Ask Christopher West

What should I do, as a husband, about missing the way my wife's body used to be? As a virgin man saving himself for marriage, how can I prepare myself physically to connect with my future wife spiritually and emotionally and provide pleasure to her without falling into sin? How should you respond to a child or adult who says they do not desire physical affection? Ask Christopher West is a week...

I'm scared of my marriage changing after we start having kids – do you have any advice? How do you discern what God is calling you to do vs. what you want to do? What is the importance of a parental blessing on a marriage? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answerin...

Why are we "the bride" in the spousal analogy, independently of being men or women, while priests must be men in order to signify the bridegroom? How can I, as a woman, prepare myself to receive the sacrament of marriage and confront my fear of consumation? Do you have any suggestions for approaching our teenage children who have been influenced by LGBTQ propaganda? Ask Christopher West...

How can I best love my husband while holding up appropriate boundaries when he acts abusively, out of pain and suffering? Did God create men to be more susceptible to sexual sin? How can my husband and I grow in love for one another during our struggle with infertility? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife...

What does TOB inform about why throwing up is so horrible? Is it sinful to seek arousal within marriage outside of the marital embrace? Am I in the wrong for being hurt by my boyfriends past sexual relationship if he didn't know any better? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor an...

I know life has consolations and desolations but I find it hard to enjoy the blessings in my life because the troubles simply over take all the good that is happening. Am I doing something wrong? What light can Theology of the Body shed on Jesus' words in Luke 23:28-30? Could you share some reflections on the nuptial blessing in the sacrament of matrimony? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podc...

Having had sex before marriage with a man I loved, how do I aknowledge that the degree of intimacy we shared was wrong when my heart wants to believe it was beautiful? Is it permissable to use contraception since my wife has to be on a medication that can cause sever birth defects? How were you able to learn Theology of the Body so well and teach is to others? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podc...

How do mental health conditions relate to Theology of the Body and the discernment of our vocations? Do you think there is a relationship between our ability to recognize the true presence of Christ in the Eucharist and His presence in souls of those we encounter? As a nurse, how should I go about carring for patients who are "transitioning genders"? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podc...

What do you recommend for teaching middle school students about the Catholic stance on modern gender issues? Do you have any advice or resources for healing mother wounds? How do you ensure purity of desire when, in giving physical affection, you are also receiveing physical affection? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and h...

Am I doing something wrong if I get more out of this podcast than out of prayer? I'm concerned about my boyfriend following women he's attracted to on social media – I want to feel like I am enough. What do you think of the connections between Our Lady on Islam? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife...

What do you recommend to priests desiring to learn Theology of the Body? How can a virgin prepare for sexual intimacy with his future spouse? My wife and I are Catholic and even though I am open to life, my wife wants me to use condoms. Would doing this make me guilty of contraception? Do my husband and I have to discern whether or not to have more children? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcas...

Do you have any advice for me as a wife whose husband is falling away from the faith? As a married woman, how should I handle being attracted to men who are not my husband? Why did Jesus ascend into heaven? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about ma...

How do I train my mind, heart, and body to gravitate towards good eros when I'm always fearing the near occasion of sin? What is a just reason for avoiding a baby? How can I really SEE people? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, re...

Why is Christ depicted with a loin cloth in nearly all crucifixes? Do you have any advice for finding a husband in this day and age? Do you have any insights on Jesus drawing in the dirt when the woman is caught in adultery? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering...

Do you have any advice for husbands to mend the wounds of pornography use in marriage? How does Theology of the Body relate to priests? Am I obliged to leave my husband if he does not uphold the Church's teaching on sexuality? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answ...

Do you have any advice for sharing TOB with young children? Are civil marriages between a Catholic and a non-Catholic cosidered valid by the Church? As a woman in her 30s, I desire to be married but have some inhibitions about being a mother. Do you have any advice? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wend...

What light can TOB shed on separated boys and girls schools? What light can TOB shed on body image? What's the relationship between the Sacred Heart of Jesus and Theology of the Body? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationshi...

I have heard Christopher define suffering as "continued receptivity before God." Could you say more about this? If "arousal is a sign our bodies are made to be gifts," what are practical ways to make a gift of yourself to the other when dating? Can you explain the symbolism of the Unity Cross? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Pres...

I'm struggling to forgive my husband for looking at pornography during a difficult season of our marriage – how can I heal? Are condoms used for the prevention of sexually transmitted disease still immoral? As an 18-year-old in a relationship for the first time, I'm struggling with how easily I am aroused even just by holding hands or seeing pictures of my girlfriend – what should I do? As...

How do I heal from pre-marital sex with my husband and unchastity in our marriage? What should I do as a Catholic who struggles with pre-mature climax in the marital intercourse? If our deepest desire is ultimately for God, how does the answer to the question, "What is my deepest desire?" lead people into different vocations? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of...

What should I do if I'm attracted to a priest or a married man? Does having had a vasectomy invalidate my marriage? What does it mean that "Christ fully reveals man to himself?" Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relatio...

As a man, how can I heal from past wounds and learn to become a gift? Why is it sinful to separate marital intimacy from procreation (i.e. contraception, IVF, etc.)? Having been sexually abused as a child, how can God heal me and prepare me for marriage? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share thei...

How does being born out of wedlock and raised in two homes impact my place in the Church? I'm husband has confessed pornography addiction and infidelity. . . I want to be faithful to my vows, but I don't know if I should seek an annulment. Christopher, what are you reading currently? Any recommendations? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute Presi...

How do you remain authentic when being true to yourself causes isolation? Do you have any advice for someone who is more attracted to comfort than greatness? How can sexual desire truly be oriented towards love for the other? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering...

What does the Church say about tattoos? Is a marriage valid if it is never consumated? What does it mean that celibacy is a "higher calling" than marriage? Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Cath...