Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

WHAT IS YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP CLIMATE? In the lastest episodes, I interviewed two experts in the field of relationship. Arielle Ford talked with us about  How To Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate . One of the questions, I asked her was how to use the law of attraction in your relationship. In her response, she focused more on how to attract a partner. I truly believe that when one partner rais...

GUEST: DR. FRED LUSKIN Dr. Luskin founded and currently serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. He is also Senior Consultant in Health Promotion/Wellness at the Stanford University Health Center and Department Chair in Clinical Psychology at Sofia University. At Stanford, Dr. Luskin teaches classes on Positive Psychology, The Art and Science of Meditation, Forgiveness,...

GUEST ARIELLE FORD: Arielle Ford is a love and relationship expert and a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 25 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a speaker and the producer and host of Evolving Wisdom's Art of Love series. Arielle is a gifted writer and the author of 11 boo...

LISTENER'S QUESTION "I've been listening to your podcasts and they've been really helpful thank you! I am thinking of approaching my partner about your program in the near future because I think we would benefit from it greatly. Moving forward, I have a question for your podcast. For a bit of context, because I was working and undertaking law school at the same time I didn't really date and have n...

Trust is essential to the success of a happy, loving, lasting relationship. Yet, many of us are confused about how to develop trust in a relationship. In  episode 118 , I offered you 2 of the 5 tips in how to build trust with your partner. I encourage you to check it out if you missed it. In  episode 119 , I discussed Brené Brown's talk on  The Anatomy of Trust , where she offers important compone...

Over the last several months, I have been getting questions from listeners around the issue of trust and how to build trust in a relationship. While trust is fundamental to the success of happy, lasting love, many of us are at a loss of how to develop it. In last weeks episode, I offered you 2 of the 5 tips in  how to build trust with your partner . I encourage you to check it out if you missed it...

Trust is what helps couples feel safe together, safe to be vulnerable, and safe to deepen in their intimacy. Yet, trust takes time and skill to build. Many of us get tripped up along the way. Trust is "a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something." Google LISTENER'S QUESTION: "After listening to your podcasts I've realized I don't completely trust my wife's...

GUEST DR. PETER PEARSON In preparing for this interview, Dr. Peter Pearson and I had conversation to discuss the topic for today's show. We also talked about some of his accomplishment, so that I could introduce him to you today. He gave me his top five professional achievements: Having worked with couples, an average of 25 hours a week for over 30 years. Writing books with his wife, Ellyn Bader​,...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I am from Germany and i have listened to many of your podcasts, it really helped me to understand things better. My boyfriend and me we are 5 years together, he is from a different country (Denmark) and we speak English together in our relationship although we live in my home country. I think this makes it sometimes difficult for us to express in a nice and kind or maybe play...

This is part two of "How To Develop The Strength Of Vulnerability." If you missed part one, you can check it out  here . As a quick recap, in part one, I talked about how many of us have a negative association with vulnerability. We may even label vulnerability as bad and weak. Whereas,  Brené Brown , through her research and teaching, helps us redefine vulnerability as  "uncertainty, risk, and em...

In episode ERP 112: What Makes Being Vulnerable So Hard?, I discussed why vulnerability is a difficult skill to develop. I talked about how vulnerability is a deceptively powerful ingredient within an intimate connection. I described some of the ways we get stuck and fight against being vulnerable. If you missed it, you can check it out  here . HOW ARE YOU WITH BEING VULNERABILITY? Do you let your...

GUEST PAUL COLAIANNI: Paul Colaianni is host of The Overwhelmed Brain podcast and author of the book: The Overwhelmed Brain: Personal Growth for Critical Thinkers. He helps people all over the world become empowered so that they can make decisions that are right for them. He currently lives in Atlanta, Georgia. In this episode, Paul talks with us about the damage of manipulation and emotionally ab...

