Breaking Up with our Bullsh!t

 Episode 73: “Don’t Feed Those Dangerous Beasts”   Picking up from last week’s episode, Tawny and JDK tackle unpleasantness - and especially our stories about “needing to run” from it and make ourselves “feel better” no matter what. Why do we fear it - and feed it - so often? What could emerge for us if we didn’t? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at htt...

  Episode 72: "Did Curiosity Really Kill the Cat?"   What makes curiosity so powerful and helpful in our lives when we come at it from a place of Presence? There is liberation and ease and freedom in being more open to possibilities, to not needing to find answers too quickly, and to bringing us closer to clarity. Allowing ourselves time to experience such things keeps the BS stories at a distance...

Episode 71: "The Shoe of Doom"   The story of "waiting for the other shoe to drop" can be one of the most powerful and prevalent BS stories out there. How can we recognize that story when we see it? And what can we learn from it? As it turns out, there's quite a bit of value in seeing this in ourselves.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19...

Episode 70: “The Heart Doesn’t Travel Through Time”   Tawny nearly knocks JDK out of his seat - twice - in this episode, first by reframing “mindfulness” as “heartfulness” and then by truth-bombing him with an amazing time travel metaphor that illustrates the power of being centered in our bodies instead of staying stuck in our heads. It’s powerful stuff for us all! See Privacy Policy at https://a...

Episode 69: “Real Adulting Is Fun and Free” Tawny and JDK tackle “adulting” in this episode! We so often talk about it in negative terms. But what if it was actually fun and free of old coping mechanisms that no longer serve us? What can we discover about it that keeps the fun we enjoy and the meaning we want?   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https...

Episode 68: “Intention is to Consistency As Blue is to Sky. No, Really - We Mean It.” A new year is often a time for new resolutions and goals, though as Tawny and JDK explore in this episode, we often sabotage ourselves by pursuing perfection in these efforts instead of developing consistency. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/priva...

Episode 67: “Tawny’s Laziest Day in Decades” Fresh off a timely holiday, Tawny and JDK delve into what each of then experienced during their respective “down times,” including the surprising arrival of a rare Lazy Day for Tawny and a Grinch-like morning for JDK. What did they make of them? The answers might surprise you…. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notic...

Episode 66: “The Crazy Train On Route 66” Ever get so lost in your BS stories that you can’t remember when they started or how long they’ve been in control of you? Tawny and JDK talk about the ways in which we can learn to not board that “crazy train” in the first place! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Episode 65: “Don’t Check Your Busy List - Chuck It!” Tawny and JDK explore the BS-Story Breeding Ground that is the dreaded “Busy List” of all the things we feel we “must” or “should” get done all the time. How can we better frame pie responsibilities and daily work / life routines? How and why do we make these more difficult than they need to be? Get some ideas to apply right away by taking a lis...

Episode 64: “Not This Holiday BS Again?!?!?” With the holiday season upon us, Tawny and JD K talk about all the different types of BS stories that can inundate us during the holidays. How can we better navigate the difficulties that seem to come through the messaging of media and both external and internal pressures for things to be “perfect“? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and Ca...

Episode 63: “Grief, Gratitude, and Beef Stew” Tawny returns from her hiatus to talk about how grief and gratitude are inseparable from one another, and in fact reinforce all the beauty and meaning we can find in life even if it’s toughest moments. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Episode 62: “The Only Cure For Grief is to Grieve” In a first-ever “solo” episode of the show, JDK shares about the time of grief that Tawny and her family are currently experiencing, and how grief - as painful as it is - does not have to be a problem for us to avoid, run away from, medicate, or downplay. Instead, it can be something we allow to flow as it will while we stay connected with ourselv...

Episode 61: “The Missing Mustard Moment” If Tawny didn’t know to connect with her own body’s nervous system, lunch today might have been a disaster when her favorite mustard went missing. Instead of making up huge stories about it or choosing to throw a fit in front of her dog, she chose to laugh and shrug it off from a place of Presence and perspective. This applies to all sizes of problems, must...

