Healing Myself

We believe that every relationship is a journey, and we are here striving to help you navigate through it.  In our previous episodes, we've discussed topics such as matching energy, communication styles, and conflict resolution, all aimed at helping you build stronger and healthier relationships. Today, we're excited to dive into a new topic: reciprocity in relationships . Let’s delve into...

Today, we're taking a deep dive into today's dating culture, or maybe it's going to be a shallow dive. Who knows? But one thing we do know is that we've watched a lot of black love shows, and we're ready to talk about it. But it's not just about the shows, it's about what we can learn from them. As a couple in a fulfilling relationship ourselves, we're excited to sh...

We’re challenging societal norms of manhood. Data shows that many men know that talking openly is an effective way of dealing with their problems, but they keep quiet so they don’t appear weak or unmanly. Well, we’re affirming that getting the support you need is the real flex. Men fears to appear “unmanly” [1:06] Data suggests that men, especially adult men, find it hard to talk about their feeli...

Firefighters go through a certain training where they have to talk a person into coming out of a burning building, no matter how scary it could be. It’s because coming in to save that person would endanger them.  We find this idea interesting because of its uncanny similarity with the path towards healing. The truth is nobody, except you, can save you. Sure, others can help, but it will ultimately...

“You're only a good person, because your life has let you live that way.”  This statement speaks volumes about privilege , a topic that we’ll zero in on today's conversation.  In this episode, we’re talking about the choices we make based on the hand that life has dealt us. For those of us who’ve been blessed enough to have our basic needs met, let’s exercise some empathy and recognize wha...

“If you want to have a conversation with me about who I am, don't just talk to me about my failures. Don't just talk to me about my bottom moments. My story is in my “keep going.” In the times where I was not doing the greatest, but I kept going.” - Karega Bailey  What an empowering statement! We often forget that we are more than just the sum of our experiences, and we have the power to s...

We always hear the words “Face your fear” or “Just do it.” However, like most things, confronting our fear is easier said than done. But here’s the good news: we can indeed learn to face our fears. In today’s episode, we talk about the origin of our fears, how fear manifests in who we are, and how we can navigate through it.  WHAT TO LISTEN FOR  Your fear comes from your what-ifs [4:37] What if I...

Lesson #14: “Sometimes a leap of faith doesn't bring immediate results.”  We find this lesson from Eric Roberson’s book “LESSONS, 100 Thoughts on Life & Love” truly fascinating so we’re delighted to explore it in today’s episode.  What really happens when you take a leap of faith? It could be fall, flight, sink, swim. You could do any or ALL of those things. The question is: how do you nav...

Welcome to the first episode of the year! It’s a new year, typically a good time for a ‘new you’ or perhaps for ‘reinventing yourself.’ But hey, a new year doesn’t necessarily need a new you. In fact, it’s the best time to celebrate the progress you’ve already made.  Alex Elle, a best-selling author, is not a big believer of the concept ‘new year, new you,’ especially with the amount of pressure w...

2022 is coming to an end, and there’s a lot of things to be grateful for. In a year, we’ve spent a lot of time having wonderful conversations about the things that matter. About things that help us keep going.  In today’s episode, our hearts are filled with gratitude and joy as we look back on the most amazing conversations that we’ve had this year. If you want to once again be empowered amidst th...

This episode will serve as a reminder that your mental health is just as important as your physical health!  Mental health is one of the biggest and long-standing issues that challenges our community. So today, we’re happy to highlight Stephanie Westbrook, a licensed psychotherapist, Certified Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and a mompreneur. Stephanie sha...

December is almost here. The year 2022 is finally coming to an end. The Thanksgiving season is just the perfect time to take a step back and ask yourself, “What are the things that I am grateful for?” In this episode, we honor the progress that we’ve made this year by taking a look back at where we are last year and where we are now. How did we get here? What lessons have we learned along the way?...

