Living Connected - NVC

When we debriefed after the episode with Eric on acknowledging impact, Eric brought up a concern he had with Kyle and we had the recording from the zoom call. Kyle and I will replay Eric’s concern and discuss what happen. We will also talk about how we were feeling in the moment it happened. Living connected listeners you get to witness an example of how NVC could be used in a friendly/business ty...

Blame can be damaging to our inner soul and to the people around us. Blaming ourselves can lead us down a rabbit whole that can be hard to get out. Giving ourselves grace and compassion instead helps feed our growth mind-set. At the same time, blame can actually be a helpful strategy to get us out of an abusive situation. Blame can bring an awareness that we don’t have our needs met and blame can...

Bryn Hazell joins us today as a special guest on Living Connected. She is our NVC Leader here in Bend Oregon and continues to lead our NVC practice group over Zoom. Bryn has been practicing NVC over 20 yrs. She has had the honor of seeing Marshall live and has been to many NVC trainings. Before the pandemic Bryn had been working in a male prison and holding a NVC program for the inmates. We are ex...

Our society influences how we see the world and sometimes what we say or do can be received differently than intended. Negative impact can happen to anyone in all sorts of situations. How do we respond, or mend if we have impacted someone negatively? Is there a way to build trust back and communicate effectively? Kyle and I role-play a situation that demonstrates acknowledging impact. Eric is our...

I can’t begin to tell you how much there is to the emotion Anger. We all have a relationship with anger whether it is suppressed or very much alive.  I can tell you right now that we won’t be able to cover all of it. Anger is an unpleasant feeling that a lot of us see as a negative emotion because it can be harmful to ourselves or others in a emotional or physical way. Kyle and I want to bring mor...

Do you need some help on how to listen in a deeper meaningful way when talking about hard conversations? Listening is so very hard. And the way our society has learned to listen doesn’t help people feel heard. When we pause, this allows for us to find what is alive in us (our feelings and needs) and it allows the other person to empty all that is alive inside of them. This episode has many tips an...

We dive in with Kristen to talk about her experiences with race and how we can be mindful of our own racism. Being accountable for what we say to people of color and how impactful it can be. How do you restore and fix what you said to this person. How can we be better for the future. We all need to be apart of this change that we want to see in the world. NVC might be able to shine some light on h...

Description: Needs VS Strategies is a Key Distinction in NVC. All of the behaviors we do are attempts to meet our needs. We have strategies that meet those needs. Sometimes our strategies don't necessarily work and disconnect us from the other person or ourselves. Kyle and I explore how this concept works or may not and how needs and strategies can be interchangeable. We have to remember that...

This episode is an emotional one. Grief can come in many different ways and the losses we have endured in our life time can become overwhelming. I have broken up with my bf. He was very dear to my heart and still is. Life is messy and vulnerable sometimes. Life cannot be happy all the time. Kyle and I lean into grief and explore ways on how we work through tough times. We find needs and feelings t...

KIDS EPISODE!! This is a children friendly episode. I understand that the episode might be too long for some younger listeners. Feel free to listen in two chunks if that helps the attention span. We will be giving examples of judgements other kids have come up with and sharing them.  We will discuss what the kiddos might be feeling, needing and some alternative growth mindset statements that might...

Being giraffe is sometimes called Being compassion and Doing giraffe is sometimes called Doing Compassion. We are going to talk about what it looks like Being a Giraffe and what it looks like Doing Giraffe. We will role-play a scenario of what it sounds like doing giraffe. To give heads up, I have exaggerated the conversation playing the role as my dad.   In NVC Being Giraffe is Being honest towar...

We are going to talk about the judgements or the jackals we have with ourselves and towards others. Judgements are the criticisms we hear, the blame we put on others, put-downs, labels, and or insults. Judgments sometimes are the actions that we think someone is doing something to us. Marshal says, “judgements are a tragic expression of an unmet need.” Kyle and I take our judgements and find the f...

I called Kyle to do an Emergency Empathy Buddy with me and because it was last minute he didn’t have his normal mic with him. Thank you for understanding that this episodes sound quality isn’t the best. We hope you bear with us and can still get an idea of how to give empathy to someone who is in need and in high stress. This episode is about me (Kady) getting a text from landlord that said I will...

There are some sayings in our life that we hear that end up defining certain people. We want to unravel 3 of these identifying sayings and reveal what our feelings and needs are. We have, the don’t ask don’t tell, the people pleasers and the nice dead person. We will discuss how these might affect us in our daily lives and how we can train our brain to connect with our heart. Email: Livingconnecte...

We are going to talk about how sometimes we just don’t have the capacity for the people in our lives. When our capacity or our tank is empty and that person comes to us needing to vent and be heard It can be really hard when we don’t have it in us to give the empathy we would like.  How do we go about giving empathy when we feel depleted ourselves? Does our support come off authentically when we a...

We are discussing in depth about how thoughts create feelings. What type of thoughts we have and how it can lead to the feelings that arise in us. Can we sit with those feelings and figure out what our needs are. Will that help calm our feelings down? This episode may help in supporting what is going on in the heart vs what stories or thoughts our mind is coming up with. Email: Livingconnected.nvc...

We are going to be talking about Do-able requests of our selves and of others. There comes a time when you may be in a very difficult situation and you don’t know how to ask for what you want. We are going to take you through some examples of what do-able requests look like and what a demand looks like. In nonviolent communication there is a difference when asking for what you want, it’s how you s...

We will be discussing why it is much better to ride with the giraffe in front of the bike and the jackal taking the back seat. How we may be able to live with both in harmony. What does the quote “Living with the Jackal and feeding the connection” mean when it comes to NVC? How do we feed connection and is there is a way to keep the Jackal from back-seat driving. Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.c...

This episode is helping new listeners of Nonviolent Communication to get a better understanding of this style of communicating. We also will be introducing ourselves and how we came across Nonviolent Communication. Enjoy! Marshall Rosenberg is the founder of NVC and has a Ph. D in Clinical Psychology. His book we refer to is called "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing...