Gentlemen’ s Guide to Excellence

Are you ever proud of yourself when think back on a time when you have acted like an asshole at work, or in your personal life, with your family or a friend, or in your community?  No, right?  If you are a good person, which is what you certainly are if you feel drawn to this podcast, the book, and continue to listen to me, that answer is always no.  In this episode we are going to dig into what i...

Monogamy.  Or not?  Is monogamy the way to go, your goal, or not?   Is it ok to cheat, or is it not?  We get into this thorny and complicated question in this week’s episode. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on  Amazon.com in January 2021 -  https://gentlemensguidetoflirting.com/   Consider the book your complete textbook. The content on this channel and t...

How do you ask for sex?  Whether you are just dating someone, or its a lady friend that you are interested in, or you are in a relationship but not getting enough sex, how do you ask for it?  How do gentlemen bring the subject of sex up in a nice way, one that isn’t rude, a turn off,  or a way that makes you look bad.  Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on ...

From men jumping at the first pretty face to dealing with women who want to be in your wife's or girlfriend's place in your life, we have you covered in this week's episode about dealing with various common Traps and Pitfalls of dating success. If you are continuously improving yourself like we call for and describe in the book, if you are always improving as a man every day, win after win, small...

Let your confidence soar whether you are naked or clothed! In this episode we talk about men’s grooming secrets. Some things may be obvious and second nature to you, and some may be quite unfamiliar. But all of them will help you walk around with the right amount of confidence as you are out there meeting ladies, and otherwise going about your daily life. We’ll go over everything as per usual, to...

In this episode we talk about the pool of available relationship candidates through a lens or perspective called "10-80-10" that I am borrowing from an entirely unrelated discipline - police work and law enforcement. That comparison might sounds nuts, but hear me out. I think looking at the dating and relationship problem domain through different lenses can be helpful and informative. It can help...

Is your lady in need a bit of feedback in some sensitive areas, but it is just too awkward of a topic to bring up? Your hero has you covered.   This is another episode in our self-improvement series that we have in support of this channel and podcast. Personal excellence is vital to our whole approach to being the best man that you can be. This is something you work on every day. You keep improvin...

Struggling to stay informed because of disinformation, clickbait, fake news and liars? Your hero hears you. I've got you covered in this week's video and podcast.   This is the first in a self-improvement series that we will do as part of this podcast (and Youtube channel). Excellence, in every sense of the term, is part of the foundation of our whole approach to being the best man that you can be...

Are you trapped in the "friend zone" and looking for options? In this episode we take a look at the whole friend zone concept using the framework and perspectives of the Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting book.   Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on Amazon.com in January 2021 - https://gentlemensguidetoflirting.com/).   Consider the book your complete textbook....

Wasting people’s time.  We are all on this planet for a finite amount of time.  You don’t want to get to the end of your time here with regrets.   You also don’t want to waste the limited time you have, nor allow others to waste it for you.  In this week’s episode, I want to talk about making effective use of time, and in some cases, being protective of your time.     Background: Book's website: G...

The Hero Instinct.  What is it?  Where did the idea come from?  And it is something useful for you? Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.   Consider the book your complete textbook. The content on this channel and the podcast is all free and is intended to expand upon...

Integrity.  We all have an intuitive sense of what the word integrity means, but we might not agree on precisely what it is.  I think it will be illuminating to do so, so today we will dig into the topic of integrity. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.   Consider t...

Friendship 101.  Are you a good friend?  Are you good friend material?  Do you have the number of friends you want, or no friends at all, or too many friends   If you want to be a better friend, then this is the episode for you. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.  ...

Today I want to talk about knowing where to look.  Knowing where to look.  And I don’t mean physically where do you find women in general, that’s mostly everywhere in the planet.  I mean where do you look at a person to see the real them.   Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favor...

Working the system. One of the lessons I have thoroughly learned in life is about the benefits of what I call "working the system".  The world is a tough, competitive place, and you need to give yourself as much advantage and leverage as you can sometimes.  We’ll take a look at what I mean by working the system in this week’s episode. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (avai...

No one has a monopoly on good ideas.  Oftentimes you can find better ways of doing things or solving problems by being more exposed to others, other countries, other regions, maybe other places in your own country or region, other ways of thinking.  Why not let the best ideas bubble up to the top to benefit yourself, your community, or your country.  This week, we will explore this idea from a per...

Youth is wasted on the young.  You may have heard that expression.  If you are a young person, you might think that is what old people say.  If you are an old person, maybe you say that with a sense of regret - thinking of missed opportunities or mistakes from your past.  Today, I want to talk about this concept, and if there is any knowledge that needs to be transferred to the young folks among u...

You may have heard the expression “An idle mind is the Devil’s workshop”.  Okay if an idle mind is the Devil’s workshop, what exactly are you supposed to occupy your mind with?  Busywork?  What are we supposed to fill our heads with?  Is the answer the same for everybody, or does it depend?  That is the subject of today’s podcast.   Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (availa...

100 more.  If you have listened to the podcast for a while, I understand that I might have come off as rather dismissive or uncaring about people who aren’t at what I call  Level 3: meaning family wife, partner, children, and your closest friends.  But that isn’t the case.  Today I want to share how I think about my relationships with people who are not all that close to me: neighbors, my communit...

After watching The Tinder Swindler documentary on Netflix and seeing how the ladies victimized got called gold diggers by some when their story broke, I got thinking about real gold diggers and how you  - yes you - might have to deal with such a situation in your own life.  If you haven’t seen that documentary, you can Google “Tinder Swindler” and read the articles that pop up to get the gist of w...

I am working with a young man right now who is stuck.  He is stuck in more than one way.  He is fresh out of college, and like many, struggling to find work.  He is putting off moving forward with his girlfriend of 5 years due to his self-perception of a lack of progress toward things like having a substantial and stable income and owning a home.  I think what I am advising him to do might help a...

I very intentionally don’t normally discuss topical or news items in this podcast, but in rare cases when I feel I have insights from a particular event that might be useful for you, I’ll speak up.  Today is one of those days.  As of when I am recording this, February 5th, 2022, popular podcaster and celebrity Joe Rogan got into a great deal of trouble, rightfully, over comments that he made in th...

We are two years in to the COVID-19 pandemic, and it’s time for another morale boost.   In my own life, I continue to see people cracking under this continued stress and pressure.  Cracking under pressure, that isn’t us.   Yielding or compromising on our standards and principles, that isn’t us.  We find a way to thrive in all conditions.  But, again, it doesn’t hurt for us to huddle up from time t...

It’s time for another morale boost.   I wish it wasn’t the case, but it is needed.  I am, like I am sure all of you are, disappointed that the COVID-19 pandemic is still dragging on and affecting so many people and the economy.   In my own life, I am seeing too many people cracking under this continued stress and pressure.  That isn’t what we do, is it? We find a way to thrive in all conditions.  ...

Finally, the greatest moment in flirting history has arrived!  Children will be reading about this day in their history books 100 years from now.  Why?  The Gentlemen’s Guide to Flirting book is available for sale on Amazon!     Don’t worry, this podcast won’t be a long, boring ad for the book.  There is plenty of meat on the bone this week for content, just like normal.  But I want you to know th...