Diving Deep AF- The Relationship Podcast

In this episode, we reflect on a popular quote, "find a partner who can love you the way you want to be loved as opposed to the way they want to love you." What is the "love" being described here? What is it to have your needs met in your romantic relationship? What should you ask for from your partner? We go deep on what's problematic with this quote and share many examples of relationships probl...

You asked, so here it is! We bring Mike's two daughters (12 and 14) onto the podcast for this epic episode to talk bad vs good parenting and helping your kids emotionally regulate...plus plenty of ridiculous banter as per our usual. Get ready to take notes. These kids have important wisdom to share. Connect with us and submit episode suggestions at cailinohara.com/deepaf ❤️

Is the person you're with in your romantic relationship the one that you should be with? Your partner may love you, but how much interest do they show in who you really are, your interests and your life? We want you know: are they your hype person and are you theirs? Listen in as we go deep on ways this may relate to you and then come connect with us at cailinohara.com/deepaf ❤️

Listeners have asked us to address aspects of parenting from Mike's perspective. In this episode, we will be talking about supporting your kids with their emotional regulation. Most of all, we emphasize that this is not about putting all of the focus on your kids, but on you, your family as a unit, and how all of you respond to life, emotions, and stressors. We are not experts on the topic and are...

What really is "safe masculine" energy? Take a look at social media, and you'll see countless influencer types sharing their ideas on it. In this episode, we'll dive into some of this content we call total BS on to help highlight what "safe" masculine is and is NOT. Connect with us at cailinohara.com/deepaf

In the right relationship for you, you can experience incredible sex and intimacy. However, we are often misled- even by "experts"- who are teaching us that lacking, nonexistent or disconnected sex is something that we can overcome or try to survive on in less than ideal relationship dynamics. We have a different perspective… and it's a really good one. Tune in so we can help you discover the unli...

Do you feel consistently loved by your partner in your relationship? What is it to feel loved? Is it something that your partner has to prove to you or is it a constant? Are you often thinking about the state of your relationship, feeling anxious or unsettled, and wanting a deeper connection? This also leads into a conversation around how you may be settling in your relationship or allowing for a...

In this episode, we discuss how even though we think our relationships are the problem, there is something much deeper at play. We will explore some of the biggest ways we give our power and energy to people, places, and things that don't actually serve us or our growth. This is really a conversation about the truth of who you are, the potential that you have, and the life you actually want to liv...

We kick off this episode by going over an amusing one star review we recently received. Thanks, Jenny! Otherwise, we dive deep af into the concept that your relationship mirrors you. You are not to blame for your partner cheating on you, shaming you or disrespecting you. Their behaviors are their problem and their responsibility. We will help you understand what your responsibility may be- and it...

If you want to learn how to maintain the emotional connection with your husband, boyfriend, or partner… you may want to tune in. In this episode, we'll explore one perspective on the emotional capacity of men while Cailin interviews Mike. Find us at cailinohara.com/deepaf

Big news! We are engaged! Also, and in completely unrelated news… in this episode, we’re going to discuss 12 types of micro-abandonment in relationships. Do you feel abandoned in your relationship? Are you the abandon-er? Tune in, find out. Connect with us at cailinohara.com/deepaf

Manifesting your soulmate is one hot topic... and here's our hot take on it! We've been calling BS on all kinds of things recently here- so, of course, we can't leave this out. We talk the practical, spiritual, metaphysical, and plain old BS when it comes to calling in the right person for you. Have anything you want us to talk about? Shoot us a message, you sexy MFers! Don't be shy🔥 cailinohara....

Love isn't transactional. It's not something you measure and try to balance like a checking account. But there is a popular relationship practice called making "love deposits," which we call BS on. We share our opinions about how these practices are not necessarily safe, authentic nor nurturing behaviors in relationships. If you want more for yourself and your partnership, tune in. You deserve a r...

Dr. Cailin and Mike pull no punches and slam a common misconception that fighting in relationships is "healthy." Referencing a quote that "you can love each other a lot and still be destructive fighters in your relationship," they go deep on the problem with normalizing dysfunction and chaos with couples. They emphasize that safe love doesn't involve destructive arguments and dynamics. The answer...

Dr. Cailin and Mike discuss a highly influential author's recent Instagram post about relationships and why they think it is utter BS. They will go over why it's a fallacy to believe that relationships are hard and the harmful ways people can see one another in their relationships that invalidates their emotions and creates unsafe dynamics. Send us content you love or hate when it comes to relatio...

Let's debunk the myth that healthy relationships take "hard" work. What does hard work really mean? Dr. Cailin and Mike will break down the differences between a) easy and healthy relationships going through hard times or conversations vs b) relationships that are hard regardless of life circumstances. Reach out to us at cailinohara.com/deepaf with your feedback- we'd love to hear your thoughts. ❤...

In this jam-packed episode, we go deep around how core wounding can be healed and cleared with the right partner for you. Healing doesn't have to take years... it can take a moment. You can erase years of trauma and move through old wounds in mere moments by utilizing safe love as part of your relationship dynamic. We share stories and examples of mending relationship disconnects, working through...

In this compelling episode, Cailin and Mike discuss how empathy plays a crucial role in relationship safety. Join us as we shed light on the alarming consequences when empathy is lacking in one partner, leading to potential harm and even abuse in the relationship. We will discuss navigating the complexities of being an empathetic person entwined with someone lacking empathy and emotional maturity....

In this episode, Cailin and Mike delve into the crucial topic of repairing disconnection in romantic relationships. Just like our reliance on a stable Wi-Fi connection, maintaining a strong emotional bond with our partners is vital for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Join us as we explore how the metaphor of Wi-Fi serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of swiftly addressing disconn...

Join us as we journey together to undercover what’s really behind our feelings of inadequacy and the power of validation in strengthening the emotional bond between partners. Cailin and Mike discuss their shared traumas around feeling like they were not enough and how true and safe connection can turn the tables in a relationship. They also address how to create a safe and nurturing space where yo...

Join us as we shed light on the hidden toll of toxic love. In this thought provoking episode, Cailin and Mike dive deep into the intricate connection between toxic romantic relationships and their impact on our physical well-being. They also engage in a spirited debate about a popular social media post on relationships that they find misleading and inaccurate. They also provide an alternative pers...

What the heck even is the “honeymoon phase” and why can’t it coexist with safe love? Cailin and Mike bust out the whiteboard and breakdown why this beginning phase of relationships has run its course and why it shouldn’t exist. Sit back, grab your favorite beverage, and take some notes as Cailin and Mike debunk one of society's biggest relationship myths.

What is safe love? Cailin and Mike go deep into what safe love is, how it shows up in a relationship, and why it’s so important to lead with it.

Bringing up your fears, worries and concern to your partner can be stressful, unproductive, feel impossible ... or even be unsafe. In this episode, Dr. Cailin and Mike go deep about addressing fears together with your partner and why it’s important. Mike also brings up a fear to Cailin, and they process it in real time.

Reconnecting with our partners can be hard, especially when that spark isn't always present. Cailin and Mike discuss a fun little daily dose of intimacy that can help you reconnect with your partner.