Becoming You Again

Your divorce can be messy on the outside but the most exhausting battles often happen inside your own head. When a thought like “I’m not good enough” lands, it doesn’t just feel bad, it can hijack your body, your confidence, and your ability to make clear decisions. I’m Karin Nelson, a divorce coach, and I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those moments so you can stop treating your...

Divorce can make even simple choices feel impossible because you’re not just changing your schedule, you’re rebuilding your identity. When you’re flooded with decisions about where to live, how to co-parent, what work looks like now, and who you want to be on the other side, you need something steadier than opinions and “shoulds.” That’s where your values come in.   I share why personal values are...

Your kids don’t need a perfect script. They need you regulated, clear, and willing to hold space for whatever they might feel without making them responsible for yours. I’ll walk you through telling your children you’re getting a divorce, and doing it in a way that helps protect their sense of safety, love, and stability.   I share how to prepare before the conversation. I talk about the timing of...

If the voice in your head gets cruel after divorce, it can feel like you’ll never be “okay” again, even when you’re doing everything you can to hold life together. I’m digging into the one skill that changes the entire healing process: self-compassion. Not the fake kind that says “it’s all fine,” but the kind that helps you stay accountable without drowning in shame. I look at why self-criticism f...

Your body can go from pretty calm to dysregulated in seconds during divorce, and it is not a sign you are failing. When a text from your ex lands, when mediation gets tense, or when you feel that familiar wave of panic, shutdown, anger, or grief, you need something practical that works fast. I share grounding techniques you can do in 30 to 60 seconds to help your nervous system settle just enough...

Have you ever thought something like, “If my ex would just take accountability for his actions and apologize, then I could finally move on” or something similar, then this episode is for you. It’s possible that you’re waiting for two words that feel like they would change everything: “I’m sorry.” This conversation will help you see the real cost of that wait and the real freedom on the other side...

This episode is honoring the women who came before us highlighting the history behind ‘choice’ and why being able to choose to stay in a marriage or leave is not something to take for granted.   I share the milestones that changed what was possible for women in the United States: from voting rights, to having a bank account in their name, from being able to rent or buy a house without a male co-si...

Ever feel like your brain won’t stop replaying the divorce story while your heart is begging for some peace? I'm talking about the difference between rumination and actual emotional processing, and why staying in your head keeps you in the emotional pain loop. Instead of rehashing texts and rewriting the past, I'll guide you back into your body (which is where your feelings actually live...

Your phone pings, your shoulders rise, and your chest tightens. Before you even read the text, your body declares an emergency. If divorce has you living on edge, this conversation is a guide to staying in charge of your choices even when your nervous system screams otherwise. The truth is you don’t need perfect calm to make decisions that support you during divorce. You’ve been deciding under str...

When the marriage ends, the mirror that once reflected your worth often goes with it. I'll examine what happens when you’ve spent years using someone else to outsource your value so you can feel whole.  I start by naming the cultural conditioning that tells women to be the supporting cast in everyone else’s story. If your worth was tied to keeping the peace, divorce can feel like failure. I c...

Your body can learn safety again even when grief, anger, or hyper-alert energy takes over. I'll walk you through a gentle, guided somatic practice that alternates between a curling posture and an open, lifted posture to restore rhythm in the nervous system.  If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs a gentle reset, and leave a quick review to help more women find these tools...

When divorce blows up the labels you’ve lived with like that of wife, partner, the one who holds it all together, what’s left can feel confusing and unknown. That's when insecurity rears it's ugly head. In this episode, I talk about why insecurity really is...spoiler alert - it's not a feeling, but instead a belief system wired by impossible, contradictory standards. Instead of chas...

Sharing a home with your soon-to-be ex can feel strange, lonely, and oddly practical all at once. We go straight at the discomfort and unpack why so many women make this choice for a season and how to support yourself emotionally and mentally through the transition period.  If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick rating. Want deeper suppo...

What if the fastest way to feel better after divorce wasn’t to push through and ignore the painful emotions, but to allow what’s already here? In this episode I’m going to be teaching you the most useful skill to make all of your divorce healing possible.  I start by breaking down the three common ways of dealing with emotions - resisting, avoiding, reacting and explain why they keep you stuck. Th...

The stories we believe about divorce can keep us stuck for years. In this episode I’ll cover four of the most insidious lies that we believe about divorce. These are four lies that permeate society and typically show up due to the social systems and structures that we live in.  I unpack the four common lies about divorce and replace them with grounded truths about kids’ well-being, self worth, fai...

Does making decisions make you feel anxious and confused? In this episode I go straight to the heart of decision‑making after divorce which is how to stop spinning, center your own opinion, and choose with clarity even when certainty doesn’t shows up.  I give you a simple way to decide which will make your decision making after divorce oh so easy, every time. You’ll learn to replace pros and cons...

Heartbreak and rejection hurts and when an ex chooses someone else, it’s easy to fall into the trap of “I wasn’t enough” or “she’s better than me.” In this episode I get honest about the stories we tell ourselves by helping you understand the brain’s need for certainty, recognizing emotional capacity as a driver of choices, and building thought ladders that replace shame with self-trust. I share p...

Big goals feel exciting until they demand a brand-new you by Monday. I'm teaching a different route: minimum baselines which are basically tiny, consistent actions that build real momentum without solely relying on your willpower. If you’re navigating life after divorce, this approach respects your bandwidth while still moving you toward the life you want. I unpack why traditional resolutions...

In this episode I share a simple somatic self-holding practice that you can use anywhere to calm anxiety, quiet a racing mind, and remind your body it’s safe. This isn’t about forcing yourself to relax; it’s about giving your nervous system the cues it needs, like gentle touch, longer exhales, and compassionate words to settle into presence and rebuild trust from the inside out.   We start by refr...

Sleepless nights aren’t just exhausting; they can make every text from an ex, every budget decision, and every co‑parenting handoff feel harder than it needs to be. I dig into why stress and rumination hijack your rest during divorce and how cortisol and adrenaline surge right when you want to drift off. Then I’ll shift to practical, evidence‑informed tools that restore a sense of safety in your b...

One of the most disempowering things that we do to ourselves is let everything outside of us be in charge of our emotional life. This conversation is a guide to taking your emotional life back after divorce without minimizing the hard parts.  I start by untangling the thought–feeling–action loop and why confusing thoughts with feelings keeps you stuck. You’ll hear how naming a single emotion can c...

A single look, a familiar tone, and suddenly your chest tightens and your jaw clenches. That immediate trigger and reminder of your ex is your body doing its best to protect you. I explore those charged moments when a child reminds you of your ex and help you figure out a path away from reactivity to reconnection, so you can parent as the parent you want to be rather than from your past wounds.  ...

The holiday season can feel like a pressure cooker after divorce: new custody schedules, money stress, old traditions that no longer fit, and the unspoken rule that you must make it magical for everyone else. In this episode I’m offering you a different way forward. It’s one where you center yourself, protect your energy, and create a simpler, calmer season that actually feels like you.   I’ll bre...

Your brain keeps saying “you should have known better,” but your body is tired of carrying the pain from that story. Let’s get you out of the loop of replaying the past. In this episode I walk through why our minds cling to the past after divorce, how “shoulds” fuel shame and self-blame, and what it actually takes to let go in real life.   I start by exposing the sneaky logic of replaying old argu...

When your nervous system won’t switch off, doing more rarely helps. I'm going to slow everything down with a gentle, guided windshield wiper practice that brings safety back online, one breath and one side-to-side motion at a time. This practice blends simple movement with mindful attention so your brain and body can start talking again. You've got enough bullsh!t to deal with during you...