O'talkin' with Dave

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been RUNNING and didn't know if you were RUNNING FROM or TO something?  Yeah, me too... Opening Thought Everybody’s running.  Some run to opportunity.  Some run from pain.  And some just run in circles and call it being busy. Join Dave for some QUICK thoughts about: The Benefits of Change The Dangers of Running Without a Plan The 5 Dangers of Running as Avoidanc...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been LONELY?  Yeah, me too... There’s a profound difference between being alone and being lonely. Loneliness is an emptiness that gnaws at you. Solitude is a fullness that restores you. Join Dave for some thoughts around LONELINESS vs SOLITUDE: 5 Examples of Loneliness (and how to spot it) 5 Dangers of Remaining Lonely The Beauty of Solitude Solitude and Freedom 5 Ex...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever had FAITH in something and when it was tested, you found out the truth?  Yeah, me too... Faith is one of those words we use easily - faith in people, faith in God, faith in leaders, faith in ourselves. But let’s ask the uncomfortable question: is untested faith really faith at all? Join Dave for some thoughts that might TEST your FAITH: Five Characteristics of True F...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever FAILED and realized you could have prepared for it better?  Yeah, me too...  100% of us will face loss: job, career, relationship, health, or life itself.  Failure isn’t rare, it’s guaranteed. The only question is: will it be chaotic, or controlled? Join Dave for some SUCCESSFUL talk about FAILURE: The Sad Part: Who Doesn’t Prepare The Positive Turn: Controlled Failu...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like you needed more information and that made you uncomfortable?  Yeah, me too... We don’t know everything. We think we do, we act like we should, but the truth is - the information is incomplete. And that’s not a tragedy. It’s a gift.  Join Dave for some information about: Human Nature: Our Craving for Information vs. Our Need to Be Right Relationships: Why “N...

Send us Fan Mail Do you know what is like to FEAR something or someone?  Yeah, me too... Fear is the silent thief. It robs people of happiness, peace, productivity, and even relationships. People live afraid of what they know, what they don’t know, and what they only imagine. And most of the time, the fear is worse than the thing itself. Join Dave for some FEARLESS conversation around: Top 10 Fear...

Send us Fan Mail Have you every had a burden that you carried long after you could have put it down?  Yeah, me too... “You’ve carried the weight long enough, now it is just about sitting it down.” We all carry weight - problems, finances, relationships, emotions, obligations, far longer than we have to.  Join Dave for some HEAVY conversation about: 20 Common Weights People Still Carry The Toll of...

Send us Fan Mail Do you remember in the old westerns when the good guys wore WHITE HATS and the bad guys wore BLACK HATS?  Yeah, me too... But life isn’t always that clear, is it? In our world today, the lines blur. Good people are tempted. Bad choices are disguised as opportunities. And every day, whether at home, at work, or at play - we choose which hat to put on. Join Dave for some GOOD GUY ta...

Send us Fan Mail You know any QUITTERS?  Those people who don't finish what they start or let you down by not showing up?  Yeah, me too... “At some point in life, every one of us has wanted to throw in the towel. But there’s a huge difference between stopping…and quitting. Stopping is strength. Quitting is surrender.”  Join Dave for some discussion on: The Difference Between Stopping and Quit...

Send us Fan Mail Do you know anyone who is always focusing on their pain or trauma?  Yeah, me too... Resilience vs. Woundedness Resilience is the ability to bounce back -  “adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, or significant stress.” Join Dave for some WISDOM around:  The Evolution: How We Got Here (5 Causes) Pulling Wisdom from Wounds (5 Ways) Applying It: Home, Work, and Play Spotting...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like your life was in CHAOS?  Yeah, me too... Join Dave for some FREEING and PEACEFUL words on: What Freedom Is -  What Freedom Is Not -  5 Steps to Freedom What Control Is -  What Control Is Not -  5 Steps to Control What Peace Is -  What Peace Is Not -  5 Steps to Peace Why They Can’t Be Separated How They Strengthen Each Other  It's not a goal, it is a d...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever had something good or a series of good things happen in your life and you thought, "uh oh, this is too good to be true, something bad is going to happen..."  Yeah, me too... Join Dave for some SHOE TALK about: The Suspicion of “Too Good” Why We Struggle to Enjoy the Good Shoe The Positives of the “Other Shoe” The Negatives of the “Other Shoe” Mindset Person...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been around someone that blames everyone else for their lack of PEACE?  Yeah, me too... ·        "If your motives aren’t pure, your gains will vanish as quickly as they came. ·        If your aim is to hurt, you will feel the pain. ·        When selfishness outweighs empathy, peace is not possible." Join Dave for some PEACEFUL words about: The Three Challen...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been good at something, not done it for a while, then realized you're not good at it anymore?  Yeah, me too... I ignored my should problems so long I learned a new term - FROZEN... Join Dave for some MOVING chat about: Types of Atrophy with Examples How Atrophy Sneaks Into Daily Life 5 Signs of Atrophy in Yourself How to Notice Atrophy in Friends Impact of Atrop...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been in a situation when someone said something that was blatantly and factually wrong?  Yeah, me too...  Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do, for yourself and them, is just let them be wrong. Join Dave for some CORRECTIVE thoughts around: Where the Need to Correct Comes From The Destructive Side (Even if Meant to Help) Who’s Impacted? Ways to Resist the Tempta...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever "phoned it in", "went through the motions", or put a task or event on "auto-pilot"?  Yeah, me too... COMPLACENCY is a SILENT THREAT and also a warning signal! Join Dave for some VIGILANT discussion around:  Recognizing Complacency The Benefits of Ridding Yourself of Complacency Five Ways to Stay Focused with Urgency Choosing VIGILANCE Ch...

