Angry At The Right Things

Forget about attachment style -- what truly assesses our emotional maturity is our ability to self-nurture. All we need is a commitment to ourselves that we are worth the work, because we ARE. And the work isn’t laborious or draining, but rejuvenating and delightful. Nurturing ourselves is, well… nurturing.

Triggers are when we find ourselves re-experiencing an unconscious memory from the past, haunting us in the present. Yet we can unlearn our triggers by understanding the context, and integrating with our younger selves. Integration leads to a wholeness far more beautiful than if we'd never been broken, just like Kintsugi pottery. 

Delusions are far more common than we would believe, as many people believe themselves to be a perpetual innocent victim. When we live with such a person, we are likely to develop hallucinations as a response. Bronwyn leads us in an Integration Exercise to rescue ourselves for once and for all.

A lack of attunement from a loved one is not neutral. It is hatred. When someone we love fails to empathize with us, our body suffers. Let’s learn to recognize hate and live a hate-free life, filling the void with love.

We create the atmosphere around us, whether we realize it or not. Bronwyn gives two practical examples of integration which heal the rift within us, allowing us to see ourselves as we truly are. Observation changes reality, as unraveling lies creates order and beauty.

Anxiety and depression are dissociative states, caused by shame, that prohibit us from having empathy for others. Being dissociative also robs us, making us half-dead, unable to blossom into our true selves.

Humans are designed to live in the tension of love and truth, which involves trusting ourselves and learning wisdom. When we do this, we live according to the grain of the universe, becoming humans who are both powerful and good.

Most of us are not familiar with conversations of gravitas and meaning, but rather, empty chatter, where people talk at -- not with -- us. This keeps us from understanding the weight of words, and from learning to listen. The truth is, words allow us to see into the soul of each another and ourselves. Words beget life and healing.

Emotions stagnate in our bodies, making us sick. We release this blocked energy through words and actions that lead to truth, and move us closer to living in reality.

Many parents find themselves reacting to their child's differentiation, which feels like rejection. This hurts both the child and the parent, and can thwart a child's development.  Parenting is the toughest job ever, but it is also an opportunity to grow up. At the end of the day, parenting isn’t about us, but our kids. If we lose sight of this it will be unnecessarily painful for everyone. But as...

This is an amazing interview by Beth Irias, LMFT, on the the Light Up the Couch podcast for therapists. Don't be intimidated if you are a lay-person though -- the principles are for all humans!  If you are a therapist, know that the Light Up the Couch podcast by Clearly Clinical is a great way to receive continuing education units! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmHOA07fwo7kW3_ytEhIzoedC8J...

The Inner Shame baby is a counterfeit inner child. Unlike the inner child, it isn’t native, but parasitic. Its job is to prevent a person from connecting to their inner child and healing.

This interview with Kristen Boice from Close the Chapter Podcast helps us understand what anger is, where it stems from, and when it's healthy and it's not. Ultimately, when we learn to connect to our anger, we connect to ourselves, bringing liberation and integration.

Bronwyn shares a key to how to understand what our bodies are communicating, which they often are. She leads us practically in how to respond, promoting healing and wholeness.

This interview with Dr. Christie McMullen of the Productive Joy podcast shares encouraging examples of how to take back the reigns of our body by being responsible for our emotions and doing right by ourselves.

Shame creates denial which shuts down the brain, causing a type of tunnel vision and narcissism. The antidote is mirroring the truth, which simultaneously binds a narcissist while setting ourselves free.

Our inner conflicts create schisms within us that only we can heal, by revisiting our childhood and questioning it, knowing our feelings are valid, and dislodging shame.

When we don't allow ourselves to feel our anger, we betray ourselves which makes us sick, resulting in anxiety, depression and many types of physical illness. Our anger protect us, and ultimately others.  Please visit my interview hosts, Dr. Andrea & Jonathan Taylor-Cummings of The 4 Habits: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-4-habits-institute/

A true, cautionary tale demonstrating the danger of keeping feelings bottled up inside, known as alexithymia. Studies show alexithymia is linked with suppressed immune function, which can lead to cancer.

We all long for the nurture we didn't receive as children, which can entail much suffering. But that suffering can bring us to a place of rebirth and renewal. Hunger can lead to fullness.

Human-based institutions lose their humanity when there isn't room for critical thinking. Humans are meant to employ critical thinking every single day -- and when their voices are heard, the world becomes a beautiful place to live.

When we choose to not feel one feeling, we lose the ability to feel them all -- including empathy. Empathy guides us to live in ways that lead to life and flourishing, but this can only result when we dislodge all shame.

Uniting to others can cause us to lose a part of ourselves. The litmus test of a safe-enough person is if they are willing to bend when we push back.

Trigger Warning: includes topics of rape and incest. What makes humans inclined to transfer shame onto others, in the most horrific of ways? And how can we reclaim our our souls in spite of this propensity? Realizing our worth makes impenetrable.

A beautiful conversation between Bronwyn and MaryLayo from Beyond the Smile podcast about anger and resentment. The good, bad and the ugly about anger -- including it's multifaceted wisdom, when we start to listen to it.