Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I share the deeper “why” behind launching my new program, Men’s Group Experience—and what I’ve learned after decades in the trenches of men’s work. Yes, I’ve talked before about the power of decentralized men’s groups. But this conversation goes further. This one’s about what actually sustains a group—beyond the structure. What makes men stay, show up fully, and build something re...

In this episode, I reconnect with one of the most important men in my journey—my first men’s coach, Tripp Lanier. We dive into a rich conversation around what it means to be a man today, the traps so many of us fall into with comfort and surface-level success, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional anymore—it’s essential. We explore what it means to be a dangerous man—the kind that comes fr...

In this episode, I sit down with my friend and collaborator Luke to unpack the enduring myth of the Marlboro Man—and how it’s still shaping men’s lives today. We explore the fantasy of the rugged, independent cowboy and how it feeds into the “lone wolf” mentality so many men have been conditioned to admire. Luke shares some powerful reflections from his own background in Western culture and rural...

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy , to explore the root causes of why so many men feel stuck, frustrated, and disconnected—and what actually works to break that cycle. We dive into the cost of being a “nice guy,” how men’s groups offer a new form of masculine initiation, and why real brotherhood—not therapy, not status, not hustle—is often the missi...

In this episode, I’m joined once again by my brother-in-arms Dr. Luke Adler to dive into something a little different: a reaction and commenting on a recent Diary of a CEO episode featuring Logan Ury and Scott Galloway. We discuss the external challenges facing men today — loneliness, economic shifts, the dating gap — while highlighting the deeper root causes we see in our work: emotional illitera...

In this episode, I break down one of the biggest keys to creating a men’s group that actually lasts: decentralization. I get into why most top-down, subscription-style men’s groups eventually fall apart, why ownership matters more than convenience, and how shared leadership creates real brotherhood that sticks through every season of life. I also share some personal stories — including how one of...

In this episode I’m once again joined by my co-facilitator and brother in the work, Dr. Luke Adler. We go deep into the energetic anatomy of wounding—mapping how blocked emotion and stagnation impact a man’s ability to access both love and purpose. Luke shares powerful insights from decades of working with Eastern medicine and energy systems, particularly around the polarity between the heart and...

What does it really mean for us men to get grounded? In this episode, I explore the crucial distinction between momentary grounding as a state experience versus what you're actually grounding into - the relationships, community, and life structures that catch you when you can't catch yourself. Most guys miss this entirely, focusing on quick fixes rather than building the root system that c...

In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to explore what we call "the masculine vortex" - that transformative space where men find healing through authentic connection. We discuss how masculine love provides the safety for men to let go of performance and truly be seen, creating a profound sense of belonging many have never experienced. Luke and I reveal the key elements that make...

In this episode I reveal how honest feedback from trusted brothers turbocharges male growth. "Carefrontation" breaks through limiting patterns and accelerates your journey toward authenticity. Real transformation happens when men confront each other with genuine care rather than criticism. Your path to becoming your best self begins with finding men brave enough to reflect your blind spots...

In this episode I explore two fundamental needs that every man craves: purpose and belonging, and how joining a men's group can fulfill these essential needs. I discuss how purpose gives men a sense that their presence matters and impacts the world positively, while belonging provides the deep connection and sense of community that many men are missing in modern life. I explain how participati...

In this episode, Dr. Luke Adler and I discuss the concept of anti-fragility as it relates to men's shadow work and personal development. We explore how anti-fragility goes beyond mere resilience, and is a state where challenges and stressors actually strengthen and energize rather than deplete. We highlight how the Heart of Shadow program can be an engine for anti-fragility for men by transmut...

In this episode, I explore the fundamental weakness of macho men and the "tough guy" culture that promotes isolation and emotional suppression. I explain how every man will eventually face physical challenges or illness that they can't simply "push through," revealing the critical importance of having a strong support system. Learn why posturing is still fear based and what you...

In this episode, I share a powerful practice of choosing an annual "lens" - a perspective through which to view and experience your life throughout the year. I explain how this differs from traditional goal-setting, as a lens simply offers a way to reframe experiences rather than something you can succeed or fail at, using examples from my own journey. I describe how this practice has tran...

In this episode I dive deep into the three major energy drains affecting men today and share how to reclaim your vitality. Drawing from both personal experience and years of coaching, I explore how neglecting body nourishment, suppressing emotions, and mental rumination are secretly depleting your energy reserves. I break down why proper sleep, nutrition, and recovery are non-negotiable foundation...

In this episode I explore the concept of tonic masculinity - a positive, generative force that brings vitality and growth to our world. Unlike its pathological counterparts, tonic masculinity represents the unique texture of masculine love that's deeply caring, attuned, and focused on creating positive change. I delve into how this manifestation of masculinity calls forth the best in everyone,...

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Luke Adler to expose the hidden price of success that's crushing high-achieving men. We reveal why driven professionals can't feel their own exhaustion until it's too late, and share the breakthrough solution we've discovered through our work with countless men. If you're winning at life but feeling empty inside, this conversation could be th...

In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering healthy relationships and ensuring that we connect with the right people in our lives. The characteristics of neediness and how it can push people away. The importance of expressing our needs directly and taking ownership of them. How neediness often stems...

Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Violet and I reveal our sexual journey, sharing candid tips on maintaining erotic energy and emotional connection. Learn why safety, vulnerability, and shared responsibility are the keys to unlocking unparalleled pleasure and deepening your bond. Whether you're struggling with sex...

In this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and lessons from them. From trust issues and emotional disregulation to financial stress and fertility struggles, we explore how rupture and repair are essential for growth in any partnership. We also introduce our new programs, Evolutionary Couples & 12...

If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely? The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passion, resolving conflicts, and growing together over...

In this episode, I challenge the negative perception of "nice guys" in the men's work world. The truth is, being a nice guy is an evolutionary leap in masculinity as it brings online kindness and sensitivity in men. It's not about killing or getting rid of our nice guy, but instead is all about integrating him along with our power.

In this episode I explore reveals three game-changing types of fluidity - nervous system, emotional, and polarity - that can skyrocket your personal growth and relationships. Learn how mastering these skills can help you effortlessly navigate stress, emotions, and social dynamics. Join the Heart of Shadow Men's Group & Retreat at heartofshadow.com

Join Dr. Luke Adler and me in this powerful episode in the Heart of Shadow podcast series as we sit down with three courageous men—Michael, Sean, and Shawn who have undergone the transformative Heart of Shadow program. They open up about their journeys - sharing how the program helped them confront and heal deep-seated anger, fear, and past traumas. The discussion delves into the unique and powerf...

In this episode, I'm again joined by my co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler, a Chinese medicine doctor who's led over 50,000 healing sessions. We discuss the intersection of Chinese medicine and shadow work and delve into the holistic approach of Chinese medicine and its connection to mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We highlight how physiology and visceral sensations play a vital ro...