As humans, it is in our nature to punish ourselves when we do something wrong. But does punishing yourself ever really account for something good?  In this episode, we talk about forgiveness. And it’s not about forgiving a friend, a family member, or a loved one. It’s forgiving the most important person to you—you.  WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:  People’s common response to making mistakes [3:53] Beating yo...

We’re so happy that our long overdue collaboration with our friends Ranauldo and Liz finally happened.  Ranauldo and Liz Wright are financial brokers with nearly 20 years of experience in financial services. In today’s episode, they share some thought-provoking ideas around our relationship with money (Yes, that’s a thing).  Whether you’re just beginning to understand how money works or you consid...

It’s almost an instinct to hide what we perceive as ugly.  But do you know that there is power in completely embracing who you really are?  In today's episode we unpack how to deal with our “inner shadow” and overpower it with light. Because we can’t live in hiding forever, and perfection is a myth.  WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:  What is the inner shadow? [03:01] What are the things about you that you...

Change can bring about friction in relationships, but it's important to remember that this friction is often a result of our own growth and evolution.  Today, we dig deep into a topic that many of us can relate to - navigating through change and its impact on our relationships. It can be challenging to understand the changes we're going through and how they will affect our relationships, b...

In this episode, we dive into the concept of "Shared Reality" and its role in social connections, particularly in group trips and family gatherings.  We shed light on the distinction between shared reality and shared values and how understanding and respecting each other's perspectives can help reconcile differences and help us to just enjoy the brevity of the moment. Is there alignm...

All of us were once children. And from time to time, the children that we were can show up - they can show up in our relationships and our everyday lives. In this episode, we dive into the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to love the child within us. By making an effort to listen to, communicate with and nurture our inner child, we can heal the roots of our adult issues and understand...

The last couple of episodes, we've talked about being in relationship with other folks. This episode, we want to talk about being in relationship with ourselves, and how healing truly changes the way that we show up for ourselves and for others.  Pastor Jerry Flowers said: "healed people see different, healed people think different" It’s a powerful statement that we came to unpack to...

I bet we all want to learn and grow in our communication skills, especially in our relationships.  In this second part of our conversation, we delve deeper into the topic of communication and its role in maintaining relationships.  Let’s look into the importance of self-awareness, understanding different communication styles and love languages. We’ll delve into how these can contribute to misunder...

We think it's time for grown people to use their words. Some may think they’re choosing peace when really they’re choosing avoidance, which can lead to resentment. The key is to deliver what you need to say without causing the other person to become defensive.  Oftentimes, ending with questions offers the other person the chance to respond and be heard. It paves way to have a conversation with...

One way or another, we must have been in a situation that triggered us to ask ourselves, “Why does it happen so easily for others and not for me? WHY CAN’T IT BE ME?” But you see, if we live having that mindset, we will never find peace. Our lives will be a series of meaningless transactions, only doing things in exchange for something.  In today’s episode, we’ll mull over the key to living your l...

It's Juneteenth, and there couldn’t have been a more perfect time to talk about something our community holds onto quite dearly—FREEDOM.  Nina Simone said: "I'll tell you what freedom is to me: no fear." It’s a powerful statement that we came to unpack today, among other things:  What does it look like to be our most authentic and best selves?  What does it look like to live, not...

One of The Four Agreements is this: Don’t take anything personally – nothing others do is because of you.   How many relationships have we sabotaged because of the story we tell ourselves, and not because of what really happened?  In today’s episode, we take a step back and talk about how these stories are affecting the way we think about ourselves and others. Of course, together, we’ll figure out...

What does it mean to keep the same energy? Does doing so take away the grace we’ve been learning  to give ourselves and others?  How do we find the balance between grace and discipline?  WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:  To continually give grace or to “keep the same energy” [5:47] Matching someone’s negative energy also impacts the way you show up  Dealing with repeated behavior of negativity  Reprogramming y...