Relationship Truth: Unfiltered

RESOURCES Just Enough Light for the Step I'm On: Trusting God in the Tough Times by Stormie OMartian Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)   Reflecting on the Past Laura talks about her hard memories of the marriage bed and how she took time after leaving her marriage to observe how others...

Resources: Dr. Henry Cloud’s new book: " Why I Believe "   Online platform with courses by Dr. Cloud Dr. Cloud's book, Necessary Endings Leslie's Quick Start Guide : Find out if you're in a destructive relationship In today's episode, Leslie Vernick sits down with Dr. Henry Cloud, the acclaimed leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and best-selling author known for his influential books "Bound...

RESOURCES: Leslie's Quick Start Guide - find out if you're in a destructive marriage   Today, we’re tackling a big question: Is your marriage dead or alive? We’ll break down how to tell if your relationship is thriving, in trouble, or maybe somewhere in between. We’ll talk about what regular upkeep looks like for a healthy marriage and how to handle the heavy-duty repairs when things go south. Whe...

Resources: Is Your Marriage Destructive? Find out. Get Leslie's Quick Start Guide here !   In this episode, we delve into the often overlooked dynamics of covert abuse within marriages, shedding light on its subtle yet profound impacts. Our guest, Jessica, shares her insights into these hidden behaviors based on her personal journey and observations.   Defining Covert Abuse: Covert abuse refers to...

RESOURCES: Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE Are you in an emotionally destructive marriage? Get Leslie's Quick Start Guide HERE .  Listen to this podcast where Alicia tells the story of being married to a sexually abusive pastor.    In this episode, Leslie and Julie explore the challenging issue of marital rape, drawing on personal experiences and insights from biblical teachings. Join th...

Resource: Leslie's People Pleasing Course In this episode, Julie and Leslie explore the connection between trauma and people-pleasing habits. They discuss how past experiences can lead us to prioritize others' approval over our own well-being. Through real-life stories and practical tips, they empower listeners to break free from these patterns, find their voice, and foster more authentic connecti...

Resources: Register here for our UNLIMITED Moving Beyond People Pleasing Drop-In Group Coaching + Video Curriculum Today, Julie & Leslie are exploring how some of your best qualities and highest Christian virtues can make you a target for toxic individuals. Have you ever wondered why you seem to attract destructive people despite your kind heart and good intentions? This episode will help you...

Join Moving Beyond People Pleasing! leslievernick.com/peoplepleasingcourse   In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Julie Sedenko talks with Jill, a woman navigating the complex journey of staying well in a challenging marriage. Jill shares her story of setting boundaries, seeking therapy, and balancing hope with vigilance. Her experiences provide valuable insights for anyone facing si...

In this episode Leslie and Julie dive into the complex topic of intent and its role in destructive relationships. They explore the distinction between deeply selfish actions and those stemming from misguided theology, mental or physical illness, or past traumas. The discussion highlights whether intent should influence how we process harm and respond within our marriages, even when unintentional d...

RESOURCES: JOIN HERE: Moving Beyond Insecurity Coaching Week Day One Journal App Lundy Bancroft: Why Does He Do That? Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) In this episode, Julie talks to Kay, a woman who adopted children later in life and dealt with a very destructive marriage. She knew from the beginning there were issues, but chose to try and make it work anyway. Learn from her mista...

RESOURCES: Quick Start Guide - www.leslievernick.com/start Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Leslie sits down with Assistant District Attorney and Adjunct Professor, Molly Catherine Goodson to explore the intersection of faith, justice, and abuse. Molly Catherine shares personal journey and professional insights, discussing how her...

RESOURCES: Leslie's Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start If you'd like to ask a question for a future "Ask Leslie" episode, go to www.leslievernick.com/askleslie Questions in this episode: Doesn’t there have to be infidelity, domestic violence or abandonment as a reason for divorce?  8:51 What does it mean to detach and can I detach from my husband who shows contempt for me and dismisses...

RESOURCES: www.leslievernick.com Quick Start Guide 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Marital Challenges: Rachel describes her passiveness in her marriage, emphasizing the tension between maintaining peace at home and the public persona she had to project. She recounts instances of emotional and verbal abuse from her husband, including public humiliations and controlling behaviors. Custody Battle and Legal Str...

