Help for Loving Relationships

Send us Fan Mail They foster connection, create a sense of belonging, and reinforce shared values.   Shane shares some of his own family traditions as well as from asking others what traditions were meaningful to them.   He reminds the listeners to stay tuned to 2025 where the theme will be happiness.  What are the ingredients for a happy life.  He is open to guests submitting their nominee for so...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling burned out at home? Not getting the love and support you need? Does your marriage need some work? Coach Shiloh Minor talks with Shane about boundaries self-care being more generous with yourself  noticing the energy you give out, and finding the right time to ask for what you need They make a HUGE difference in what you bring to your relationship and getting the love you n...

Send us Fan Mail After the anger, grief, mourning, and loss, is there really hope for a relationship after a betrayal? Kate Conwell gives us a resounding "Yes!" Listen as she & Shane delve into the 3 stages of healing: Safety & stabilization Anger, grief. . . all the feelings Post-traumatic growth Getting support with a group really accelerates healing, both for men and women. Yo...

Send us Fan Mail A decade-long journey to heal from PTSD, depression, and addiction took travel writer Brad Wetzler to the Holy Land, India, and the Himalayas. While immersed in nature, spirituality, and relationships with people (and dogs), Brad discovered himself. Self-compassion was a big healer: "When I softened the way I spoke to myself, I began to emerge, and began to feel more connecte...

Send us Fan Mail The podcast will be on break from at least July - Sept.  Related to that, I am excited to announce a new online course coming soon: Heroic Healing: A Couples' Guide to Healing from Betrayal/Infidelity This is my first time developing an online course.  I am uncertain how much time it will require.   I may take a longer break than just summer months if I need the time for cour...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever gotten annoyed at someone else, only to later realize it mirrored something in yourself that irritates you? Or noticed a pattern in some relationships that went south? "You take yourself wherever you go," says life coach Deb Blum, who focuses on helping women in the second half of their lives to cultivate a relationship with themselves that they can love. S...

Send us Fan Mail Lori Beard focuses on 7 steps of personal development.   Today we dive deeper into negative perceptions and how to reframe these so they do not sabotage your life: Lori shares how her perception of not feeling good enough as a child to keep her parents together in marriage impacted her self-esteem and views on love.  She explores how she experienced difficulties in forming and mai...

Send us Fan Mail As an executive coach, Jelena Simpson leans heavily on the DISC personality assessment to help leaders understand their strengths and areas for improvement in working with their teams. And connecting with them is crucial, she says, because it keeps employees who value security and low conflict from "quiet quitting." She also points out that leadership is not simply a pos...

Send us Fan Mail A dedicated mindset transformation coach specializing in trauma and abuse recovery, Shirley Buck draws from her own remarkable journey to help others. As an energy healer, she understands the intricate connection between mind, body, and spirit. Her personal healing has deepened her understanding of the transformative power of energy work and its ability to facilitate profound emot...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered what going to an intensive 5-day therapy retreat is like? Shane reviews his experience at the Green Shoe Retreat , which focuses on healing the pain from childhood dysfunction in your family of origin. You might joke that "Our family put the 'fun' in 'dysfunction'," but in real life it can lead to problems with self-esteem, boun...

Send us Fan Mail Jacob Hess is lead author of The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-day Saints . With Phil Neisser, he wrote You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong , and is a former board member of the National Coalition of Dialogue & Deliberation. Jacob’s life work is dedicated to making space for thoughtful, good-hearted people to find understanding (and affecti...

Send us Fan Mail Taking the time to reflect on what you're grateful for and writing down your thoughts both require the ability to detach from the inner dialogues in your brain, and with practice bring a host of therapeutic benefits. Shane details many in this short episode: improves awareness of perceptions & events in your life helps you prioritize problems, concerns, fears & goals...

Send us Fan Mail Shane recently completed a training by APSATS (Association of Partner's of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists.  He shares some best practices for healing betrayal based on this healing.   1.  Safety and Stabilization 2.  Remembering and Mourning 3.  Reconnecting and Reinventing Shane offers ideas and resources for healing and recovery based on his 15 years of experience in this s...

