Dragged N Divine

Thank you Stephanie Graham , Spoken Black Girl , and many others for tuning into my live video with Daniëlle van den Stoom ! Join me for my next live video in the app. We were just supposed to test the mic… but the conversation was too rich not to share. 🌹 So welcome to the Pre-Party — a spontaneous live with Daniëlle van den Stoom that set the tone for tomorrow’s Flowers for the Living episode....

We say we’re protecting our peace all the time—but sometimes, if we’re being honest, we’re really just protecting ourselves from the possibility of being hurt again. This week’s episode with India Monee' was such a vulnerable share. India is a lifestyle content creator and wellness advocate who wrote a post about being “the girl with the big personality”—the one who walks into a room full of light...

Happy Tuesday y’all. It’s been a little while since I left you a voice note, so consider this a love note from me to you. A little over a week ago, I took a trip with my family and friends to celebrate my baby sister’s birthday. And oh did we CELEBRATE! But then something happened I wasn’t prepared for. When we attended the concert at the end of the trip, El DeBarge came on stage. And the very fir...

Hey y’all, This conversation with Dr. Eboni Truss made me think about how many of us are living lives that don’t actually belong to us. Not because we’re lazy. Not because we don’t know who we are. But because somewhere along the way, somebody else’s voice got louder than our own. You know the ones: * “Tone it down.” * “Be seen, not heard.” * “Speak when spoken to.” * “Do as I say, not as I do.” *...

This week on The Mediocre Black Woman , I sit down with Dr. Ebony Stone—executive coach, author of The Power of the Pause , and a truth-teller about what it really means to take the cape off. Dr. Ebony opens up about the moment she realized she had been “functioning in a deficit” for years, and the journey that followed—crying in her car during therapy sessions, learning to protect her peace, and...

Compassion & Accountability The Pisces Lunar Eclipse carries powerful, emotional energy—a call to release illusions, strengthen boundaries, and reconnect with intuition. Pisces is compassion, surrender, and softness. But under an eclipse, those qualities get tested. Over the past week, I kept seeing the same theme arise in conversations around me: the tension between compassion and accountability....

Hey y’all! As I mentioned in the video, I’m hosting a podcast workshop this Sunday 🎙️. This round is capped at 15 women , and we’ve only got 2 spots left — so if you’ve been thinking about it, now’s the time to grab your seat! 👉 If registration fills up, no worries — you can join the waitlist . And while this round is focused on women, the waitlist is open to everyone for future workshops as I ex...

This week, I wanted to give us something we don’t always get enough of: space to breathe. The past month on The Mediocre Black Woman has been full of transition for so many of us, endings and beginnings of many kinds. Many of you have even reached out to share your own stories with me, and I just want to say thank you for trusting me with them. I know these times can feel heavy. Sometimes survival...

Earlier this week, my bestie Goddess Jasmine came on the pod to talk about not letting people play with us anymore. Well… Spirit heard that and said, “Bet. Let’s take it to the next level.” 😅 In true dramatic fashion, Jasmine went from dreaming about fighting coworkers to literally getting on a Zoom with HR and her micro-manager. But before they could even get the script out, she dropped the mic...

August has been Bestie Month here at The Mediocre Black Woman , and this week y’all get to meet thee bestie —the one I voice note with on the daily, Goddess Jasmine of Housewife Turned Healer . This episode is giving “stop playing with me before I write about you” energy 😂. Not because anybody’s out here taking notes with revenge in mind, but because sometimes the stories are just too funny, too...

What happens when you’re blindsided by a layoff, on your way to get your nails done? Or when you remember that even though you were the “one of one” in your company, they can and will still cut your role without hesitation? That’s where me and my girl Tasha found ourselves not too long ago. One email/text message flipped our whole day upside down: “Sis, my role was impacted.” A few minutes later,...

Perfectionism can feel safe… until it starts choking your authenticity. In this conversation with my sister friend Keachia — licensed therapist, coach, and truth-teller — we unpack the ways shame, the need for validation, and the mother wound shape how we see ourselves… and how we can break free. This episode has divine timing written all over it (you’ll hear why mid-recording 👀). We talk about:...

