Loving Goliath

In this episode we talk primarily about mullets, but we do also get a little bit into expectations. Particularly, milestone expectations and why they really, truly, don't matter. Whether it's 20, 30, 40 or beyond, we all have moments where we feel like we have to reach a certain goal - but why, and does it really even matter? Let's talk about it!

Today on the pod we're talking to another friend of mine Donovan Isaac. From football scholarship to graphic design student to successful streamer, today we're talking to him about following your dreams, pursuing your passion despite the expectations of others and what it means to be happy. Let's talk about it! Check out what Donny's up to in the world at https://linktr.ee/chiefdonnyszn

Why DO we do what we do? Today we're talking about the things that make us us, what motivates and moves us, what causes an opinion to form and how best to understand and empathize with the journey another person has taken to get them where you meet them now, so we can see from their perspective a bit more clearly.

As promised today on the show we have my step-mom, founder of PowHERhouse Impact Media Charlene SanJenko giving a shoutout to moms and motherhood, talking about having a friendship with your kids as adults and sharing a few stories between us!  Hope you all had a safe, happy mother's day out there and we'll catch you with our usual programming next week!

Thank you to everyone who submitted a story to make this compilation possible. Within we have ten minutes of stories, memories and appreciation from mothers and daughters, mentors and mentees. Hope all our moms, step-moms, single moms and single dads, foster and adoptive moms all had an amazing Mother's day!

We're talking today about creating your reality through the lens of perspective. We go through a great many experiences in our lives, some positive and some negative. But the way we view those experiences can change our present from 'man, I wish...' to 'I'm so lucky I learned that lesson when I did.' So what's the difference? Let's talk about it!

Do you remember hearing that? As a young person people asked me all the time what I want to be when I grow up. The pressure to BE something is so strong sometimes that people settle for jobs and things they don't enjoy. I'm joined today by our friend Marcus to talk about BEING, purpose, doing what you love, and so much more! Check Marcus out at twitch.tv/marc_mywords and his own podcast at anchor....

After an awesome weekend talking about WHY to help ourselves, we thought it'd be great to talk about HOW to help yourself. Even if our purpose in life is to help others, we have to be whole to put ourselves healthily aside and focus on the needs of others first, and we have to help ourselves become whole. So how do we start? Well, let's talk about it!

We've talked a bit about fatigue before but it felt apt to talk about burnout today as we both get into busier and busier phases of our work lives, trying to consolidate work, home lives, social lives and time for ourselves.

When we think about language, we often think only about the words we say to others, but not so much about the words we say to ourselves. This week we're talking about language, fear-based thinking and how language can open up doors, or shut them. Let's talk about it!

Some of us remember starting a diary as kids, jotting down our thoughts for the day, what we wanted for Christmas, how annoying our teachers were. After about a week those diaries wound up in the trash, or in a drawer never to be seen again. But here on the podcast we talk often, and enthusiastically, about journaling. Ben is a big supporter of journaling as a means of self-discovery, and we wante...

What began as a conversation about motivation and discipline turned into one about trust and faith. As we get into spring and the prospect of hitting the beaches nears, a lot of people are getting back into their diets and exercise kicks. But how do we make our goals happen, how do we see through what we mean to do? I thought it came down to discipline, but Ben would suggest otherwise, and after h...

Coming off our huge hour-long conversation with our friend Marcus, it's a smaller episode today but just as important. We're talking today about help - specifically, the help that works. For me, the help that's worked has been therapy and medication. For Ben, it's been reflection and journalling. Everyone heals differently, so rather than focusing on what's worked for everyone else, it's important...

Joined by our first guest, Marcus Richardson, Ben and I chat with this Twitch streamer and podcaster about life, dating, confidence and, you guessed it, happiness. Check out links to Marcus' stream and podcast below and enjoy what is possibly the longest episode we've had to date! He was just such a great guest. https://anchor.fm/marc-mywords https://www.twitch.tv/marc_mywords

This week we're talking about happiness maintenance and how to go about taking those moments that might otherwise bring our day down and changing the way we look at them and how we deal with them. We'll chat about some methods for bringing our happiness back up, so we can be happy all day, every day!

There are certain obstacles we know we'll have to face in our day to day. The kids might be slow to get out of bed every morning, or we know traffic will be crazy by the time we get out of the house. If we take each day piece by piece, these things will cause problems for us every day, potentially affecting our happiness. If we can plan for them, we can move into the day confident. By visualizing...

We've all had moments of great success in our lives where it feels like we can conquer just about anything. If we look back and take note of those successes, those moments of triumph, we can recreate that state to have an impact similarly on our every day lives. This week, we discuss visualizing the best versions of ourselves and what it takes to make it a reality. Leverydayet's talk about it!

You've found the line and taken note of it, you've given yourself a break in the day to take stock of your happiness - now what? The next piece of the puzzle is acknowledging the qualities that make you unique and make you great in and of yourself, so that whatever comes your way you know it isn't a reflection of your person. So how do we do that? Let's talk about it!

So last week we talked about happiness, staying above the line and how to be aware of how we feel. This week we're talking about how to make all of that happen, and it starts first thing. Grounding yourself in what you want to feel, in joy and happiness and love, will set the mood for your whole day so that staying above the line is even easier - maybe even normal in time.

In today's episode, we're talking about happiness again but on a more day to day level in terms of managing the way that we feel. How conscious are we of the way we're feeling every day, and are we acting like we control our emotions, or like our emotions control us?

The follow-up to last week's conversation, this week we're talking about clarity. So you've overcome the problem by focusing on the solution, but how do we keep from getting stuck in a cycle of problem and solution when what we really want is a sense of ease? Today, we talk about how clarity can be the answer to an overall simplified life - or one of them.

It's so easy to get wrapped up in the problems we face in our day to day. The kids are late to school, our car won't start, the dog ate another shoe - things compound quickly until we're stuck in a loop and it becomes impossible to see the solution. This week, we talk about how to hone in on the answer to our problems instead of letting ourselves wander around blinded by issues. Let's talk about i...

We can get blue at any time of year, but the holidays can be especially bad. This year has been unlike any other and we're all in it together, but many of us are alone. In this episode, we talk about how to get through lonely times now and all through the year!

What can make a lot of people hard is beginning gentle and being pushed through all manner of trial. Bullying, abuse, the ever-present push to fit some shape that they don't belong. How does a man with an easy nature, a gentle soul or a kind heart make it in the world and preserve himself? How does he hang on to what makes him great without being changed by societal pressures and, sometimes, famil...

Life is the longest thing we'll do(obv) but it really isn't that long. What we do with the time we have can make our lives feel shorter or longer. How much time do you spend really savouring the moment, savouring your life and the time you have? Could you spare more? Let's talk about it!