Aces Up Your Sleeve

We’re talking about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) on the podcast this week with our awesome guest Jayden Aubryn! We were asked how to navigate the dating world as someone who’s open to non-monogamy and polyamory but struggles with executive functioning, as well as how to handle the loneliness and rejection that comes with decentering sex when dating. Jayden fills us in on how to get sta...

We’re covering the complexities of driving as an autistic, ADHD, or AuDHDer this week on the podcast! A parent wants to know how to encourage their teen, so we’re sharing some main considerations. We’re also discussing why there’s so much stigma out there for non-drivers, especially in the United States. Whether you’re driving vehicles or not, this episode may resonate with your experiences! (Spec...

This week is all about autistic shutdowns with a side-serving of alexithymia! If you struggle to know how you’re feeling while you’re feeling it, this episode may resonate with you. We’re discussing how to support yourself when you’re shutting down, how to find an outlet for emotions and even possibly identify them, and more. Autistic adult shutdowns don’t get enough airtime! We're answering:...

Today we're joined by a guest to bring you some great info on greysexuality, Blackness, and Autism. Alyshia “Lici” Rodgers, otherwise known as YaGirlLici on Instagram and TikTok, is a Southern Mississippi Graphic Designer and watercolor artist. She’s a self-described AroAce AuAdhd Semi-Professional Yapper. She has spent the past two years creating content and providing commentary on asexual a...

Have you had “the sex talk” lately? We’re talking about masturbation, “sex talks”, and consent on this week’s episode! If you’re wondering if it’s normal to masturbate before or during mundane tasks or if you’re a parent curious about how to talk to your kids about bodies, sex, and consent, we’ve got you covered. Join us to hear the nuances around being autistic and ADHD, and masturbation and sexu...

This week, we’re exploring how neurodivergent therapists can find, build, and sustain supportive communities both online and offline! These questions get asked in a lot of the shared spaces we’re in, so we’re offering our thoughts and ideas, as well as real groups to join. We’re talking all about how to foster meaningful connections *and* professional growth. It can be tough out there for ND thera...

On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the amazing Karissa Burnett! Dr. Burnett is explaining what OCD is, why autistic folks are more likely to struggle with this, and how to figure out if you have OCD. She also explains the evaluation process and what to look for in an assessor. Show notes:   Karissa’s website: www.divergentpathways.com Karissa’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/divergentpathways Kar...

Are you wondering how to travel with friends while being autistic and wanting to have a nice time? We've got you covered on this week's episode! Summer is here and there are a lot of tips we've learned over the years to plan a vacation with friends. Tune in to snag some tips - and leave your own in the comments! Show notes:   The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker: https://www.penguin...

This week’s episode is all about whether or not you’re aromantic! What does it mean and how do you define love? Join us to explore! We’re talking about why autistic folks are a little more likely to be aromantic, as well as what to do if you’re aging and can’t find love. We’re looking at how to connect with ourselves and others- both romantically and non-romantically. Oh, and special shout out to...

On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the amazing Bobbi-Jo Molokken! As most ADHD and Autistic parents of ADHD and Autistic kids know things can get out of hand quickly. You feel all the pressure to parent well and meet your kids needs while preparing them for the “real world” and yet it feels like sand through your fingers trying to keep it all going. What most parents don’t know is how the F d...

We have a brand new logo to accompany this week’s episode! We’re explaining why that is, what the new flag by AceinGrace means, and we’re answering some questions about life on the asexuality spectrum. We’re covering if hormones are the reason someone’s asexual, what to do about it, and how to navigate uncomfortable Public Displays of Affection from friends. Ace in Grace's instagram post: htt...

This episode explores ADHD, medication options, and navigating healthcare as a college student. We share insight about diagnosis, medication types, and advocating for support at college - and with your doctor! Disclaimer: We are not medical professionals! Do some more research and touch base with your provider, please. We're answering: Are ADHD medications going to cure my problems? I’m start...