Over the last couple of weeks, I have been discussing the challenge of maintaining closeness and intimacy with your partner, as well as maintaining your sense of self in a long-term commitment, love relationship. In last week's episode, I talked about how to seek validation and intimacy within your relationship. I offered 4 keys to doing this successfully: safety, ownership, vulnerability, and tra...

In the Empowered Relationship Podcast episode 110:  How To Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs In Relationship,  I talked about we often get caught in the belief that being in relationship requires us to give over of ourselves in an attempt to seek relationship harmony. Yet, when we do this, we can lose touch with ourselves, our passion, and our desires. David Schnarch in  Passionate Marriage  ta...

Do you aim to please your partner or do you aim to express yourself authentically? Do you give your partner what he/she wants immediately or do you advocate for your desires? With a sensitive topic, do you avoid stating what is real for you because you fear upsetting your partner? These questions address the continual challenge of negotiating our need for individuality (personal needs, desires, dr...

In last week's podcast episode, titled  "What Most Couples Do That Creates Problems,"  I talked about how couples tend to try and resolve their concerns through their partner. In a  short video by Dr. John Gottman  (renowned relationship expert and researcher), he talks about this dynamic. In Gottman's language, he separates couples from his research into two major groups: the "masters" and the "d...

We look to solve our concerns through our partner. We spend our time trying to get our partner to see what THEY are doing wrong and get them to see our perspective. We think, "If I can just point it out to them in a way they can hear it…" "Or if I can give them a good enough example and illustrate my point, they will understand." We think if they understand, they will see the error of their ways a...

GUEST STAN TATKIN: Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a couple therapist known for his pioneering work in helping partners form happy, secure, and long-lasting relationships. His method—called PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®)—draws on principles of neuroscience and teaches partners to become what he terms "secure-functioning." Together with his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, Dr...

Recently, a listener posed a question about how to handle attractions towards people outside their relationship. It is normal and healthy to be attracted to people, even to people outside your marriage or long-term relationship. It is what you do with the feelings of attraction that determines if the attraction is going to become constructive or destructive. When we try to hide, conceal, and deny...

What is limerence? Most people see limerence as infatuation, lovesickness or romantic love, while others think of it more as a love obsession or addiction. Limerence is the "I need you, want you, can't live without you" feeling. Limerence ...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "If you heard the story of my 18 year relationship, even you might be surprised Over the last couple of years we really tested the boundaries of us being together Now we are better , stronger , more intimate and communicative than ever before We both proclaim most every day how happy we are that we each stood for the relationship when the other faltered The harshest part we we...

LISTENER'S COMMENT: "I've been listening to your podcasts for the past few weeks and I'd like to say thank you for the insight and information. Unfortunately it's too late to help in my current marriage, but it is very insightful. Coming from a family with parents that didn't show love to one another I never learned how to express it in a productive way. My wife recently filed for divorce and it h...

In this episode, you will hear me share a personal story of dealing with continual roadblocks. I also offer 4 tips on how to deal with the experience of things not working out as planned. (Please listen to the podcast episode or  read the transcript  to hear more explanations, stories and examples.) HOW TO DEAL WITH THINGS NOT WORKING OUT 1.  Understand that experiencing  hardship is a normal  par...

Jeff is a Reichian/Somatic Psychotherapist in Boulder, Colorado who works with men, women, couples, Men's groups, and members of the LGBTQ community in an emotion-focused, body-centered way. His work centers on relationship—both with self and other—and the ways that unacknowledged trauma can inform how we are in relationship. He also works in the realms of soul & shadow, while using awareness prac...

WHAT DOES A SUCCESSFUL, THRIVING, PASSIONATE RELATIONSHIP LOOK LIKE? In this episode, I share with you a little about my personal story and what led me to studying this topic. I also share with you three of the nine themes that came out of my dissertation research. (Please listen to the podcast episode or  read the transcript  to hear more explanations, stories and examples.) 3 BUILDING BLOCKS FOR...