Down To Earth with the Burucharas

We can't believe it's almost been a year since we launched the podcast! We've been privileged to have a total of 15 guests interview with us and I (David) wanted to share with you the top 10 lessons that I've learned from them in this first solo episode! If you're new to the podcast, this is a great episode to help guide you on what episodes you might be interested in. And if you've been part of t...

In this episode, we're finally addressing heartbreak, a topic frequently requested over private emails and messages. Whether from a mutual break-up, betrayal, rejection, or something else, heartbreak in romantic relationships happens and it hurts a lot. Why does it hurt so bad and how can we move on and heal? Join us as we share a few of our personal heartbreak experiences as well as tried-and-tru...

In this episode, we're honored to have Shirin Peykar, LMFT sit down with us to talk about identifying and dealing with a narcissist, particularly in the context of romantic relationships. Deriving from her 10 years of experience helping survivors of narcissistic abuse, as well as her own past experience, having been married to a narcissist, we learned so much from this conversation and trust you w...

Decades of studies, by the Gottman Institute, reveal that the #1 killer of relationships is rejecting a loved one's appeals for connection. In today's episode, we dive deep into how we at times, knowingly or unknowingly, find ourselves doing so by:1) discrediting their needs,2) discrediting their autonomy, and 3) discrediting their characterMore importantly, how can we respond more lovingly to app...

In this episode, we're honored to sit with pastor, therapist-in-training, and author, Edsel Cadet, as he opens up and shares about:his journey integrating mental health into his spirituality and how you can toowhy it's not enough for you or your partner to "love the Lord"why he co-authored the book, "Still Thirsty" on healing & sexual fulfillment, and how we can change conversations on sex in...

You've probably seen at least one of those cringeworthy "Top Marriage Proposal Rejections" videos and like us, you may, or may not, be wondering "How did they not see this coming?!". In today's episode, we talk about why we believe pre-engagement counseling is much more important than pre-marital counseling (though both are important!) coupled with the need for more open, honest, and regular conve...

In this episode, we talk about a complicated emotion common to all of us: guilt. As moral beings, guilt signals to us of a wrong course taken so we can redirect our steps in the right path. However, more often than not guilt is used as a form of manipulation (the guilt trip), and is too frequently a destructive primary driver of our behavior. We realized that how you handle guilt can either lead y...

Studies show that social rejection activates the same pain pathways in the brain as physical pain. This might help explain the hurtful experience of being ghosted: when someone terminates a relationship by ending communication abruptly and without explanation. A recurring phenomenon in the internet age, join us as we dig in to understand:What is ghosting and why it differs from silent treatment/st...

In this episode, we take a walk down memory lane to reflect on why we made a decision not to say "I Love You" to each other until we were engaged, after 3 years of dating. We want to emphasize that this wasn't a rule but a choice we made. Join us as we recall the conversation we had that led to the decision, our reasoning behind it, how it impacted our relationship, and the "accidental" time David...

In today's episode, we delve into why all lasting and meaningful relationships in life are founded on trust, however, in pursuit of this ideal, we found ourselves trusting too little and/or trusting too much. Join us as we share our personal "trust issues" as well as:Reasons why we trust too little or too muchWhy love doesn't always equate to trust Why it's easier to break trust than to build it4...

In today's episode, we celebrate the holiday by focusing on the relationship that transcends all other relationships that we usually talk about on this podcast. How do we practically frame and approach our relationship with God in the context of our core human relationships, especially our romantic ones? We explore this as well as share 7 guiding principles to help you and a loved one(s) spend mea...

In this episode, we talk about a little-understood trait that is found in 15-20% of people, including Callie. Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) are essentially people that experience the world in high definition. However, HSPs have often been misinterpreted and mistaken for having certain disorders or illnesses. Join us as we recount our shocking discovery that Callie was an HSP as well as:Why her HS...

