Lessons from a Quitter

As long as you tell yourself the lie that you don't know what you want, you'll stay stuck exactly where you are. You do know what you want. You're just scared to admit it to yourself. Because once you admit, then you actually have to take action. But there is power in admitting it to yourself. It allows you to get out of all the confusion and overwhelm that keeps you spinning for years and actuall...

We often think that our thoughts are not only "true" but "realistic." So we tell ourselves things like "this probably won't work," "I have no idea how to do this," and "this is way too hard," in order to not be delusional.   In today's episode, I'm going to show you how that not only creates the result of you not figuring it out but also creates a life that is small and unenjoyable.  I'm a big bel...

We're all doing too much. Busy has become a badge of honor. And as we continue to run on the hamster wheel to get ALL THE THINGS done, we miss out on this one precious life we have. No more. The goal is not to get more done. The goal is to have less to do. Without guilt. That's what I teach you on the podcast this week. 

Balancing all of the thoughts around your career is already hard enough, throw kids into that mix and it can feel like you're constantly drowning.  The guilt of feeling like you're always dropping some balls. The resentment of never having any time for yourself. The exhaustion of always taking care of someone or something else.  This week on the podcast, I'm going to show you how thought work help...

This week, we tackle a big topic in high-achieving communities like this one: Imposter Syndrome. So many of my clients, who have years of experience, degrees, great reviews, insane accomplishments, still believe the lie that they have no idea what they're doing. Why is that? This episode tackles why we hold on to the thoughts causing Imposter Syndrome so tightly and how to start loosening that gri...

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 76: From Lawyer to Chocolate Maker: How Shawn Askinosie Found His Calling. Sure, quitting is easy if you've always hated your job. But what if you used to love it? What if you loved it for many years? What if you were really, really good at it? I'm so excited about this week's episode with the amazing Shawn Askinosie. Shawn walked away from a very success...

One of the skills I see people struggling with the most–and one I struggled with for years–is making decisions. And the reason people struggle is because they're focused on the wrong thing. You're focused on guaranteeing the outcome you want which is impossible. Instead, I want you to focus on the reasons you're making the decision. When you're clear on what your reasons are and you actually like...

This week, we dive into the new viral trend of Quiet Quitting and why it's a problematic term. Quiet Quitting is a trend on social media where people stop going above and beyond their job descriptions and instead only do what they're paid to do.  This is, in no way, quitting.  And it's harmful to call it that because it operates under the assumption that the employee is doing something wrong when...

This is Part 3 of a 3-part series on Toxic Work Environments.  The term "toxic" is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It's hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don't like.  In this series, I'll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.  Part 1 dealt...

This is Part 2 of a 3-part series on Toxic Work Environments.  The term "toxic" is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It's hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don't like.  In this series, I'll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.  Last episode...

This is part 1 of a 3-part series on toxic work environments.  The term "toxic" is thrown around so often that it has all but lost its meaning. It's hard to know what truly is toxic and what is something we just don't like.  In this series, I'll dive into how to start discerning what is toxic, what you have control over and how to think about your career in a way that will serve you.  This episode...

If you only look to your past, at what you've already achieved, in order to determine what you're capable of achieving in the future, you'll only get the same results you already have. That's why so many people limit their dreams. They think that all that is possible are things that they already have evidence for. But–here is the thing–your past only exists in your mind. It does not dictate what i...

We all know how to work hard to achieve things but we're terrible at actually enjoying them. That's because our society loves to glorify hard work but shame the people who have anything– rest, joy, money, pleasure, food. So we think we want those things, we hustle to get them, and then we're wracked with guilt when we actually have them.  Learning to have is a skill and, on today's episode, I teac...

When we start thinking about career change, we tend to jump into overdrive and want to change everything in the next couple of months. But then we get overwhelmed by all the things that need to be changed. On today's episode, I teach you how to use 5-year plans to get past that overwhelm and figure out exactly what it is you want to do. When you can slow yourself down enough to see that all you ne...

This week I want to talk to you about why sometimes you just need to throw yourself the party. You should always make time to celebrate yourself and since I always want to be an example for you, I'm throwing a party next week and you're invited!

This week I want to talk to you about being selfish. This is kind of a hot topic but I want to argue that you can't help others until you help yourself. Really tuning into your needs and asking what you can do to move yourself a little closer to what you want every day is not a big lift. So if you're always putting everyone else's needs before yours and always putting yourself last, give this epis...

On this week's episode, I'm sharing the lessons I learned from our month in Wyoming. Some of these are lessons I've been learning and relearning for awhile and one totally blew me away.

On this week's episode, I talk with Kathryn Finney, a former Yale-trained epidemiologist turned blogger turned investor and philanthropist. Before Wordpress even existed and you had to print out photos and then scan and upload them online, Kathryn created her blog, The Budget Fashionista. After running that for many years, she sold the blog and founded digitalundivided, a social enterprise focused...

On this week's episode, I talk with Zubin Pratap, a recovering lawyer turned entrepreneur turned software engineer. After over 14 years in international corporate law, Zubin went into commercial roles and then eventually taught himself to code at 37 and became a software engineer at Google at 39.  Today he is still working as an engineer and educator and spends nights and weekends privately coachi...

This week, I dive into emotional maturity. Most of us live in emotional childhood, meaning we want everyone else to fix how we feel. Spoiler alert: there's a bit of tough love coming so prepare yourself. I like to use the analogy of a car accident. If you get hit by a car, the accident is not your fault but it's your responsibility to do the work to heal, to go through PT. Life is not fair. You wi...

This week on the podcast I have three of my current students join me to talk about the program. I can only sell you on the program so much and so I thought it would be helpful to hear it directly from the people in it. Each one of these ladies came in with different problems seeking different paths and yet, thought work and working on mindset has changed each of their lives in a big way. If you've...

This week I want to talk to you about why it's okay to change your mind. Part of my brand is wanting to change the connotation around quitting because all quitting is is just changing your mind. Can you imagine if we forced ourselves to stick with things we liked when we were younger the way we do with our careers? Your favorite food at 6 years old was ice cream so that's your favorite food for th...

This week I want to talk to you about why you should go after those big, scary goals. I've already done an episode on destination addiction so you should know that the reason isn't because of what you'll get when you accomplish the goal. There's more to it than just the outcome. So this week I want to offer that it's the journey, not the destination, that's worth it.

Too often, we're stuck in automatic thinking. Our brain just adopts the beliefs and thoughts it was fed from society. It becomes unconscious. Just a repetitive loop of thoughts in the background of our head. But if we're going to create the lives that we truly want to live we have to learn how to think on purpose. Whenever I teach thought work, I often get questions like "okay, I have the thought...

This week I want to talk to you about boundaries. I've been getting a lot of questions on the free monthly coaching calls, people saying do I just tolerate bad behavior and manage my mind around it? And I think it's really important that we get clear on what boundaries are and what boundaries are not, where to set them and what will likely happen after you set the boundary. So this week I want to...