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People pleasing goes hand in hand with perfectionism and compassion. And most of the time, people pleasers struggle with saying no.  They spread themselves too thin by agreeing to things they don't want, or have the capacity to do. It can lead to feelings of resentment, exhaustion, irritation, and even burnout when we repeatedly ignore our own limits, in order to please others.  So, join me today...

Not every perfectionistic person has impostor syndrome.  Not everyone who is bothered by impostor syndrome has perfectionism.  But there is an overlap between the two.  The fear of being found out as a fraud can make us feel that we’re not good enough. So, today we're talking about impostor syndrome with my guest Jill Stoddard.  So, if you’re bothered by these feelings whenever you do something ne...

Are you a perfectionist? Perhaps you put a lot of pressure on yourself? Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with lots on your plate? There are many ways the pressure of perfection can affect us.  So today, I’m discussing letting go of that pressure.  Join me, as we give ourselves permission to make progress over perfection.    Here are the highlights:  (1:10) Perfectionism and inner work (4:49) Overc...

This episode has a little twist. Because today we’re talking about nutrition.  I'm bringing back my fabulous guest, Thalia Pellegrini, a registered nutritional therapist.  You might think nutrition is just about food.  But there's so much more to it than that.  So, join us as we discuss nutrition, and learn how to nourish ourselves while being more self-compassionate through what we put on our pla...

Welcome to today’s bonus episode.  Things can get stressful at this time of year, with our kids going back and starting school. We have a lot going on.  So, today I’m opening up about my experiences over the last few days.  Join me, to hear how I used mindfulness tools to stop, breathe and notice.    Here are the highlights:  (2:06) Being spontaneous (5:44) Tricky transitions (9:35) Compassionate...

People pleasing, setting boundaries, trusting yourself.   These are just a few topics I’m touching on today.   I’m joined by Natalie Costa, an award-winning coach, speaker, author and founder of Power Thoughts.   So, if you’re someone who has a mean inner critical voice, or you’re a bit of an overworker, then this episode is for you.    Join us.    Here are the highlights: (2:18) This episode is f...

It’s easy to obsess over removing every imperfection.   We all know how hard it is to let things go when we don't feel that they’re ready.    So today, I’m answering your questions about letting go of ‘perfect’.   Join me, and let’s make more progress.    Here are the highlights: (3:14) Just doing it (6:45) How to burn bright (9:39) Letting go (13:24) Life coaching   I provide both coaching and th...

The focus of this episode is connection and compassion. If you are a high achiever or constantly busy, you need to be aware of the connections you are making every day and how they are affecting your life. I want to help you understand how to connect with yourself, with others, and with your work so that you live life with a sense of pride and meaning. So join me as I give you some journal prompts...

In today’s episode, I’m going to be talking about how you miss all of the shots you don’t take.   If you don’t ask for something you’re never going to get it.  I share stories about when I went out of my comfort zone to ask for what I deserved and how it has had a positive impact on my life.     Here are the highlights:   (06:32) Ask!  (08:23) Burn bright without burning out  (09:55) Why do women...

Today's episode is all about the pressure of perfectionism! I'm joined by Thomas Curran, a psychology professor at the London School of Economics and the author of The Perfection Trap. Thomas has spent a lot of time uncovering how societal pressures are a big driving force of perfectionism. Today, Thomas explains how personality traits are linked to perfectionism and how this can impact mental hea...

Today we’re exploring an emotion. That ‘cringe’ emotion.  That hiding-behind-a-pillow emotion. That fear-of-being-judged-by-others emotion.  Shame.  Join me today, and learn to soothe shame with compassion and connection.    Here are the highlights: (2:12) Shame and guilt (5:20) Fitting in (10:43) Peace with the past (14:20) Burning bright You can find my FREE masterclass - How to Burn Bright With...

In this episode, I will share something I haven't shared on this podcast before. My hope is that you will feel seen. I want to boldly unmask what has been happening in my life and how I am evolving because I know you might be experiencing something similar. Join me as I open up about self-worth, self-compassion, and neurodiversity.   Highlights:  (02:04) An evolution of growth  (04:17) It’s nobody...

