Attitudes/Answers with Olen Baker

Hatred is powerful and it can and will destroy you and others in your path.  Hatred is darkness and destruction.  God is forgivness and healing.  If that's where you're at, take a moment and have a conversation with God, today.

Yeah, your kids are suffering more than you, more than you know.  They are innocent victims of your conflict, sometimes used as tools against the other parent.  Do not forget how important it is to make sure they are taken care of emotionally, as well.  You are still a parent, married or divorced, and it's still your responsibility.

Kids are many times, neglected when conflict comes their way.  A divorce or family situation that is living chaos.  Kids experience the same grief as adults.  If that's your situation right now, make sure you connect with them and help them through the process.  

You can't make an apology happen by demanding it.  You should never suppress your feelings.  Even when you're the victim, approach the issue as a peacemaker, not the aggressor.  God will help you get there.

The short answer is yes, every time.  The way to healing is by YOU being part of the process.  It's not the wave of aa magic wand, but more of a collaboration with God that brings healing.  YOU are part of the process.

So, how is your attitude right now?  If it's fighting words, those words will only destroy any opportunity to repair the relationship.  Accept the fact that you are part of the conflict and that until you are willing to hear what the other side has to say, your relationship will remain broken and stuck.  Do the right thing, today.

Truth, tempered with compassion give both sides a chance to come closer together in a dispute solution.  Stop talking and start listening.  God will give you the words of response, everytime.

How do you block communication?  Body language, silence, agressive responses.  Mutual understanding is never easy, but always necessary in any relationship.

The blame game.  We all play it at times.  God can help us get out of that rut.  Listen and learn.

Okay, things have to change, and that means YOU.  It's a tough place to go, but to heal and move forward, you must do that first.

Politics, religion, whatever comes between two people, doesn't mean that harmony can't be regained.  Not a great place to be.  Let's help you get there.

You have expectations, but what you need are, realistic expectations.  Search your heart.  Have a conversation with God.  But don't be the barrier to resolution.  

You might not see this at the moment, but a crisis for healing the wounds from the past.  Ask God to help you see what's possible.  Only He can completely understand from an unbiased position.  

Are you capable of showing remorse and repentance?  God can help you heal, but healing starts first, with you.

Yeah, it's worth fixing and yeah, it's never easy.  To start, allow trust to bring you back to center and allow God to help you take the next steps.  

Somes that bond fails.  A preoccupation with a career, a troubled marriags or simply a lack of interest.  Find out how you can make the changes necessary to be better at the job of a Mom or Dad.

New parents are uncomfortable, because they don't feel qualified to be a parent.  As kids grow there's an opportunity to grow with a bond.  This is how you go there.

No internet signal, no problem.  Find a calm, quiet place and send your message.  On the best days and the darkest days, He will always answer.

Wow, once again it's time for a fresh start.  How many times have you been there?  It doesn't matter, because God will always be there to help.  Just ask.

Holidays tend to bring out our best and worst character traits.  Too much stress weakens our impulse control.  Pray for strength to be honest and sincere.

An attitude change isn't easy, because we're stuck in our ways.  Don't let this year end without reaching out to someone you are at odds with.  It doesn't matter who is at fault, it does matter that you resolve the issues.  Doing so will lift the burden from your heart.

Christmas morning, and you're anticipating another wonderful Christmas Day.  No need to check under the tree for any other gifts, check with God to make sure that your light shines in others.  Today, give the gift of prayer.  Merry Christmas.

Remember, the most important gift you can give, is the gift of eternal salvation, through Jesus Christ.  The stores will be swamped with last minute shoppers.  You don't need a store for this special gift.  

Remember, you are the light pointing the recipient to Jesus.  On that gift tag, let them know there is a little more that comes with this present.

You are at odds with someone you know, maybe a family member or friend.  Prayer is the perfect way to turn that around.  Why?  Because asking God to help heal the wounds of life, will always be a blessing...and the perfect gift.