We’ve been asked to give our top tips for heat intolerance for autistic and ADHD folks! Join us to hear what we’d suggest to stay cool and how to survive summer. Curious about how to start your very own EveryFans (or what that is?) Listen to find out! Show notes:   Therapists - Join us June 17, 2026, at 12pm Pacific time: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-live   Sabrina...

We’re talking all about how to be a better ally to asexual and autistic people! We’re also debunking even more myths and stereotypes about autism. Wondering about what counts as a special interest? Or what the "broader autistic phenotype" or "female autism" really means? Join us to hear more! Therapists - Join us June 17, 2026, at 12pm Pacific time: https://www.cryptidlearns.co...

In this episode, we’re examining how PDA & BPD can impact romantic relationships. If you’re wondering how to avoid triggers, feel loved, and build connection with your partner, this episode is for you! We're answering these listener questions: I need a lot of alone time to regulate my nervous system, but my partner takes it personally and thinks I don't love them. I just sit around a...

In this episode, we are busting the most common autism myths that still circulate today! Whether you are an autistic adult, a parent of a newly diagnosed child, a therapist like us, or an educator, understanding the truth about autistic individuals is crucial.  We're answering this listener question: My partner says I’m "cold" or "dismissive" when we argue because I try to...

 If submission has ever felt like a demand and triggered your PDA, this week’s episode might resonate with you! We’re answering if you’re a “bad sub” if you’re a PDAer, how to navigate explaining your nervous system to a partner, and why kink is healing. We explore a few ways people can heal from trauma and feel empowered by kink. Join us! BTW: This is part 3 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as...

Have you ever wondered where that praise or degradation kink stems from? Or if it's possible to hyperfocus on kink and fetishes? Let's talk about it on this week's episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We're talking about the importance of meeting your needs, libido discrepancy, differences of opinion when it comes to kink, and more! We're answering: Is it normal to develop a pr...

On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the wonderful Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti! Gloria (she/her) is an educator and community discussion facilitator who has been teaching workshops on shame, consent, neurodivergence, and identity in kink communities for several years. As a late-diagnosed autistic woman, she brings both lived experience and thoughtful dialogue to conversations about communication,...

Who did we look up to as autistic little kids? The answer is tricky- and we’re sharing it with you on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We’re covering “good” and “bad” autistic representation and where to find it. (Hint: it might be both harder and easier than you think!) Join us in reminiscing about special interests and all of the autistic traits we notice in media. On Upping the Ante,...

Ready to hear all about chronic pain, illness, and being autistic? We're ready to talk about it! Join us for a raw and real conversation about what it's like to navigate these challenges, especially when the onset is pretty sudden.  We're answering this question about autistic health challenges: Are there any unique experiences for autistic people who suddenly get injured or start t...

To wrap up our mini-series on Teens this week, we’re mostly talking to parents about how to support their autistic and ADHD teenagers! We’re joined by Jamie Roberts, an AuDHD LMFT, who specializes in supporting teens and has published two books for ND teens. We’re answering how to know when they need down time, the importance of recharging, and when you ought to be concerned. We’re also discussing...

This week's episode involves us exploring the complex topics of self-harm, self-stimulatory behaviors, and support strategies for autistic and ADHD teens. ( We definitely talk directly about all of these topics, so feel free to skip this one if you need to! ) We're sharing about harm reduction, stigma, communicating with parents and guardians, and ways to support teens compassionately. T...

Welcome to season 2! We're starting off with a small series on Autistic & AuDHD Teens in light of our upcoming GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens event in May. For today’s topic, we’re discussing success during teen years and answering listener questions:  I’m writing to you two on behalf of one of my students. I’m a Sophomore English Teacher and I have a student who is ver...

Our season finale is a special one- we’re participating in the 4th annual Podcasthon! This week, over a thousand podcasts are highlighting a charity of their choice and we’re choosing to support the Black Trans Travel Fund! Tune in to hear about why we chose them, what they’re all about, and how to support them.  We’re also answering questions regarding the intersections of autism, race, sexuality...