FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

Whether or not you are contemplating divorce or legal separation, it pays to know your rights, options, and opportunities. In today’s show we will talk about non-attorney mediated divorces and whether this could be an option for you. While Leslie Garske, the guest expert on this show is Colorado-specific, the information on mediation, and who is and is not a good candidate for mediation, is applic...

“Should I stay, or should I go?” is one of the most important questions you will have to answer after learning of your partner’s infidelity. And even though most women want to make the decision quickly, the most important thing you can do is give yourself the gift of time and decide not to decide. In fact, the average length of time it takes for a couple to decide if they want to stay together is...

Whether you are working it out, trying to save your marriage, or just need a healthier person to co-parent with, learning how to hold your cheating partner accountable for his or her actions is imperative. But it’s also important to do it in a way that does not cause you to over function. Here’s how to manage. Top take-a-ways Be accountable yourself, Set clear expectations and boundaries, Do NOT o...

Frustrated that your partner, who cheated on you, and now isn’t stepping up to the plate or doing their part to heal? In this episode, we dive deep into the how and why of bringing your cheating partner into the healing journey. Whether you might (or might not) want to reconcile, you want a healthier human to co-parent your children, or you simply believe that healing our wounds will make the worl...

What is compartmentalization? Is it good or is it bad? Is it something the cheater used to cheat, or is it something you can use to heal? Surprisingly, the answer is both! Here’s what you need to know about both the good and bad sides of compartmentalization. Top take-a-ways Identifying and understanding the difference between healthy compartmentalization and unhealthy compartmentalization. How to...

Resources, Community, & Empowerment – Get the Help You Need! It’s one thing to talk about empowerment, but it’s another thing to move through the intimidation and fear to get the assistance, support, and education you need. Today’s show features three special guests Karen Chellew, Legal Liaison, and Catherine Shanahan, CDFA, from My Divorce Solution, a company dedicated to helping divorcing co...

We hear a lot about the importance of forgiving the betraying partner, but what about forgiving ourselves? Especially when we’ve done nothing wrong. Forgiveness is a confusing, often circular, and deeply personal journey where we are forced to confront ourselves, our shame, imperfections, and our lack of control over situations or other people. Pull out a journal, kick back, and let’s process the...

The shame of being the betrayed partner can be stifling, making us feel unworthy, afraid, or like we were to blame. Living in a state of fear, shame, and judgment cuts us off from our resources and keeps us locked in a cycle of despair. Even though getting help is hard, even though it’s risky to try to mend marriages or understand relationships, unless we take risks, the only thing that’s guarante...

The recent Barbie movie brought to light the impossible situation that many women face when dealing with a patriarchal society. Namely, the system is rigged and there’s no way women can win. Unless they stop playing the old game, and create a new one instead! Dealing with people who are bound and determined to create conflict and misunderstand or hurt you is maddening! It brings up a sense of self...

What’s the difference between coaching and counseling after infidelity? I couples counseling the way to go, or is coaching a better option? Why is it so difficult to recover from an affair? What does affair recovery even mean, and what should I look for when I’m looking for help? Learn the difference between coaching counseling, and a variety of modalities and recovery techniques here! Top take-a-...

How to find balance and equilibrium after the rug has been pulled out from under you? Like a teeter totter, what goes down, must come up. This episode explores three practices for finding your footing again after infidelity, betrayal, or any kind of disappointment. Top take-a-ways Find balance between grief and positivity. Grieving is a normal process that allows negativity to leave your body and...

In this episode, Lora dives into the fragile male ego and its impact on navigating relationships affected by infidelity. She shares insights on societal expectations and upbringing that contribute to men hiding their pain and emotions and shares the signs of a fragile ego. Additionally, she explains why the affair partner likely suffered from a fragile ego, and talks about the difference between h...

Listen to "Grow Up, Queen! How to Have Difficult Conversations" on FLAUNT! Create A Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal with Lora Cheadle. In this episode, Lora share communication strategies for overcoming betrayal and rebuilding relationships. She provides insight about how to move from the archetype of Princess to the archetype of Queen so as ruler of your own Queendom, you can more easi...

