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You have to hear Mike's story. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn. Contact Mike for coaching at polarlifeconsulting@gmail.com Mike also facilitates a free private group for male...

How can I know if I was sexually abused, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter answers these important questions while opening up about his own early sexual experiences... and how resolving sexual confusion helped him find freedom from gay porn. Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and professor of psychology. He and his spouse, Mary Carpenter, LMSW are the...

What is healing prayer? What is it (not) about? What can we expect from it? This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is interested in healing prayer, because Leslie Weinzettel offers incredibly helpful guidance on how to pray for one another in a way that is truly healing.  Leslie Weinzettel has been practicing and growing in the ministry of healing prayer for the last 17 years. As a former st...

In this episode, Alex VanHouten shares wisdom about exercise, nutrition, and physical fitness while keeping God at the center of it all. Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a health coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer for the past 16 years. He is the owner and founder of the Betterment Company and the Better Daily App ....

How can physical fitness help you outgrow porn? In this episode, professional trainer Alex VanHouten explains why and how strengthening your body can strengthen your sexual integrity. Along the way, Alex shares a wealth of insights from science, Scripture, and his own story of freedom. Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a he...

Find out why northern elephant seals are my favorite animal, and how they have helped me unlearn self-contempt. More About Elephant Seals: "Seven Things That May Surprise You About Elephant Seals!" (article by Valerie Shore) Friends Of The Elephant Seal (check out their Live Beach Cam) More Resources To Outgrow Porn: Husband Material Community Husband Material Coaching Husband Material C...

What if everything you’ve been taught about sex has set you up for disappointment? In this episode, Sheila Wray Gregoire explains how sex can become truly great—for both partners. She also unpacks the harmful teachings of "Every Man's Battle" and challenges husbands to make love, not just intercourse! Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com , the largest sin...

When is nudity appropriate for men outgrowing porn? How can nudity become healing rather than harmful? In this episode, I will be vulnerable about my own experiences with nudity, and share what I have learned. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day. Sign up now at husbandmateria...

We live in a sports-centric culture. Have you ever felt like less of a man because of this? If you sometimes measure your masculinity based on athletic performance, this episode is for you. Stephen Thomas will explain the concept of "sports wounds," the 3 types of sports wounds, and how to heal so you can become more confident and secure as a man! Stephen Thomas is a husband and father w...

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is not selfish, and how to prepare for stress during the holidays! Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching . He is also the Director of Care & Support at Husband Material, and a Certified Husband Material Coach. Email Marcus at m...

Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths:  1. Forgiveness is not permission.  2. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice. 3. Forgiveness is not a moment. It's a process. 4. Forgiveness is not easy or free. It's costly. 5. Forgiveness is not a burden. It's a gift. "Be kind to one an...

Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orphan spirit"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and the power of our true identity: Beloved Sons Of The Most High King.  Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the cre...

The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and freedom to every part of us... including any parts attached to pornography and other unwanted behaviors. Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is also teaching faculty for the Internat...

If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara. How Jesus Reverses The Curse:  A Case Study From The Life Of Peter  Sermon on John 21 by Drew Boa  Sunday, October 10th, 2021  The Rupture: Peter's unfinished business with Jesus The Repair: Jesus confronts Peter with compassion The Rede...

Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and what it looks like to rediscover healthy play as an adult man. Dr. Michael Crocker is the founder and director of The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project as well as a private practitioner. Michael provides direct clinical services that address tr...

Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry! Matthew Ray Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional who has published a book of poetry (this is a paid link): Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers . Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. You can email him...

Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our struggles with comparison... and the powerful antidote of belovedness! Dr. Michael Tso is a Family Medicine Doctor at Alliance Clinical Associates in Wheaton, Illinois. Michael specializes in mental health care with a whole person approach that integra...

How does porn (mis)educate us? What exactly does it teach? In this episode, I'll share the 5 As of porn, the 2 core messages, and how to experience sexual re-education. Resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links): The Psychology Of Porn , by Andrew Bauman Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality , by Gail Dines You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This...

"Sexual discipleship is teaching people HOW to think about sexuality, not WHAT to think about sexuality." In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps us rethink sexuality according to the story of God, rather than the toxic sexual narratives of porn and purity culture. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy . She is also...

How does enmeshment with a parent lead to sexual brokenness? And how can we heal from it? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams will inspire you to break free from inappropriate loyalty so you can regain your passion and purpose in life. Dr. Ken Adams is a world-renowned therapist and expert on enmeshment, covert incest, shame, abuse, and sex addiction. Learn more about Dr. Adams and the Mother-Enmeshed...

Do your sexual fantasies ever feel confusing or disturbing? Have you ever wondered why they are so powerful, or how they work? In this episode, you will learn my exact formula for interpreting sexual fantasies. If you don't understand your fantasies, you will have a love/hate relationship with them. However, sexual fantasies lose much of their power when you learn how to interpret them. You c...

Attachment is at the core of who we are, why we struggle, and how we heal. Dr. Jake Porter explains attachment in a way that is powerful, practical, and personal. Listening to this episode is insightful and delightful! Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Couple-Centered Recovery, a model for treating attachment wounds of couples experiencing the trauma of betrayal. Jake is a Christian psychotherapis...

Get wisdom on how to practically build brotherhood with 2-3 other men. At Husband Material, we call groups of 3 men "triads." In this episode, you'll learn why we recommend triads over accountability partners, how to form your own triad, and what real men in 3 different triads are currently doing to help each other heal. 3 Ways To Form A Triad: Join the Husband Material Community (f...

Why is it so hard to make friends with other men? How can we go deep and get close without getting inappropriate? What about physical touch? Many of us never learned these things. If you long for deep, satisfying brotherhood in Christ, this episode is for you. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy pro...

Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answer these questions with sharp insights from neuroscience and Scripture. Dopamine & Norepinephrine = anticipation and arousal Oxytocin & Vasopressin = bonding and mate selection Serotonin & Prolactin = soothing relaxation and sleep If you...