Feel This with Frank and Jess

When we are at home in ourselves and our awareness, our thoughts are no more “us” than the hair on our heads. We explore “staying home” within ourselves and each other as Jess gets ready to pull tarot cards for Frank. Recorded 7/7/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your l...

Jess interviews Frank about his recent ketamine journeys. Frank shares particular meditations that have been a part of his soft movement toward challenging and mucky areas within. The positive feedback loop created by these journeys and nurturing awareness of the spiritual heart is allowing him to bring this open peace to others when that tightness shows up in them. Recorded 06/19/23 Links - Loche...

Jess is feeling a sadness today and there is no fixing needed! She and Frank explore going slow as a means to soften toward the inner, emotional experience. Which sounds nice, but can stir up fears around “being emotional.” Also, it turns out grief is normal when we’re finally given a cup of water in the desert. Recorded 06/19/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer ep...

Today we explore trust: When I can trust myself within the flow of life, I can trust myself with others in the "we space". We also look at the value of the "phone booth", moments when we're feeling cramped and reactive, and finding flow between the phone booth and the "field", that spacious welcoming for all things within each of us. Recorded on 06/14/23 New to Fe...

Today we explore how arguments are opportunities to return to ourselves again and again. Frank shares a recent experience where both he and his partner were triggered during an everyday conversation and how he navigated his inner turmoil and pull toward blame. Ultimately the practice of self-tending is tending the relationship as well. Recorded 06/14/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you&#39...

Today we look at what it means to be a part of everyone else’s “play” (and they a part of ours), and how when we see our value we can more readily see and celebrate the value and depth that others bring! Recorded 05/24/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening exp...

Today’s meditation is a powerful opportunity to explore parts that are rigidly focused, driven, and compulsive. Why would you do that? Connecting to the felt sense of those parts, NOT their dialogue, softens the energy and hold they have on us. Also today we explore our common purpose while maintaining connection within. Link: Crucial Conversations Recorded 05/24/23 New to Feel This? We're so...

Join us for a dive into Frank’s money story. We look at where our money beliefs come from and how getting to know them paves the way to a more creative future.  Listen in for accessible and practical tools we can all use to befriend this often fraught form of energy. Recorded 5/9/23  New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations ta...

Today Frank is experiencing very strong emotions, like getting too close to a hot stove, and Jess shares some money beliefs that contribute “drama triangle” energy to her struggle with money. Recorded 05/09/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as w...

Can distraction and addiction can be life-saving? We also dip our toes into the mystery of money. Link: Song Blame On Me by Jack Harlow Recorded 05/05/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. P...

Jess and Frank negotiate how to have a more structured conversation when Frank has been feeling contracted and cocooned in his nervous system. Recorded 05/05/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relations...

Jess and Frank finish up their conflict, tie up some relational and anger loose ends, and talk about their upcoming money conversation. Recorded 4/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Pr...

Before moving to the topic of money, Frank and Jess need to clear a conflict in the relational space. Our anger matters. Your anger matters! And when we’re listening to someone else’s angry parts, we’re likely to experience defensiveness. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a spicy ride. Recorded on 4/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our con...

A rich discussion on the stickiness of commodifying our creations and offerings. We also look at how polarities lead us to believe you can’t have both. New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Pri...

Frank and Jess explore the parts that show up in the podcast that want to be seen and the parts that don’t want to be seen. They ask, “Are we creating something of value here?” Also, Frank’s experience helping Wendy while she was sick and Jess getting a bunch of “old” art ready for a new Airbnb in North Carolina. We begin by grounding into what we’re feeling and not trying to fix what we’re feelin...

Frank shares his recent adventure going to speech therapy without shame and feeling empowered to undo something deeply habitualized with the parts and feelings that have shown up along the way. Recorded 03/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as...

Frank shares the story of his lifelong lisp and why he has decided to go into speech therapy now. Recorded 3/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https...

Today we talk about trusting ourselves enough to connect without engaging our “fix, manage, and control” parts. Better yet, once we’re there and ready, we step into a new space of interaction that is good and nourishing for us AND others. Recorded 03/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes be...

Jess shares a dream in which “Frank” makes an appearance. Also, they look at how anxious “safety” differs from the true safety that comes from being ok with whatever happens next. Recorded 03/10/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools...

Sometimes we make the assist, sometimes we make the dunk. But can we hear our authentic voice? To hide or be seen, to say yes or say no… and how does the fear of disappointing or upsetting the other affect our response? Recorded 02/14/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listen...

Frank comes in in a somewhat dorsal state, feeling a bit disconnected, and though being in “dorsal” is not generally desirable, Jess is surprisingly grateful.  Today’s meditation moves our awareness from the outer world to our inner world and primary emotions. Links: Dorsal vagal state Recorded 02/14/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our...

“It Chat” can lead to meaningful connection when we’re willing (and able) to stop playing Three-card Monte.  P.S. You can learn all about It Chat, Me Chat and We Chat by listening to Primer #1, link below  Links: Viktor Frankl - Viktor Frankl: Self-Actualization is Not the Goal , Viktor Frankl: Our Need for Meaning and Purpose Recorded 1/31/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here...

Its deep winter here and we’re wondering how you’re doing. Though February is associated with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), we’re looking at it differently. Is it less a lack of sunshine and more a lack of connection and healthy attachment? The sense meditation is around belly awareness and staying grounded. Links: Differentiation and Connection - Dr. Dan Siegel , SAD , PMDD   01/31/23 N...

The conversation continues! We explore how our dysregulated nervous systems lead to polarity and blame in relationships, what a regulated nervous system feels like, and how we see the world differently when we are grounded, open, and calm. Also, let us know if you’re interested in continuing the conversation around this week’s episode and topics on Discord ! TW: This episode contains references to...

After a short sense meditation, Jess and Frank look at their “anxious” and “depressed” cycles as natural and normal and being with old patterns in new ways. TW: This episode contains references to depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: Deb Dana and the Polyvagal System Recorded 1/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're...