On Attachment

In this week's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips to help you process feelings of regret, shame and self-blame about things that may have happened in your past relationships. Regret can be so crippling, but it can also present us with a powerful opportunity - to reflect, to learn, and to do better next time - and today's tips are going to help you make the most of your regret rather than l...

Today's episode is exploring the topic of what to do if you want to heal & grow... but your partner doesn't. This can be a really challenging experience, and is particularly common for those in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. Fortunately, this doesn't have to mark the beginning of the end of your relationship - and in this episode, I'm sharing some mindset shifts and tips so t...

In this episode, we're unpacking some of the common origin stories of each insecure attachment style. We'll look at what causes anxious attachment, dismissive-avoidant attachment and disorganised/fearful avoidant attachment, with a particular focus on early childhood and family systems. Key themes discussed include inconsistency, emotional neglect, and chaotic home environments, and how...

In this week's episode I'm answering your questions - with a particular focus on anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics. We're discussing why people with an avoidant attachment style might use evasiveness or dishonesty as a distancing strategy, how to communicate boundaries around space with an avoidant partner, how to navigate trust & privacy, how to approach the topic of exclu...

This week, I'm sharing 5 tips to improve your relationship communication skills.  Communication is one of those areas of relationships where most of us are running on a less-than-ideal autopilot. Fortunately, you can learn new communication skills quickly and easily, so that you start seeing immediate returns on investment in your relationship.  In this episode, we cover things like validatin...

This week, we're diving into 6 signs that you're becoming more secure in your relationships. Often our attention is focused on what's wrong in our relationships - on where we need to be working to improve. So it's a refreshing change to be able to share with you some of the signs that the work is paying off, and you're becoming more grounded, confident and healthy in the w...

This week, we're talking all about self-worth. Self-worth is something I get asked about a lot - so I know how much people struggle with feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem. To that end, I'm offering you 5 ways to start building up your self-worth so that you can feel more confident and comfortable in who you are and what you have to offer.  Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Train...

When it comes to building healthy relationships, all roads lead back to boundaries. In this week's episode, I'm offering 5 signs that you might need better boundaries. The truth is, most people have poor boundaries - whether that looks like saying yes when you really mean no, taking responsibility for other people's problems or emotional states, burning yourself out or failing to fo...

In this week's episode, we're talking 5 reasons why you might be attracted to unavailable people. I'm constantly being asked the question of "Why do I attract unavailable people?" - but my response is always to ask instead "Why are you attracted to unavailable people?". We'll talk about negative core beliefs, family of origin dynamics, difficulty receiving s...

In this week's episode, I'm answering your questions around how attachment styles influence the way we relate to and experience sex.  We talk about whether casual sex is a bad idea for anxiously attached people, why sex in toxic relationships can feel so much more exciting than in secure relationships, and how to talk to an avoidant partner about sex and sexual desires. If you want to go...

In this episode, I'm sharing 5 dating tips for anxiously attached people. Many anxiously attached people have a tough time in the dating process - becoming attached too quickly, overthinking, second-guessing, and having an uncanny ability to look past red flags and become invested in someone's potential. This episode will offer you some tips and guidelines to counter these very common pa...

In this episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel to answer all of your questions about our relationship. We share everything from how we met to how we navigate conflict, our differing attachment styles and love languages, and what makes our relationship work. If you enjoyed this episode, I'd be so grateful if you could leave a 5-star rating and a review! It really does help so much. Resour...

In this episode, we're talking about whether it's a good idea to get back together with your ex - and under what circumstances. I offer you 5 questions for reflection before you make a decision, which will help you find clarity on whether it's really what you want or whether you are acting from fear, scarcity or unworthiness. Click here to sign up for Higher Love Highlighted Links F...

If you're someone with an anxious attachment style, there's a good chance you've really struggled to cope with relationship break-ups at some point in your life. And while break-ups are hard across the board, anxiously attached people tend to have an especially hard time wading through this emotional experience.  In this episode, I'm sharing 5 reasons why break-ups are so chall...

In this episode, I'm answering all your break-up related questions! We're covering whether and when to break a "no-contact" period, how to navigate jealousy and comparison around an ex's new partner, what to do when you feel blindsided by a break-up and have no closure, and more. Further resources: Click here to sign up for my break-up course, Higher Love Follow me on Inst...

In this week's episode, we're talking all things closure: what it is, why it's so elusive, and why certain people are more affected than others by an ending that lacks closure. I'll also share some tips on steps you can take if you're finding yourself wanting (but struggling to find) closure after a break-up, so you can take back control and let go with grace.  Links: Clic...

In this episode, we're diving into the challenging topic of how to know whether and when to walk away from a relationship that isn't working. I offer you five guiding questions that will lead you to greater clarity, insight and awareness in making the decision of whether to stay and keep trying, or whether it's time to go. Click here to sign up for my break-up course, Higher Love Hi...

In this episode, I'm sharing with you 5 of the red flags that I see in relationships, along with their healthier, "green flag" alternatives. We'll talk through things like knowing where you stand with someone, communication of needs and concerns, trust and commitment, how integrated you are into each other's lives, and how you approach conflict (and repair). To join my upc...

Ever wondered what differentiates the fearful avoidant and the dismissive avoidant attachment styles? In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 key differences between these two types. We cover things like level of emotional attunement, relationship to boundaries, shame and guilt, and openness to personal development work. Click here to sign up for my live masterclass "How to Navigate Anxious...

In this episode, we're talking about anxious attachment, conflict & communication. We'll dive into why anxiously attached people struggle with identifying and communicating their needs, how to navigate conflict aversion fuelled by a fear of abandonment, and tools to navigate communication and conflict in your relationship in a healthier, more adaptive manner so you can avoid the cycl...

In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an anxiously attached partner. This is a follow-up to our previous episode which discussed how to support an avoidant partner. We'll discuss things like openness and transparency as an antidote to uncertainty, how to manage your need for space in relationship with an anxious person, how to give them reassurance and help them to feel lo...

In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an avoidant partner - so that you can cultivate greater understanding and connection, and build a safe, secure relationship. We'll touch on whether it's a good idea to tell your partner that they're avoidant, how to communicate your needs in a way that your partner can receive them, how not to communicate with an avoidant par...

In this episode, we're diving into the fear of rejection. Rejection is something so many of us struggle with, but for some people it can be really debilitating. We'll discuss how to navigate the fear of rejection and how this fear interfaces with other behaviours like approval-seeking and chronic people-pleasing.  Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously...

In this episode, we're talking all things boundaries - what they are, what they aren't, how to figure out what your boundaries are and how to set and enforce them. We'll also discuss why boundaries are the antidote to people-pleasing, the saviour complex and burnout. Click here for $50 off my signature 6-week program, Healing Anxious Attachment Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Traini...

In this episode, I'm giving you the lowdown on my signature methodology for how to heal anxious attachment.  We'll discuss exactly what's involved in learning to shift from anxious to secure attachment, including reprogramming core beliefs and learning to regulate your nervous system. We'll also cover tools and skills like boundaries, communication and managing expectations. To...