Send us Fan Mail Guest Heidi Hastings is a sex and marriage researcher, educator, and advocate. She details the 5 stages women go through in trying to heal from a betrayal: Innocence/naivete Crisis Aftermath Healing Transformation  "Women need women for healing," she says. Her research found that support groups were very helpful, not only in the crisis stage, but all the way through tran...

Send us Fan Mail Kayla started singing along side her father on stage at the young age of 2.  Over the years she has brought her music to school assemblies, worship services, and  recently recorded her 2nd album entitled,  "All Things New."  Kayla's Christian faith has been very meaningful to her life and her music.  Kayla explains that her style of music is to tell  a story that ca...

Send us Fan Mail The lawsuit against Meta for allegedly harming teens with their addictive platforms. Opioids. Online porn. Addiction, and the resulting loss, touches us all at some time.  Shane talks about the accusations that Facebook & Instagram harm teens’ mental health. He also gets into how addiction harms generally and how society can better support people in recovery. Last of all, he o...

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes family dynamics can increase stress during holiday gatherings.  Shane offers 7 tips to help you better navigate these reunions and reduce drama.  The second half of the podcast Shane gives a sneak preview into episodes for 2024.  Thanks to all of you for being supportive listeners of the show!

Send us Fan Mail Romaree's journey in her Jewish faith took a winding road—from feeling disconnected with her Reform upbringing in El Paso to renewed interest while experiencing antisemitism in Germany. She was in college when she decided to go to Israel to attend an Orthodox seminary for girls—an experience that led her to greater spirituality and connection with her faith. Now practicing a...

Send us Fan Mail "He created you all from a single soul." How does this tenet from Islamic theology change the way we think about our relationships? A faithful Ismaili Muslim, Almas Muscatwalla explains that it helps to diffuse conflict if we see the other as having an equal right to their opinion.  And no force. "No mother is going to drag their child to jamatkhana [for local worsh...

Send us Fan Mail Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Aaron & Julie Bujnowski share how insights gained from prayer and personal revelation  informed big decisions: Should we move?  How should we tackle cancer treatment?   They offer many other spiritual insights about personal development, loving relationships and how worship in the temple brings a spiritual power that c...

Send us Fan Mail 1) Don't lie. How honesty heals 2) Have patience with self, spouse, and recovery. (Research shows it's a 1-5 year process) 3) Seek help. Involve >3 others in your healing journey 4) Improve your distress tolerance. Addiction is really about emotional management 5) Take full responsibility 6) Be proactive, be transparent, and fight for your spouse's heart! These a...

Send us Fan Mail I am taking a break from releasing new episodes for July, August and September! August is my daughter Noel's wedding September-October is Recovery Foundations: Pathway to Hope with Janice Caudill.   This is  6 week intensive designed for couples focusing on betrayal trauma, problematic sexual behavior and broken trust in marriage.   To learn more go to this link: https://inte...

Send us Fan Mail What does a healthy relationship look like? What are signs of an abusive relationship? What do you know about the LGBTQ community? Starting conversations with your teens about what's already in their minds and going on around them can be eye-opening and the increased communication helps your relationship. Find out more from EducateEmpowerKids.org , follow on Instagram @eduemp...

Send us Fan Mail Are you waiting for your kids to start the conversation? Don’t! Dina Alexander, author of multiple books for parents, urges you to “Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Our kids are being exposed to a thousand percent more sexualized media than you & I ever were. And because of that, we need to be proactive and allow our kids to know they have the freedom to talk to us. “...

Send us Fan Mail Brian Schoepf and Jen Rodriguez purchased Crossfit Slake in March of 2020.  The timing couldn't have been worse. They found a way to survive the challenges with Covid and built a thriving crossfit community over the past 3 years.   In this episode, they share their wisdom of focusing on both fitness and building a community. Learn more about Crossfit Slake by going to their w...