Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Guest Byron Katie: In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression, rage, and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning to a state of constant joy that has never left her. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn't suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of inq...

Guest David Emerald : David Emerald Womeldorff is the Creator-in-Chief of the 3 Vital Questions ® leadership frameworks proven to powerfully boost teamwork and productivity. Thousands of people and organizations have achieved breakthroughs by applying his self-leadership techniques and attending his seminars worldwide. David and his wife and business partner Donna Zajonc (sajon) MCC have developed...

In episode ERP 171 , I read a listener's question and I shared some examples of different types of manipulative behavior. I also offered the first 2 tips on how to deal with manipulative behavior in relationship. If you missed it, I encourage you to check it out. To recap, the first two tips of How To Deal With Manipulative Behavior: 1. Identify The Manipulative Behavior 2. Focus On Your Power, St...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "First of all, thank you so much for doing the podcast. I have been learning so much about relationships and how to better improve my own. My question is about family and parents. Some background on my situation. I have told my very religious parents that I am moving out of the house. My boyfriend and I have found a place together and decided that our next step in our very com...

If you missed  part one and part two , I encourage you to check these episodes out first as it gives to the foundation for today's conversation. In a relationship, it is easy to focus on what our partner is doing that isn't working or is problematic. Yet, at the same time, we often overlook the ways in which we contribute to the problematic pattern. How often do we ask the question, " How lovable...

GUEST: DR. SUSAN HEITLER Susan Heitler PhD is a Denver clinical psychologist and widely-read author. Educated at Harvard and NYU, Susan Heitler offers self-help information for individuals and for couples. Dr. Heitler also writes for therapists, offering new understandings and treatments for anxiety, anger, depression, narcissism, and relationship challenges. Dr. Heitler's web-page provides an ove...

PART-ONE RECAP: In episode 167 , part one, we explored the human tendency to focus on what our partner is doing that isn't working or is problematic. While this is a natural tendency, we are overlooking the ways in which we might be contributing to the pattern of disconnect. How often do we ask the question, "How lovable am I being right now?" Easier said than done. There are many things that get...

In relationship, when we have a concern or an issue about something (as it relates to something our partner is doing that is bothering, upsetting, or offending us), we will likely want to: Point out and identify what your partner is doing wrong. Tell them how you don't like what they are doing. Describe how their behavior is not okay. Illustrate how what they are doing is unfair or not good. In re...

GUEST: Dr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-five years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. She is the author of "Marriage Is Not For Chickens", a perfect gift book on marriage, and hosts a weekly podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Her new book, Perfectly Hidden Depression, will be published by New Harbinger in 2019. SUMMARY: In this episode, Dr. Margaret R...

GUEST: DR. ROBERT NAVARRA Dr. Navarra, Certified Gottman Therapist and Master Trainer has co-authored book chapters with Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Recently he published an article on systemic approaches in addiction treatment and co-authored three articles on Gottman Therapy with Dr. John Gottman for the Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy. Dr. Navarra created  "Roadmap for the Journey: A...

In this episode, you will learn ways to address the difficulty and uncertainty of not knowing if your partner is really "in it" with you and what to do about it. If you missed Part One, you can check it out here . LISTENER'S QUESTIONS: Listener :. ."I'm having a few issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. He just can't seem to stop messaging his exes. He knows I am very uncomfortable with it....

LISTENER'S QUESTIONS: Listener:   …"I'm having a few issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. He just can't seem to stop messaging his Exes (two of them) he knows I am very uncomfortable with it, we've broken up a few times due to this. but I'm starting to think maybe I'm the issue and not him, and I don't know what to do. we just recently got back together again and he is doing again, maybe i...

GUEST: LISA FIRESTONE, PHD Lisa Firestone, PhD is Director of Research and Education with the Glendon Association. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and co-author of Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice and Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: the Wisdom of Psychotherapy, most recently Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA books) Dr Firestone is a practicing clinical psy...