As mothers especially, we lack compassion for ourselves, and we don't implement self-care even though we know it's good for us and, better yet, that we deserve it! We should not ignore our needs because we are meeting everyone else's. All this does is drain us. We can choose to change! This episode looks at the necessary self-care and then looks at the tips for inviting more nourishing self-care i...

Sometimes life can be tough. We all experience hard knocks, and it always feels everything comes at you at once.  It can be overwhelming – I get it, and I am hear for you!  In this episode we are going to talk about how you can tackle those hard knocks with compassion and strength, so that you come out of the other side better than ever.  The brutal truth is that hard knocks are not easy to just g...

Do you give yourself the permission to look after yourself? In this week’s episode, I’m having a deep chat with my old colleague and friend, Sam Dhu. Sam Dhu is a Psychotherapist, Coach & Facilitator of Permission. Mum to seven-year-old, Amelie and baby Frankie, and passionate advocate for being radically kind and compassionate to yourself. We're tackling self-worth, permission, societal press...

How do you prepare for a period of stress?  And more importantly, how do you recharge your batteries after a stressful event?  It is so important to know how to decompress, so in this episode I talk through some of the things you can do to bookend those stressful periods, whether it’s a one-off event or a high pressure job.    Highlights:  (01:51) Practice what you teach  (04:07) Making space for...

How do you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror? Today I want us to address the pressure that comes with looking perfect. For example, society has made us believe being thinner will make us happier but it doesn't! Let’s take a deeper dive to understand why.  Highlights: (00:59) More content with yourself  (02:25) The Model Manifesto (06:32) Time consuming  (09:08) Sense of preoccupation (1...

What happens when perfectionists come to the realisation that they want to change?   In this episode, I want to explore perfectionism and why it takes time to change. I also explore how patience is key to sustainable and long-lasting change.   Here are the highlights: (01:00) Patience is key. (2:56) What gets in the way of living a meaningful life? (4:57) Finding a new path to the jungle. (7:02) G...

Today I'm joined by relationship coach and author, Matthew Fray.  Matthew wasn’t always a writer. It all started with a blog post. Matthew wrote one post online about how his wife left him because he left dishes by the sink.   But it wasn’t really about the dishes. Join us today to hear how Matthew leans on the lessons of his own divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes that he did. ...

I want you to think about the kind of life you're trying to create. What would life be like if you were more compassionate with yourself? Why would you want to let go of ‘perfect’ when society demands that of you?  It’s all about letting go of the pursuit of perfection.  Join me today to hear how all this can help you create a more spacious life.   Here are the highlights: (1:29) Just keep going (...

In this episode, I want to talk about procrastination and how you can feel compassion for yourself for your own avoidance.   So let me ask you, have you recently procrastinated again? Have you wasted time scrolling on your phone? Maybe you've gotten down a rabbit hole on Instagram.   I share my tips on how to end procrastination and become more productive.   Here are the highlights: (3:51) All art...

Today we’re looking at fear of failure and making mistakes. This is a big one. We all hate it. We all try to avoid it.  Recently, failure has become more discussed and socially accepted. We see podcasts and books on the topic, yet we don't feel less cringy when we mess up. So, join me for this episode as I outline my tips on tolerating the fear of failure and making mistakes.    Here are the highl...

Today we’re thinking about performance, pacing, permission and pressure.  Lots of P words.  I like P words.  Ask yourself, why does your productivity and performance fluctuate?  Why do you procrastinate?    Well, join me for today’s episode because I'm bringing you my three tips on sustainable productivity.   Here are the highlights: (1:57) Pressure doesn’t equal productive (4:37) Pacing before bu...

This is the story of my why and my vulnerability. Purpose often comes from a story of pain and today I want to tell you about mine. I hope that the experiences I’ve gone through will remind you that you are not alone! You too can start to live your purpose and start to feel free! Here are the highlights: (02:21) Purposeful work (03:22) The worried well! (03:39) Vitality and joy (03:59) Good girl c...

If you have a strong inner critical voice, then this episode is for you! Sometimes, your inner critic can be full of fear and doubt. It can be angry or subtle, driving a commentary in the back of your mind. In whatever form it takes, the inner critic is difficult to ignore. Today, we'll talk about the forms it takes, why you have it, how it protects you, and what to do about this voice. Here are t...