Inside Job with Vee and Pam

This week Pam and Vee chat about perfectionism (we're both recovering perfectionists). We talk about how it feels in our bodies, how it presents to people around us, and maybe most importantly, how it can impact our choices and decisions for years to come. Pam shares one of her most life changing experiences of perfectionism. And we share some thoughts on realizing that while it may be a part...

This week we are so pleased to welcome Brian Luna, a longevity wellness coach who shares his powerful story. Listen to his talk with Pam to find out how he went from "not the best part of LA" (his words) to college, Korea, and Spain and about his many awakenings to truer versions of himself in the world. We hope you enjoy this conversation! To learn more about Luna and his work, you can...

This week on episode 103 of Inside Job with Vee and Pam, Vee shares some thoughts on ways we might play the cards we're dealt when life gets real. We hope you enjoy this one-woman episode.  For more information about the offerings from V L'Bassi Transformational Coaching, you can find the links here: Schedule a free 3-card reading ! Try a mini coaching session ! For more details, visit V...

This week, Vee and Pam share our thoughts on hope in times of difficulty. When life feels dark and uncertain, it's easy to lose sight of hope. Yet it's always available to us, like the sun behind the clouds. We talk about the fact that life is not always great or even okay - challenges and struggle come to each of us. The point is not to avoid these dips in the path, but rather to decide...

Welcome to episode 101 of Inside Job with Vee and Pam! This week we're talking about thinking vs embodying, specifically related to the inner critic. Vee shares a recent experience that triggered her inner critic and we discuss the  idea  of taking action vs the  reality   of taking action. Pam talks about the inner critic's job and asks, what makes being seen so difficult? This week&apo...

Welcome to OUR 100TH EPISODE OF INSIDE JOB WITH VEE AND PAM!! Today we're reflecting on what the past 100 weeks have brought us - almost two years! Pam and Vee share some of what we've learned, what has surprised us, what we've integrated, and what continues to inspire us to keep leaning in, opening to change, and leading with love. We hope you enjoy this conversation!  For more inf...

This week we're talking about "best" - doing our best vs what's best for us. Vee and Pam share some personal experiences and ask, who decides what's best? And for whom - ourselves or someone else? We talk about "should" - the real S word - along with resistance, discernment, self leadership, and living wholly by being on our own side. The big question is, what&ap...

This week Pam and Vee are excited to bring back Jim Graziano, fellow coach, owner of Zen Laundry Coaching. We're digging in deeper and continuing our conversation about Living BIG, with boundaries, integrity, and generosity.  As Jim so eloquently put it, "...it's not necessarily something that's instinctual or comfortable... What I am grateful for in this understanding about bo...

This week, we're continuing to dig into Brene Brown's concept of Living BIG - with boundaries, integrity, and generosity. Pam and Vee ask the question: is everyone doing their best? We share our own past experiences with judgment of others, which (surprise!) has really been about judging ourselves. We talk about giving our best when we're not  at our best. Here's the thing: rec...

This week, we're talking about living BIG, an acronym borrowed from Brene Brown's work and her book, "Rising Strong." Vee and Pam talk about what it really takes to create change in our lives, and relate the BIG acronym - boundaries, integrity, generosity - to our discussion last week about Pam's experiences in the month of January. The bottom line: doing this work is WORK...

Especially when we feel good, it's easy to fall into old patterns - but at what cost? Expectations, emotions, actions and interactions can all pull at our energy until before we know it, we're drained. Then we're less than our best, and we snap or crack or withdraw. How can we stop this cycle? By boosting our capacity through self care and awareness, lowering expectations to realist...

Welcome to episode 94 0f Inside Job with Vee and Pam. This week we're having one more conversation about Word of the Year. We've already shared our histories with this exercise (ep 92) and the process (ep 93). This discussion is about our words from 2022 and how they impacted and informed each of us throughout the year. We also share our words for this year - Vee is still uncomfortable w...

