Curious Fox

What nuances are missing from our understanding of consent? How does racism play a role in our conversations about consent? How can we have radically inclusive education about sex and consent?  Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Lydia Collins to talk about consent education, bodily autonomy within the context of race, and the difference between having a type and objectifying or fetishising someone....

How can feminism expand to make room for and even celebrate intersectionality? What is the role of joy in identity formation? How can we build communities that see and hold all of who we are? Effy and Jacqueline hang out with “Juliet Takes a Breath” author Gabby Rivera to talk about drawing from the collective wisdom of feminism and sex-positivity to create QTBIPOC spaces that prioritize represent...

What is the Madonna-whore complex? Why has this caricature pit women against each other? How can we disrupt the good girl/ bad girl narrative that impacts the way we see and are seen? Inspired by a story shared by our Assistant Producer, Effy and Jacqueline unpack why some men don’t feel like they can get freaky with their girlfriends/fiancés/wives, and instead seek out adventurous or kinky sex wi...

How does our upbringing and early childhood experiences affect our mate selection? Do we need to be “healed” to find a healthy relationship? Can the relationships we struggle in the most be places where we can heal and grow? Can trauma be a bonding experience and how is “trauma bonding” different? Effy and Jacqueline explore the love-at-first-sight myth and try to parse apart the difference betwee...

Why would anyone use sex toys? How do toys enhance the sexual experience? How do you find the right toy and where can you get them? And how do you avoid internal frostbite??? Effy and Jacqueline catch up with a long time Friend of the Fox, co-host of Netflix’s Principles of Pleasure , and the creator and host of Sex Ed a Go Go, Dirty Lola, to talk all about sex toys. Self proclaimed dildo swinger,...

What is sex misinformation and what kind of sex misinformation is out there? Why is it so prevalent? Why is it important to talk about the false sex narritives and what can we do about stopping the spread of this information? Effy and Jacqueline chat with multi-award-winning reporter and the author of Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, Sophia Smith Galer about prevailing sex myths; how...

Are there different modes to the same relationships? Can feeling safe, settled and comfy get in the way of passion and the erotic? How do we know what type of connection is available in any given relationship? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are exploring a relationship theory that encourages people to consider different states the same relationship. Rest and reason, flirt and f*ck and discon...

We are back with another Fox Tales episode, with stories of lives that challenge the status quo. This week we will hear the story of Bear and Fifi ( @bear.n.fifi ). A few years into their relationship, after slowly taking down their walls to lean into love and trust, Bear revealed to Fifi that he is transgender and that he wanted to go through the process of transitioning.  In this episode, they c...

Is a relationship a success only if it progresses in a socially prescribed sequence of states from dating to till-death-do-us-apart - also known as the relationship escalator? What is solo polyamory and how is it different from good-old-fashion dating? Why does single-by-choice carry so much stigma?   Effy and Jacqueline invite journalist and author Amy Gahran to the show to discuss the relationsh...

What does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths as simple as 50+50 makes 100%? In this revisited episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down to work out what is the right maths when it comes to the division of effort that goes into a relationship while comparing parental relationship dynamics to adult romantic relationship dyn...

What does scientific research tell us about relationship satisfaction in non-monogamy? What can monogamous folks learn from the research done on non-monogamous relationships? How do monogamy and non-monogamy differ when it comes to relationship satisfaction, mate retention, and conflict resolution?    Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best an...

As Pride month comes to an end, we were curious: What keeps us from feeling proud of our gender or orientation? How does the politicalization of our gender and orientation impact the way we feel about ourselves? How can we create spaces - within ourselves and within our homes and communities - where our identity as LGBTQ folk can be nurtured?  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Ar...

What does desire have to do with LGBTQ+ liberation? Is there room for eroticism within the fight for equity?  Often when we tell or hear queer stories, they are stories of trauma, sadness and hardship. Even happy tales tend to be stories of overcoming obstacles, winning against adversity, healing from hurt.   In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Jaime Grant about how stories of plea...

This week we bring you a Pride installment of our new feature, Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. Tiana Glittersaurus Rex is a Black, queer, kinky, polyamorous woman in New York City. Tiana shares her journey of going from a traditional marriage to a joyful and active member of the kink, poly, and femme dom communities. She has not only discovered her authentic self express...

Erectile dysfunction, STIs, vaccinations, and safe anal play are important conversations for men – particularly queer men – to have with their doctor’s and partners. However sometimes the most important conversations are also the most difficult ones. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride and Men’s Health Month by speaking with the “butt stuff” doctor, Mayo Clinic trained gastroenter...

How can queer folks explore the full scope of their attraction if they are in a monogamous relationship? How can we stay within integrity and still tap into our desire to connect with people of different genders? Inspired by a listener question, Effy and Jacqueline kick off pride month by sharing some strategies for how to explore your sexuality, while staying within your relationship agreements....

Even though it sounds different why does it feel like we are having the same fight with our partners over and over again? What does it take to change the patterns we fall into when we are amidst an argument? What are some of the common mistakes that lock us into seemingly irreconcilable discourse?  This week Effy and Jacqueline do a coaching session to address the argument patterns Jackie and her...

Why do we say hurtful things to people we love? Why do we make agreements that we can’t or don’t want to keep? Why do we cheat, even when we are mindful of the consequences?  Effy and Jacqueline go on a quest to figure out why we step out of integrity in our relationships with others and ourselves and what we can do to prevent those transgressions by exploring the hot-cold empathy gap coined by Ge...

All mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs .  They explore everything from key phrases to google, the distinction between the types of...

In a world where self-care has become synonymous with warm baths and face masks, how can we truly care for ourselves? Is taking it easy and putting your feet up the best way to support your mental health? How can we find a self-care practice that supports our current mental health needs? In honor of mental health month , Effy and Jaqueline take an intentional deep dive into focus on the most impor...

Threesomes are a great way to explore sexuality and dip your toe into opening up your relationship. But how much of it do you plan and how much of it do you leave to chance? No one ever seems to talk about the uncomfortable parts of setting up a threesome, what makes a threesome good or bad, and what happens afterward? What should you discuss with your partner *before* you get in the sheets with a...

Why are date nights so important? What happens when date nights become an obligation or duty? How can we approach date nights with creativity and ensure they are in service of the relationships and those in it?  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to design-conscious date nights (and days and weekends) that serve different purposes depending on what the relationship might need and sha...

Tantra, which means woven together in Sanskrit, brings the spiritual and sexual together in an experience that deepens connection and intimacy. Though thousands of years old, many have not explored this practice because of myths and misinformation. Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Barbara Carrellas to explore urban tantra, an accessible adaptation of this ancient tradition. To find out more about...

We are going back to our roots with this episode. Curious Fox started in Brooklyn basements, with regular people courageously sharing personal stories of going against the grain in love and connection.   This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are introducing Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. They are bringing you the tale of @lucy.sweetkill , pro Dom and BDSM life coach,...

How do you define modern monogamy? What does fidelity mean in the context of monogamy? How do you design a monogamous relationship so that both parties can thrive? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that monogamous relationships have to be one-size-fits-all. They celebrate those who are choosing to nurture one romantic relationship , take a meaningful look at our underst...