Special Seven Year Podcast Anniversary Series -with guest Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband, and betraying partner   Tune in to the third and final interview Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband and the man who betrayed her. In this final episode, Shawn shares his personal journey of taking full accountability for his actions after initially blaming Lora for his behavior. Shawn candidly discusses his struggl...

Intimate Conversations with the Betraying Partner Part 2 – What Happened During the Affair? Chasing Validation in All the Wrong Places -with guest Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband, and betraying partner   In this particular episode, Lora interviews her husband, Shawn Cheadle, about his experience with infidelity in their marriage. Shawn opens up about seeking emotional validation from someone other t...

Part 1 – Behind the Scenes of an Affair: Insight from a Cheating Partner: What Led to the Affair?   In this episode, Lora interviews Shawn, her husband and the man who betrayed her to find out what led to his multiple affairs. Shawn delves deep into the impact of growing up in rough neighborhoods and facing financial struggles, and how these vulnerabilities manifested in difficulty managing stress...

Being betrayed sends you into a tailspin of shock, heartbreak, pain, and grief. Worse, it inspires a sense of shame, secrecy, and fear of judgement or blame from others. But the truth is, betrayal is not just a personal problem, it’s a societal one. Not only due to affairs that occur in the workplace, but because those struggling emotionally with the fall out of infidelity are disengaged and ineff...

Learn the ABC’s of self-defense and how to keep yourself safe. Whether things have been volatile since learning of your partner’s affair and you fear for your safety, you are concerned about navigating the dating world and meeting new people, or you just want to feel more confident, empowered, and less like a victim in your everyday life, then this is the show for you! Additionally, we have a BONU...

Infidelity and betrayal leave you heartbroken, shattered, and wondering if you will ever be healed, happy, or whole again. This show takes you beyond healing and catapults you into a vision for what’s possible when you embrace next-level, multidimensional healing. In it, we will explore channeling, spirituality, and the empath/narcissist relationship dynamic so you can find the clarity, peace, and...

A guided meditation to ground, center, and anchor yourself in your body. How being broken gives the pain a place to seep out, leaving you healthier and happier than before. How to BE IN your body, even when you aren't sure you want to be there, or when it feels to scary or painful to be you. Here's how to relax, drop in, reconnect to your intuition and start to heal.

Infidelity and betrayal shatter your soul and leave you feeling broken, empty, and confused. But what if this shattering was an opportunity for the pain, toxicity, and everything that is not yours to escape your body? What if it was an opportunity for us to define who we were, and to come home to ourselves as we most authentically are? This show will shift your heart and your mind and will set you...

Nobody can be prepared for what is unexpected, and betrayal is typically unexpected. Discovering your partner’s infidelity leaves you with a multitude of decisions that you suddenly have to make, even when you are unprepared. Here’s a 5-step process that you can follow whenever you feel stuck and don’t know what to do next. Top take-a-ways: Using the 5-step FLAUNT! process to figure out your most...

Why do I feel guilty, like I somehow caused my partner’s affair? This question is one of the most perplexing aspects of betrayal recovery. While the answer is NO, you did not cause your partner’s affair, EVER, it’s also appropriate to be able to self-reflect on the relationship, realize what you know now that you didn’t know then, see where you can do better going forward, and take steps to get he...

Gary Chapman’s “Five Love Languages” explain our conscious associations and desires around love. But what about our subconscious associations and desires around love? Whether you had a functional or dysfunctional childhood, all children are hardwired to love their parents – which means they interpret everything their parents do as love. Even when it’s not! That means that as an adult you and your...

Finding out that your partner had an affair is devastating. Not only do you have to navigate the shock, grief, and emotional trauma of finding out that the person you loved cheated on you and betrayed you, but you must also figure out whether you want a divorce, how to divide assets, and how to manage financially for yourself and your children going forward. Which is overwhelming! Lisa Zeiderman i...