Maximize Your Influence

It is not your new goals that will cause you to fail this year – it is how you motivate yourself to stay on track to keep your goals.  Motivation is everything to a great persuader.  Motivation is critical not only for achieving the big goals but also for making all the little steps in between.   Unlimited Long-Term Motivation Join me for this week's podcast on how to consistently stay motivated t...

Do you know when it is time to shut-up? Are you talking too much? Do you data dump, vomit or do the show up and throw up? Upward Physical Movement Brings Back Happy Memories Many times, when we are trying to be persuasive, we want to highlight all the perks and plusses. It's only natural. Wouldn't helping someone see the potential gains of your product or service be a good thing? Yes, but here is...

We have all heard that during the persuasion process you need to focus on getting the "yes" from your audience.  Does that work?  Is that true?  The answer is – it depends.  Great persuaders look for times when they can get affirmation from their audience.  They engineer their persuasive message to get as many verbal, mental, or physical "yeses" as they can throughout their presentation.  And ther...

The objection you get the most is the objection you still have. So you need to go back to the drawing board.  Do you really believe in your product or service?  Do you really believe it's worth that price?  Do you really believe it's helping out, changing lives and making the world a better place?  You have to believe in your product or service. What Your Desk Reveals About Your Personality Join m...

Do you have RBF?  I sure do.  I have it bad.  Do you know what RBF is?  Well the nice version is resting brat face .  The "B" is actually a word that is a little harsher.  (I will let you google it.)  What is RBF?  Well, it is when you are neutral or unemotional – your face looks mean and upset.  You look unapproachable.  In this state, you will have a harder time with influence,  building trust a...

One of the biggest surprises in 20 years of influence research is the importance of self-esteem.  We have to understand human nature and ego. Now, what is Self-esteem? Basically a simple definition is how much you like yourself. So what do we need to know? You need to understand the trend, that self-esteem is at a all-time low. Two out of three Americans suffer from low self-esteem and I'll put it...

Are you perceived as competent? Are you sure? You could be the smartest person in the room, but your verbal and nonverbal behavior could tell your prospects something else.    Competence is your knowledge and ability in a particular subject area. Competency exists on many levels. When we are observing someone from a distance, or when we are meeting them for the first time and our experience with t...

A great persuader can connect with anyone in thirty seconds or less. First impressions take only seconds to form, but they last a lifetime. This is a critical skill to develop because the cement dries fast. 7 Simple Behaviors That Make You More Attractive Do your prospects like you?  Are you sure?  How do you make sure you're really connecting? You want to be friendly, but not fake. You aim to be...

Power Persuaders know that each audience and individual has a different balance between logic and emotion. Your analytical type personalities need more logic than emotion. Your amiable personalities require more emotion and less logic. Always remember, you have to have both elements present in your message, regardless of the personality types listening. Emotion is a power you can harness and use i...

Want success?  Wondering what is taking so long?  Ask yourself this question.  Have you given yourself permission to win?  If you are not winning - think about this.  If you are playing the game of success not to lose, you are going to lose.   Imposter syndrome When you decide to play the game to win, you are eventually going to win.  Striking power poses won't boost your confidence or make you fe...

Have you ever felt something was not quite right?  That something was out of whack?  Your motivation was decreasing instead of increasing? Just as in a mutual fund, where one bad stock can pull down the fund's overall value, one bad area in your life can pull you down and destroy your motivation. When we look at life, we have to realize that it is not lived in segments, but rather, it is part of a...

Every aspect of success and wealth includes your ability to generate multiple streams of income. I just finished a training in San Diego, CA. talking with entrepreneurs on creating multiple streams of income. I am very passionate about this topic because so many people just don't have the right vehicles to generate wealth.    This is a key factor to success and many people have a great vehicle, bu...

It all starts with your thoughts. Your thoughts lead to emotions and your emotions lead to your daily actions. Take an honest look at your life right now. Where do you find yourself? That place is the sum total of your thoughts over the course of a lifetime. Where have your thoughts taken you thus far? Where will they take you tomorrow, next week, or next year? Join Kurt as he interviews expert Da...