Send us Fan Mail Remember back in school and the tests were either True/False, Discussion, or MULTIPLE CHOICE?  Yeah, me too... We never stop taking tests and a lot of them are "pop quizes"!!! Join Dave for some TESTY talk about: The Tests of Life The Psychology of Choice Freedom, Clarity, and Resolve in Choice 5 Steps to Recognize a Choice in Front of You 5 Steps to Making Better Choice...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever driven somewhere and when you arrived, you didn't remember the last 5 or 10 minutes of the trip?  Yeah, me too... Freedom, Clarity, and Resolve — The Unstoppable Trio Join Dave for some CLARITY around: Freedom — The Power of Choice - How to Seek, Achieve, and Keep It Clarity — The Power of Vision - How to Seek, Achieve, and Keep It Resolve — The Power of Staying...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever questioned "why me, why this, whey now?!?!?!"  Yeah, me too... There’s a big difference between having questions and questioning . Having questions means you’re curious, open, and ready to learn. Questioning is second-guessing, doubting, or poking holes in something that’s already in motion. Join Dave for some ANSWERS around: Five reasons why questioning is...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been in a situation when "what if..." hits you and you panic?  Yeah, me too... Having FAIL-SAFES so you FEEL-SAFE, or at least as SAFE as possible is a way to do what you're doing without being crippled with fear. Join Dave for some SAFE talk about: The Stakes - Life Without FAIL-SAFES Where FAIL-SAFES Matter Most Emotional FAIL-SAFES 5 Reasons We Don’...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever heard someone who had every reason to complain or be down, say something inspiring?  Yeah, me too... My Waffle House evangelist did this a couple of weeks ago.  Working three jobs, managing family challenges, and lifting people up all around her...including me! Join Dave for some uplifting talk around: How do you handle a BAD DAY? How do you START NOW? You never ARRI...

Send us Fan Mail I have you wondered how you can make your days better?  Yeah, me too... I think one way is to simplify every day into one "DO" and one "DON'T". DO - Decide what MATTERS and make decisions about that DON'T - Argue with REALITY Join Dave for a helpful One-Two Punch: We make 35,000 decisions a day Decide what MATTERS Don't argue with REALITY Why the...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been in a situation where you need to be forgiven or forgive someone else?  Yeah, me too... FORGIVE and FORGET - easier said than done, right? Join Dave and FORGIVE him for some thoughts on: How we are so OFFENDED in today's society 10 things that are the most difficult to FORGIVE Personality types that find it difficult to FORGIVE Steps toward seeking FORGIVENE...

Send us Fan Mail Aren't you getting a little tired of people being CANCELLED by the WOKE movement?  Yeah, me too... Well, I have good news - WOKE is being CANCELLED!!!   I'm not being political, just observational and I have history, statistics, and truth on my side. Join Dave for some TRUTH on the topic: How HYSTERIA has a shelf life How HISTORY COPIES itself How CULTURE uses WEAPONS Ho...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever reacted in a way that surprised even you? Snapped at someone for no reason, shut down when things got tense, or laughed something off that actually hurt?  Yeah. Me too... I love the line Ben Stein said in the move "The Mask".  "Yes Wendy, we all wear masks, metaphorically speaking." Join Dave for some UNMASKING: Why do we wear MASKS? What emotions...