Welcome to episode 93 of Inside Job with Vee and Pam! We're having another continued conversation. After Pam and Vee share our joys, we dive in to talk more about the practice called Word of the Year. This week we're sharing more about the process and we've included links below to help you get started if this feels like a practice you'd like to try. Even better, share it with s...

As we step closer to the end of December, we're talking about what happens  after  the hoopla around December 25th. Our focus this week is on a practice we both enjoy: discovering our Word of the Year. This can be done at any time - it's not just for December/January - and as we wrap up the calendar year it feels especially exciting, you could say a last gift of the season. Pam and Vee s...

This week we're wrapping up our series on joy. Vee and Pam talk about simple pleasures and cultivating joy by consciously choosing more of what makes us feel, well,  joyful. We offer some of Brene Brown's writing on joy from her book, "Atlas of the Heart,"   and some of Byron Katie's work around truth and honesty. Ultimately, we talk about trusting ourselves enough to take...

This week we begin by sharing moments of joy from the past week! Then Vee and Pam talk about our experiences with toxic positivity, not from others but from within ourselves. We share the phrases we used that had good intentions and still were insensitive and misleading. Constant forced positivity can be a bypass to addressing our own growth. And pretending that joy is all there is can lead us to...

This week Pam and Vee are continuing the conversation about joy. Vee shares some of her first experiences in understanding that it's possible to reclaim our joy, and that it's a conscious decision to do so. She talks about some of the ways that she began to offer this work to help women start to unravel the stories they were carrying. These shifts have led women to reclaim their joy and,...

This week, Vee and Pam start an ongoing conversation about cultivating joy. Vee talks about her exploration of reclaiming joy and how it relates to our power of choice. She shares experiences with grief and anger that let to learning how to forgive. She offers the idea that we can make room for joy by allowing ourselves to feel the full spectrum of emotions. Ultimately, joy is never lost to us - i...

We're officially entering the holiday season and - fair warning! - there are some big feels   joining the party. This week, Vee offers some honest, vulnerable reflections on the holiday season. She shares some family and holiday memories that bring up stories about expectations, outcomes, and desires. Vee and Pam talk about what we truly want in this holiday season - cultivating joy in connec...

When you hear the phrase, "skating by," what do you picture? Olympic level ice dancing? Sidewalk skateboarding? Rollerblading on the boulevard? Okay - but what if we're talking about you, or about me, and we don't know how to skate? Sometimes, "skating by" means barely making it, holding on tight and hoping for the best. This week, Pam and Vee talk about what it feels...

This week, Vee is going solo. She shares her thoughts on clarity - what it is, why it's important - and then talks a bit about how she uses oracle cards to help people find clarity in any aspect of their lives.  For more information about the offerings from V L'Bassi Transformational Coaching, you can find the links here: Schedule a free 3-card reading ! Try a mini coaching session ! For...

We're wrapping up our series on practical self love. If you haven't heard our earlier conversations on this, please go back to episode 81 from October 14th and start there. When does 2+2=0? When we believe our goal is endless perfection. The relentless pressure of perfectionism leaves very little room for joy and instead creates a breeding ground for self judgment and sadness. This week...

This week we're continuing our conversation about practical self love with Pam Davis. We started this back in episode 81, so be sure you go back and listen to catch all the goodness! Pam and Vee talk about ways that we set ourselves up for disappointment with heavy self judgment and unrealistic expectations. Pam shares more of her quest for self love and offers another of her "road buddy...

Welcome back! We're continuing the conversation with Pam Davis, hope warrior, and she's got more wisdom to share. This week we're talking about how Pam's self love journey unfolded in the beginning. We reflect on shame and the inner critic, and how we cover these up and put a good face on our struggles. One thing to remember: others can offer us support and guidance along the w...

This week we're starting an ongoing discussion about practical self love. It's a topic a lot of people talk about, in an abstract way, but how do we do it?? Pam Davis, our resident hope warrior, shares the beginning of her own self love journey. We talk about how she got from an intangible idea to practical actions. Pam shares the limiting beliefs that had stifled her for decades when sh...