In this episode, we're joined by Jacent Wamala, a licensed marriage, and family therapist (LMFT) and money mindset coach, as she shares the critical intersection between money and relationships. Having paid off over $90,000 of debt in under two years while dating and now married, she provides some valuable gems on how to get our money mindset right first as individuals before doing so in our relat...

In this episode, we decided to celebrate, our dog, Everest's one-year anniversary as a new family member by sharing 3 crucial life lessons having her has taught us. We hope that you'll be able to apply these lessons to yourself as well as your relationships. Even if you're not an animal person (fun fact: Callie actually isn't one!), we believe you'll find this episode valuable. Enjoy!-------------...

This is the final episode in our 5 part series on Dating Essentials — 5 foundational principles for meaningful and fulfilling dating relationships. In our final episode of the series, we’re honored to bring back Sebastien Braxton to discuss the role and significance of boundaries, particularly physical boundaries, during dating. We also address frequently asked questions surrounding this topic, in...

This is the 4th episode in our 5 part series on Dating Essentials — 5 foundational principles for meaningful and fulfilling dating relationships. In this penultimate episode, we examine why successful dating typically takes time. But that begs the question, how much time? Is there a recommended minimum or suggested range? A number of months or a couple of years? Well, it depends. Join us as we div...

This is the 3rd part in our series on Dating Essentials — 5 foundational principles for meaningful and fulfilling dating relationships. In this episode, we delve into why accountability is such a crucial element in relationships, especially in dating. We always want to ensure that our most impactful relationships reflect the values that are most important to us. Yet often, emotional attachment, th...

This is the 2nd part in our series on Dating Essentials — 5 foundational principles for meaningful and fulfilling dating relationships. In this episode, we challenge the myth that romantic relationships are necessary to be complete, whole, and happy in life. Many of us may agree that we are indeed complete in spite of a romantic relationship but do we actually believe it? Do we actually live it? J...

This is the beginning of our series on Dating Essentials — 5 foundational principles for meaningful and fulfilling dating relationships. In this episode, we begin by laying the foundation with purpose. Why are you dating? Or Why are you trying to date? Oftentimes, we can give a lofty, well-articulated answer. But is this our actual purpose? What are the attributes of a good purpose? Join us as we...

For some of us, date night - a planned occasion when you and your significant other spend 1-on-1 time cultivating emotional closeness through an activity - feels like a no-sweat reflex action. For others, it’s a nice-to-have but not a must-have. And for many, they often sense the need but find themselves battling with several barriers such as:I can’t find the timeI’m just too exhaustedI can’t thin...

"Life is at best a chain of transitions, that is we are either going to, going through, or coming out of a transition."In this episode, we sat down with the wise Jackson Saya, a former zoologist, and current life transition coach, who shares how parasites-the masters of transitions in nature -provide us with the keys to navigate change in our relationships. With these principles, we learn how our...

In this episode, we discuss a question often floated by listeners and that is, is online dating okay? Doesn’t it seem unnatural and inauthentic? Isn't it forced and where does God’s will in waiting for a partner come into play? Join us as we address some of these common hesitations as well as:Potential benefits of online datingPotential risks of online dating Principles for healthy online datingAs...

In this episode, we delve into the realm of assumptions within relationships — accepting things regarding a person as true without proof. Living in the unverified reality of assumptions is often a source of grief and heartache; but we don't have to live there. Some examples of possible assumptions may be:She didn’t call me last night, so she's clearly not interestedHe may seem rude and dismissive...

“They say distance means so little when someone means so much. But still, somehow distance has this ability to break bonds, to break trust, to push us further away from each other not just physically but emotionally”On our first podcast of the year, we’re honored to share a recent conversation with one of our favorite couples, Jonathan and Amanda Walter. Long distance - across multiple timezones -...

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! As many around the world celebrate the hope and joy that Christ's birth brings, we decided to focus on a key relationship that surrounded His birth: Joseph and Mary, His earthly parents. Join us as we reflect on the oft-overlooked details of the early stages of this relationship; then, as we explore 3 resulting lessons we can bring into our own relationships fro...