Conversations with Toi

Happy Friday and we have a new episode this week. There is a lot going on with Cardi B, P Diddy, Hoda KotB and more. So with that said let's dive into the episode of Keep us out of the group chat. If you think this is a bashing episode it's not. .......................... Topics discussed is the hits that many women take in their careers for our children. Hoda doing what she needs to do for her ch...

Who has your joy? Joy sometimes is what we give away-why. Joy is not for sale. You don't need to give the keys to your happiness to others. Often times we count on others to be happy. Your happiness is your job, Do it well. What is your joy and happiness worth? ......... We talked about P Diddy many times and this week he was charged and denied bail 3 times. What does that mean for his victims? Hi...

On this week we remind you how deserving of good you are owed. Life happens to all of us. When things go left remember that you are deserving of the life you seek. Do the work. Remain committed to the good. . Also Diddy the Diddler is at it again and this time with Danity Kane's own Dawn Richards. The abuse she alleges is heartbreaking. At this point I don't know if cancel culture really exists bu...

Sometimes the lows of mental health can be a lot. This week I felt like I had been hit so hard that it felt impossible to get through. I want to remind you that it felt like that, and I was able to push through. If you have moments when you feel like you are tested and you feel like you are losing, you aren't. .................. Such tools as therapy, setting boundaries, retreating temporarily are...

Welcome to another week of an episode of Conversations with Toi. This week we are on top of the social media stories that has been on the internet. From the 17 year old mom who was being put out due to not cooking food for her 20 year old. In addition there is a picture floating around the internet of young girls who happen to be high schoolers with bust down wigs, lashes, and more. So the convers...

Welcome to another week and another set of topics. This week we talk about boundaries and how setting them is helpful for your mental health. This all stems from the uproar over Jackie Aina blocking people for saying underhanded comments over her possible nuptials. FYI Jackie has always stood on the blocking ministry. . In addition we are about to send these kids back in the classroom so while we...

Some of us allow the OK friend to exist in your world even when their lack of friendship was never okay. Everyone has a life but when a pattern of friendship is drier than the Sahara then it is time to call it. I know that we want more from ourselves and our friends so don't play games thinking you can revive a dead situation because you can't ......................... In addition,... what is your...

Relationships are beautiful. If you are with the wrong person it can be a detriment to your mental health. This week we saw stories of Triad wives and how the men who are in controlling your every move. The one in particular gave up Julliard to be with her now husband. They have 8 children where she wasn't allowed to have an epidural. ......................... Can a man that calls the shots be the...

Chianti Lomax took a jump for her life when she jumped out a plane. What that taught her about fear and so many other lessons compelled her to write the book, Evolving While Black . This book is for those who are ready to make changes while also acknowledging their own mental wellness. ................... This conversation style book is life changing. Like Lomax has said being able to say things t...

Today is the celebration of 4 years of Conversations with Toi. In the 4 years of podcasting there is so much to say and so many wonderful people to think. On this episode I celebrate continuing on with the goal of creating this content. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, But it also serves as an encouragement to all who listen to know that in life you have to be willing to move forward regardless of what y...

This is the last episode of Season 10. Do not worry I will be back. I love to incorporate breaks. But be on standby in case anything should happen. In addition, check out the many other episodes from past seasons until our official return. ............................ On this episode I am covering summer vibes. How to take care of your mental health during the summer. Summer may be light but menta...

Its Fathers day weekend and I am not sugar coating how these fathers are. However it is not in the way that you think. I share my own pain around my own biological father. What it means to have that Kirk Franklin' Somebody's son(daughter) experience. .... Why are some Content Creators so mean and full of drama? Yall just eating it up. Everytime you share bad content, controversial content, and mor...

If you ever been in your people pleasing phase then you know the toll it takes on your mental health. From being mad at yourself for always feeling giving in and not saying no when it needs to, from feeling as if your being nice is hurting you, and more, You know that people pleasing isn't where you want to be. So like Melissa said, we not holding hands anymore. No more trying to get folks to see...

The news broke of Trump being a 34 time felon while I was driving and talking to my grandma-what a wild time in the world. As a political science major I do not argue folks down about who they vote for. It is not my business. However it does say a lot on both sides about people. So don't let the election take you into the arguing with people way it's not worth it. ....................... However h...

It's Memorial Day weekend which means the unofficial summer has begun. We taking trips and using our PTO but we have to act right. What is your mental health regiment for flying or taking a road trip ? I have mine that has been working. From packing a few weeks to a week before, arriving to airport 2 hours ahead to eat and have a beverage. There are things that we can do to help ease things like a...

We have none other than Kevin Ross . He is a breath of fresh air. You may know him from his hit Long Song Away. He is a writer, singer, and producer. His songs are mesmerizing and his range undeniable. He is coming to Philadelphia to a sold out show on May 25th at City Winery. He does have tickets available for the Pittsburgh show happening that Sunday. ........... We talk about his passions, what...

Happy Mother's Day to all of the moms. Its a hard job with no days off but when you are doing it right it is the most rewarding. For all of those who do not have their mom or have a strained relationship with their mom I am sending love your way .......................... With it being Mother's Day I wanted to make sure that I had the mother of all mothers on and included my mom. We talk about goi...

Sometimes in life we believe in order to inspire you have to have it all together. That is not the case. Today's guest is Ella Shae. ............................. Mental health advocate Ella Shae’s book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken , offers her first-hand experience on the importance of self-care and why taking time for yourself ultimately makes you a better partner, parent, companion, and f...

What is the call to action for Black Maternal Health week? To save our black moms. All moms deserve to deliver safely, to be heard during postpartum care and more. But we know that there is a disparity. According to the CDC: Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than White women. Multiple factors contribute to these disparities, such as variation in quality...

Mental health doesn't stop at the prayer line. It is important to be faith based in life but when warranted get the help you need from a professional. If you ever grew up under a faith based lifestyle many times you hear that you have to pray, give it to God,and move on. ........................... Moving on when your mind isn't allowing you to is hard. Moving on when you need to see a therapist o...

On this episode we talk about grace and the challenge to give grace in the same way that we seek it from others. I learned a lesson in therapy this week that grace isn't always once and done. You have to remind yourself often. .......................... I talk about therapy, parenting, doing new things that are uncomfortable for you especially in your mental health healing journey. All things are...

When you are living in your mental health often times you second guess yourself on all levels. After months and years of going through it many times you look for validation from others. Listen, no...We must find ways to validate ourselves. Learning to tell your story without waiting for those to tell it for you. Owning your power is key. .......................... On the podcast we talk briefly ab...

No one I know wants to us their life to save others if there life has to be on the line. However we honor the life of Jessica Pettway by using it to help us save the countless of other women who need second opinions and more. .................................... Trigger warning: Cervical Cancer, death, misdiagnosis, and more We talk about the death of Jessica Pettway as it pertains to the mishandl...

I wonder if men knew that bragging about how strong your significant other was by staying in a relationship with someone is NOT a flex. Every relationship has their ups and downs. However, if you saw that by stepping over my boundaries multiple times and being okay with that is crazy work. .......................... How do we justify bad behavior time and time again? Men and some women, please und...

What does commitment have to do with the Cirque du Soleil Corteo? Everything as we have acrobat Joris Kondija share his reasons for starting with gymnastics and how staying the course led him to the brand of Cirque du Soleil. ................................. We have to stay committed to something in this world that seems to want to encourage failing. So here's to you taking this conversation and...