In my last podcast episode,  ERP 160: How to Deal with Anxiety in Relationship I addressed one listener's question a little more than I did the other listener's question. The information in the episode is relevant to what happens in the brain when we experience anxiety and how to work with it. Today, I want to talk a little more about anxiety as it relates to relationship security. If you listened...

Listener's question: "How to not let your anxiety disorder become a third person in your relationship and the hardest part of how to let your partner in on it and help them understand the anxiety attacks aren't because of him." Second Listener's Question: "I recently came across your podcast and I was really intrigued by your words and style of work.  I was hoping you would possibly be able to hel...

GUEST: MARTIN UCIK Martin Ucik is a German born entrepreneur who trained with Eckhart Tolle as a Power Of Now group facilitator and founded www.singles2couples.org, an Association for Healthy Relationships. His studies of Ken Wilber's Integral Model allowed him to integrate his personal experiences as a divorced father and the wisdom from over 200 relationship books into Integral Relationships: A...

In the last two episodes, I explored the drama triangle. In episode  156 , I discussed what the drama triangle is and how is shows up in our interactions with others, especially during conflict. In episode  157 , I explained how we can easily get wrapped up in the victim position and how this can negatively affect our experience in relationship…and more importantly a critical key in how to shift o...

In the  last episode , I discussed the destructive nature of the drama triangle. When faced with conflict, we may quickly see the roles of the persecutor, victim, and rescuer emerge. Although the information isn't specifically directed to a couple, it can help rid of the victim mentality in relationships. If you missed the previous episode, I encourage you to listen to it before listening to this...

TOPIC: SYMPTOMS OF VICTIM MENTALITY IN RELATIONSHIPS FEELING LIKE A VICTIM IN RELATIONSHIP IS AN AWFUL FEELING In relationship, we want and need to feel safe, loved, and valued. When difficult things happen, it can be extremely painful. Sometimes, it is a condition or circumstance that is challenging (like a health issue, family crisis, natural disaster, etc). But when our partner behaves badly or...

TOPIC: HOW TO OVERCOME ENVY IN A RELATIONSHIP ENVY Envy is a normal human experience that results from comparing ourselves to others, and the feeling that we come up short in the comparson. In the article, titled " To Love and To Envy, " by Dana Shavin, she writes "Envy is the emotion that arises when we feel that someone possesses an attribute we crave but lack." But what happens when we compare...

TOPIC: HOW TO DEAL WITH A LOVED ONE WITH CHRONIC PAIN GUEST: JACKIE BLACK, PH.D., BCC Dr. Jackie Black is a marriage expert, educator and Board Certified Coach, serving Couples Facing Life-Threatening and Chronic Illness, and Chronic Pain. Dr. Jackie Black is the creator of the 7-Week, Online Program, Couples Daring to Live Well (with illness) Program™, and the 3-Day Private Destination Retreat, C...

TOPIC: STEPS TO REBUILDING TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP LISTENER'S QUESTION "Thank you for the work you do on your podcast, it has helped me greatly in a hard relationship time. My fiancé and I were supposed to get married on June 28th. Three weeks before the wedding he met me at the courthouse to get our marriage certificate and told me that he couldn't go through with it. This came as a complete shoc...

TOPIC: DEALING WITH SELF ABANDONMENT GUEST: DR. MARGARET PAUL Dr. Margaret Paul is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio and television shows (including Oprah). Her book titles include "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By...

Topic: Fear of outshining in relationship In ERP 150: What to Do When Stuck in Self-Sabotage , I addressed how it is sometimes difficult to accept and embrace new levels of success, love and abundance. Unconsciously, we have a tendency to sabotage the expansion process because of old limiting beliefs. "The Upper Limit Problem is our universal human tendency to sabotage ourselves when we have excee...

In a recent session, a client asked "Am I sabotaging my relationship?" After being divorce and single, she has been in the process of dating. With the guy she is currently dating, she is unsure. She wants marriage and long-term partnership, and she doesn't know if he does. She wants to have an emotionally mature connection, where they are each committed to trying to resolve conflict constructively...