RESOURCES: Dr. Alison Cook I Shouldn't Feel This Way "The Best of You" Podcast Lesllie's Quick Start Guide I. Story: Understanding Emotional Triggers A. Example of anger towards adult child B. Framing emotions: Is it about the other person, oneself, God, or circumstances? C. Importance of recognizing the source of emotions II. Three Practices for Emotional Health A. Naming Emotions 1. Recognizing...

RESOURCES www.leslievernick.com Suicide and crisis hotline: 988 Challenges in Recognizing Unsafe Relationships Dismissing Own Feelings and Needs Fear of Confronting Truth About Relationship Dynamics Addressing Misguided Advice Forgiveness and Forgetting Importance of Remembering Past Actions for Setting Boundaries Illustration: Story of the Songwriter Behind "Amazing Grace" Understanding Need for...

Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care 1. Introduction to Boundaries Boundaries are essential for maintaining healthy relationships and self-respect. Understanding the importance of boundaries in various aspects of life. 2. Recognizing Boundary Violations Signs of boundary violations include feeling drained, disrespected, or overwhelmed. Identifying situations where boundaries are being cro...

RESOURCES: Find Joel Muddamalle's books and more at: www.muddamalle.com Find Leslie's books, programs, and more at: www.leslievernick.com   Find Lysa Terkeurst and the Therapy and Theology podcast: www.lysaterkeurst.com/therapy-and-theology   I. Introduction: Setting the Stage Acknowledging the complexity and sensitivity surrounding the issue of divorce and the Bible II. Interpreting Malachi 2:16...

Segment 1: Setting Boundaries with Compassion Leslie emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries for safety without resorting to shaming or demeaning language. Discussing the misconceptions around divorce and the true essence of God's stance on marriage, rooted in love and protection for women. Segment 2: The Journey of Forgiveness Examining the stages of forgiveness and repentance in rebuildi...

In this episode, we dive deep into Marie's inspiring journey of breaking free from an emotionally destructive marriage, finding strength in faith, and building a new life of purpose and empowerment. Part 1: Recognizing Toxic Patterns In the first part of our show, Leslie and Marie confront harmful beliefs perpetuated by society and religion. They discuss the misconceptions surrounding marriage, di...

Leslie interviews Rebecca Davis, author of the Untwisting Scriptures series.  1. The Genesis of "Untwisting Scriptures" Discover the origins of Rebecca's groundbreaking series, sparked by the urgent need to address misuses of scripture in handling sensitive issues like sexual abuse. Learn how Rebecca's journey evolved from social media advocacy to a comprehensive exploration of scriptural interpre...

Defining Self-Esteem and Self-Image Julie poses the question: What constitutes healthy self-esteem, especially from a biblical standpoint? Leslie explores the concept of self-esteem in relation to self-image. Discussion on the formation of self-image through interactions and perceptions, particularly in childhood. Highlighting the role of parental influence and societal standards in shaping self-e...

  The Danger of Pornography: It's not just a biblical issue; studies in psychology and science show the harmful effects of pornography. Pornography can lead to sexual dysfunction, making individuals less responsive to a normal sexual relationship with their partner. Internet addiction, including pornography, is causing societal problems, making people less connected and more self-absorbed. The Obj...

In this compelling episode, we delve into the courageous journey of Amanda as she navigates through tumultuous waters in her marriage, finding strength, and healing amidst chaos. Early Struggles and Expectations: Amanda reflects on the early struggles in her marriage, feeling the weight of societal and religious expectations placed upon her as a wife and Christian. The pressure to maintain a facad...

Understanding Abuse Dynamics: Andrew and Leslie delve into the multifaceted nature of abuse, encompassing emotional, psychological, and spiritual manipulation. They highlight the insidious tactics employed by abusers to exert control and maintain power over their victims, emphasizing the importance of recognizing red flags and setting boundaries. Breaking the Silence: Both hosts underscore the sig...

Podcast Show Notes: Managing Emotions and Conflict Resolution In this comprehensive discussion on managing emotions and resolving conflicts, various tools and strategies are explored to navigate challenging conversations and maintain healthy relationships. Understanding Emotional Responses: The conversation begins by acknowledging the complexity of emotional responses, especially in high-conflict...