Episode 60: “Throwing Your Poop Off the Bridge” When we get caught up learning a lot of new information about something, it’s easy to get stuck in our heads, listening to our own BS stories. What we need to do is build a bridge from our brains to our bodies - this will help us see what is real and what is complete crap. And, knowing the difference is easier than you might think! See Privacy Policy...

Episode 59: “Staying In the Lovely Lane” Ever get stuck in indecision about “making the ‘right’ choice” or “doing the right thing?” What if there were far simpler ways to look at the decisions we face? What if we didn’t have to worry so much about our choices? What possibilities would open up? If those questions sound interesting to you, this is the episode you’ve been waiting for! See Privacy Pol...

Episode 58: “Focusing On Choosing Our Focus” Tawny and JDK explore the obstacles we can encounter when trying to focus on various things. How do we “get focused” or “stay focused?” What BS stories get in the way? Why do we do often believe that every thought we have that produces emotion be indulged in, explored, or processed. How can we choose which thoughts and feelings to do that with? Take a l...

Episode 57: “Your Discomfort Is All the Proof You Need” How do we know if something really “works“ or not? Tawny and JDK get asked this a lot when it comes to getting into the body and experiencing Presence. So, they figured, why not discuss that in this episode? So here you go! Hint: the key is in getting comfortable with discomfort….. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and Californi...

Episode 56: “You Can Step Our of the Penalty Box Whenever You Choose” Tawny and JDK discuss all the ways in which we can often punish ourselves through the use of, or because of, the BS stories we tell ourselves in times of difficulty. Whether it’s around a personal relationship, or a life challenge, or a desired goal, there are far easier ways to navigate our emotions than punishing ourselves nee...

Episode 55: “‘When I Have the Time’ Is a B.S. Story” This week, Tawny and JD K explore the myths we build around how time works for us – time to get things done, yes, but mainly how we do or do not allocate self-care time for ourselves. We often don’t recognize all the choices we have and how we frame, spend, and share our time. We often make it more difficult that needs to be, I don’t often see h...

Episode 54: “What Kind of Plant Are You?” With their respective “birthday seasons“ in full swing, Tawny and JDK discuss all the BS stories we can make up about birthdays, passage of time, how we “should“ look at those things, and why they are often sources of unnecessary stress. Why do we do that? More importantly, how can we stop doing that? As you might expect, Tawny and JDK have some ideas! See...

Episode 53: “Weeding Through the B.S.” Breaking up with our BS isn’t a one-time thing. In fact, it’s a lot like weeding the garden; it takes regular effort in order for all the desired growth to happen successfully. The key to doing this is slowing down into the body, which then provides the pause and patience we need to calm down and better discern the choices we DO have in this moment. See Priva...

Episode 52: “Your Sports Team is a Load of B.S.” Tawny and JDK discuss the importance of recognizing when we are needlessly adding stress to our system when confronting both difficult and exciting circumstances. Whether it’s moving through grief or stressing over the performance of our favorite sports teams, adding in BS Stress does nothing good for us, and pulls us away from whatever is really ha...

Episode 51: “Let There Be Values” In response to listener requests, Tawny and JDK circle back to the topic of Values; what are they, and why are they so vital to navigating our way to a less stressful life? How do we determine what are our most important ones? And what does it really mean to “live” by them? Listening to this episode is a fantastic place to start for answers! See Privacy Policy at...

Episode 50: “Your Wholeness Knows Things” Tawny and JDK discuss the challenges many people encounter with getting into the body as opposed to operating from only a headspace. Why and how is integrating the mind and the body - with the body actually leading the way - so crucial to our overall health and well-being? Get into your body and experience the answer! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.co...

Episode 49: Non-Negotiable Options Luxuriating in the the sunshine of summer, Tawny and JDK explore how our external environment affects us and how we can develop non-negotiable internal practices to help us balance out those externals and give us more meaning and enjoyment - and peace - in our lives. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.co...