Can I just be in my feelings? Do I have to understand the lesson?! lol!!!! This was me yesterday— fully avoiding the prayer closet, chile. Knowing damn well going in there always gets me together. And maybe that’s the point. I didn’t want to recognize the lesson or get clarity. I wanted to sulk, pout, shout, and cry. (Granted, I still did most of that in the prayer closet.) This Substack is reader...

Hey y’all. Happy Tuesday! Before we get into it—yes, I sound a little different today. I’m not fully sick, but I’ve been feeling the effects of a full-body purge these past two weeks since being laid off. It’s like my body is finally releasing what I’ve been holding onto in silence for too long. So I’m just clearing space. And that feels like a win. This week’s episode is a voice note. Not because...

What if the thing that saves you isn’t hustle, healing retreats, or a big break…but a $5 journal and the decision to keep waking up? In this soul-stirring conversation, I sit down with Valencia , Elite Neuro Encoding Specialist and founder of Ease Over Exhaustion . Her story? It begins with unbearable burnout and continues with the radical power of gratitude. This episode is tender, powerful, and...

Hey y’all. So this voice note... whew. It came out of a moment that really lit me up emotionally, spiritually, and energetically. Something happened earlier this week that stirred up some divine rage and reminded me just how important it is to protect your vision, especially in its early stages. I’m talking about what happens when you share your sacred work with people who are misaligned, disconne...

You’re Not Lazy, You’ve Just Never Been Asked What You Want Let that land. Then read it again. Let’s be real. Most of us have been in go-mode for so long that when things finally slow down, even just a little, we start questioning everything. Not because we don’t deserve rest. Not because we don’t have dreams. But because no one’s ever really asked us: “What do you want?” Not “what are you good at...

Dragged and Divine: I Got Laid Off. On the Capricorn Full Moon. And I Feel... Free. Like JT said, “I'on work jobs, bitch, I am a job.” 😂 I got laid off today, on my day off. During a Full Moon. In Capricorn. And I’m a Capricorn Sun in the 10th house of career. You really can’t script it better than that. I was just trying to rest, y’all. And instead, I got released. The timing? Impeccable. Divine...

There’s a particular ache that comes from realizing you’ve been more committed to being loved than being yourself . I’ve been there. Most of us have. You bend, you shrink, you rationalize, and before you know it, the reflection in the mirror looks like someone who gave up pieces of herself just to be “chosen.” This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider be...

This week’s Dragged and Divine Thought: "You ever try to force your way forward and end up stuck in the same spot, but more tired? Yeah. Me too." This week's episode of The Mediocre Black Woman wasn’t the one I planned, but it’s the one that we needed. I had three entire episode outlines prepped. But nothing was clicking. I kept rotating, rewriting, resisting and it turns out, that was the episode...

We’re deep in the Dragged & Divine series, bestie — and today’s episode? Whew. It’s for anybody who’s ever set a boundary and then immediately questioned everything. The Thought That Sparked It All: This episode was born from a thought I had while writing last week’s Sunday Soul Session. “Maybe the fear is about not being useful — because we equate usefulness with our value. And we’ve been require...

Welcome officially to the first episode in our new series. Dragged & Divine is a space for Black women to lay down what we were never meant to carry—and reclaim the wisdom in what we’ve already survived. This series is a reckoning with the roles we’ve inherited, the pressure we’ve normalized, and the truths we’ve been told to swallow. It’s part confession, part clarity, always in service of libera...

We’re almost at the finish line with our Draft Drops—and up next is the debut of our new series, Dragged and Divine . Until then, here’s one of our final posts from the Draft Drops collection. “We opened the door and let the devil inside…” — from The Fall of Ruby Franke So I was watching Devil in the Family: The Fall of Ruby Franke , and this one line from the husband jumped out at me. He said: “W...

Whew — it’s been a time , y’all. From family resets to spiritual work, from shows to actual apartment fires (yes, really 😭), this week reminded me that clarity doesn’t always come quietly. We’re heading into a full moon in Sagittarius, and you might already feel it building. Inside this voice note:✨ Why creation flows better when you actually live ✨ What I’ve been moving through lately✨ The mo...

Here’s another one from the vault. This was supposed to be voice note #3 when I first started doing these… and somehow it’s now #34 😩. I’ve got so much new stuff I’m hype to share, but I made a promise to myself to clear the vault first. And let me tell you—this has been way harder than I thought 😭. I miss connecting with y’all in real time. Okay, hard pivot into today’s post. I wrote a note on...