One of the major distinctions between mediocre persuaders and highly successful persuaders is the amount of talking they do and the number of questions they ask. We have found that great persuaders ask 2.7 more questions of their audience than average persuaders do. Think about that statistic. An average persuader will ask six questions; a great persuader will ask sixteen.   As you apply this prin...

On this episode Kurt interviews Dave Kurlan. They discuss the biggest mistake that sales people make, baseball and sales, biggest mindset obstacles, self-limiting beliefs and how to reprogram your beliefs, how to get your prospect to pay more attention to you than to your competition, the sales process, good closing techniques, how to create urgency early, how to get past a "slump," how to know wh...

The proper use of humor will boost your confidence and increase your likeability.  It enables you to establish instant rapport and they will trust you more.   Practice your humor.  Make sure it works.  The brutal bottom line is they will either laugh with you or feel sorry for you. Supervisors driven by bottom line fail to get top performance from employees You will be surprised how easy it is to...

The good news is you can change many characteristics of your voice.  What does your voice project?  Does your voice work for you or against you?  Find out the ways to make your voice more persuasive on this week's podcast -  " How to Make Your Voice More Persuasive ."  There are easy tools you can implement to create that perfect persuasive voice. Article: Our pursuit of happiness makes us sad

How do you mirror someone that is successful?  How do you benchmark a thriving business?  How do you find the answers to that open-book test on success?  There are 10 free to very inexpensive ways to get the answers to your success.  You can get the answers to take your life, your income, your business to the next level.   A Trick That Makes People Like You More Join me on this week's podcast on "...

We have all seen great persuaders in action. We have been in the presence of persuasive experts who automatically attract everyone to them. Wherever they go, people are captivated and influenced by such individuals' radiant energy and dynamic personality. People just naturally want to be persuaded by them.  What makes them successful?  These persuaders have adjusted or changed their persuasion tec...

You are being persuaded all around you – And you don't even know it.  Your environment (colors, smells, music, symbols, etc.) all have an impact on persuasion and influence.  That impact can help or hurt persuasion. City parks are only as good as the trip to get there In his book Triggers, best-selling author Joseph Sugarman reveals that 95 percent of the reasoning behind a consumer's purchase is...

You are being persuaded all around you – And you don't even know it.  Your environment (colors, smells, music, symbols, etc.) all have an impact on persuasion and influence.  That impact can help or hurt persuasion. City parks are only as good as the trip to get there In his book Triggers, best-selling author Joseph Sugarman reveals that 95 percent of the reasoning behind a consumer's purchase is...

You are being persuaded all around you – And you don't even know it.  Your environment (colors, smells, music, symbols, etc.) all have an impact on persuasion and influence.  That impact can help or hurt persuasion. City parks are only as good as the trip to get there In his book Triggers, best-selling author Joseph Sugarman reveals that 95 percent of the reasoning behind a consumer's purchase is...

Listening is one of the most crucial human relations skills. Listening is how we find out people's code, preferences, desires, wants, and needs. It is how we learn to customize our message to our prospects. Of all the skills one could master, listening is probably the one that will pay you back the most. Bosses who phone snub their employees risk losing trust & engagement There is a positive relat...

There are those dirty techniques that are very old school and can be very intimidating.  These dark mind tricks are being used against you.  These tricks are still being taught today especially in the world of negotiation.  I want to talk about these dirty tricks so you can be prepared against when they happen to you – not for you to use them. 10 Hard Bargaining Negotiation Skills You have to unde...

Did you know that being nice or unselfish could hurt your ability to persuade?  What about those people that are so optimistic that you want to hit them?   People don't really like unselfish colleagues There are many tools of influence that are used in excess (or in the wrong way) – that can backfire on you.  What are those good things?  It could be any of the following:  ·         Always voluntee...