the episode for you. I share 3 important mindset shifts to hold onto during the holidays as well as 4 active strategies to put in place to set your holidays up for the best possible outcome! Also, my community is...

In this episode I answer a question off Instagram: "How to manage my emotions when establishing time boundaries?"  I talk about the difference between a boundary and an expectation. And how to clearly set both. I share 5 different steps to take in order to set both you and your child up for success. You'll hear mindset shifts and you'll get practical strategies on how to engage your child once the...

In this episode I talk about the difference between control and trust. And how we have been so conditioned to control the process, control the outcome, control our children's behavior. Because left to their own devices things haven't gone well in the past. But the more we control, the less time they have to practice, to fill up their own control bucket, to show us through their actions how capable...

Hear from the Founder of Good For You Girls (a toxic-free skincare line that supports kids through puberty and beyond). Our discussion ranges from the challenging food and product options for our tweens/teens as well as how to have empowered conversations about the hormonal changes they are experiencing. Kimberly shares wonderful ways to stay connected, alert, curious, and how to move through this...

*Trigger warning at minute marker 7:30 I share a story of my stillbirth.* In this episode I share a very vulnerable and tender moment I had with my strong willed kid. He did something impulsively that pushed on all my buttons. And instead of having a corrective conversation we ended up having one of the most honest and connective moments. I was able to recognize that my desire to control his behav...

The phrase "feel your feelings" has become this negative trope used to make parents, who are really trying to do things differently, feel weak and shameful about their choices.  I hear all the time "Oh you're one of THOSE parents who allow feelings…" As if thats a BAD THING!?  In this week's episode I talk about how allowing both yourself and your child to feel your feelings (yes even the "bad" on...

In this episode we explore a phrase my therapist told me back in 2020. "You need to change in order for ME to feel better."  I feel like this phrase helped me see every situation differently. I began to understand my responsibility in each relationship. What I brought to the dynamic that was either healthy or not.  And I was able to really start a journey of self-discovery and accountability to sh...

In this episode I share 3 major reasons why yelling is so effective. I share why it works so well with our kids and why it's likely a tool you've been using in your parenting. I also dive into the effects and why this habit of ours deserves to be reevaluated and overhauled.  I share 3 effective strategies to implement INSTEAD of yelling and how you can take baby steps in the direction of getting r...

In this episode I share why I dislike the umbrella term "connection over correction" and why I think it's doing parents who are really trying a disservice.  I share what it looks like to use connection as a tool and how to connect to yourself so that you can connect to your children. I hope you can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you are trying and not failing after listening to this episode...

"When I'm in a relationship with his behaviors there is less for me to see and love and adore and protect. But when I put that down, it opens my eyes to all the things that make him special, unique that I love and want to protect in him!" - Amanda Doyle, We Can Do Hard Things This quote hit me hard. It reminded me of the years I had invested into removing unwanted behavior and how I was exclusivel...

I made a post a few weeks ago about my son negotiating with me in the pool for more pool time. I walked through the scenario and shared THE WIN of how he held his end of the agreement EVEN THOUGH he had an impulse to jump back in.  Since that post I've received 100s of messages from mostly men talking about how I should have solved that problem with physical violence against my son. They got dark....

Teaching our kids the ways of the world from value based boundaries vs. consequences and yelling is NOT easy. In fact, it's way harder. But it is worth every bit of effort.  In this episode I share a personal story of watching my son understand the boundaries and how he put it into practice while playing a game with his brother.  My hope in sharing this is to give you a beacon of hope. This is a m...

Hey mama, do you have a strong willed kid? Are you curious if they're defiant, have a behavioral disorder, or are just here on this planet to make your life miserable?! I get it, I've been parenting a strong willed child for 7+ years now and I know the roller coaster that it is.  In this episode I break down the 5 key markers I've noticed with strong-willed kids. I have a feeling you'll recognize...

I am so excited to share this interview with you. Rachel Marie Martin is an author, entrepreneur, speaker and mom to SEVEN yes you heard me SEVEN children!! She shares her story of how she felt lost in motherhood, a pivotal moment in her life where she chose to prioritize herself and how she's been able to move through life even when people questioned her because she trusted that spark.  I invite...

Back to school is upon us! If you have a stage 5 clinger like I do, this can be a hard moment for both them and you. This morning I had to fight back some tears as well and put on a sturdy face so I could support my son on his first day in a new school and new grade.  In this episode I share how to help your children feel more safety inside during this transition. I also share a few rituals that h...

In this episode I piggyback off of Episode 47 which talks about our low self worth loops as parents. This episode talks about that inner feeling, that inner knowing that you have to shed an old belief system in order to truly step into the parent that you want to be.  FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get...