12 Week Relationships Podcast

A successful relationship requires a counter balanced effort. This means each partner should be putting in equal amounts of effort. However, if it feels like you're the one always making the plans, shouldering the responsibilities, or not having a chance to be heard, it might be time to set proper boundaries and expectations or address a deeper wound that might be the cause of this imbalanced rela...

People convey and desire affection in many ways and it's different for everybody. However, these differences can cause one or both partners to feel unloved and distant, even if that's not the intention. Honest communication and mutual effort is key to resolving these conflicts, and if not, it may indicate deeper differences in personal values. In this particular scenario from one of our community...

Unresolved trauma leaves an unfulfilled wound and we'll often seek out relationships that fill that wound. If that trauma is deep enough, it'll override our true core values and lead us into toxic, co-dependent relationships. This dependence is highly unhealthy and never actually satisfies what we're missing. It's simply a band-aid remedy. The key to breaking the pattern is to identify and address...

If you're dreading an upcoming family gathering during the holidays, you're not alone. Large family gatherings are hotspots for drama and can sour what should be a great holiday experience. For those who couldn't find an excuse in time to get out of going, Pye and Dr. Glen have some useful tips for staying out the line of fire and avoiding getting dragged into a pointless confrontation. Stay healt...

Not a single professional has been able to answer the question "What does a healthy relationship look like?" We're talking dozens of doctors, experts, coaches, leaders, those who we usually go to when we need relationship advice. As a result, Pye and Dr. Glen decided to take it upon themselves to find that answer. Through years of research and case-studies, they simplified the complex subject of r...

Religion is one of the most common criteria people have when finding a partner. They must share the same belief. However, does that mean the relationship will be healthy? Dating and marrying within a religion has its benefits such as an established community and a shared value, but it's important to also consider the deeper motivations for being a part of the religion as well as individual core va...

Sales and business are pure psychology. To sell a product or service, you have to understand your client or customer and what makes them tick. What do they value? What is it that they truly want or need? Understanding sales from a psychology perspective can help you provide exactly what your clients value, leading to better sales and business as well as strong client relationships based on shared...

Very early into his marriage, Pye realized something was wrong. An early divorce would've been relatively simple with minimal consequences. However, as he went on to have children, a business, and more emotional energy was spent trying to hold the marriage together, the stakes only grew. Nearly 15 years later, Pye exhausted all of his options and filed for divorce. The final bill included not only...

Long before 12 Week Relationships, Dr. Glen was a county social worker. However, what would've been a fulfilling career was overshadowed by an extremely toxic work environment that took a heavy toll on his mental and emotional health. Years into it, a brain scan revealed trauma that was shockingly similar to that of someone returning from war. Today, Dr. Glen shares the story of his experiences an...

Ending a relationship is a hard call to make. However, staying in an unhealthy or toxic relationship can have serious effects on your mental and physical health. While you may consider fighting for your relationship, if you recognize any of these red flags, Pye and Dr. Glen agree that it might be time to walk away.

Traditional couple’s therapy is broken, but the therapists aren’t entirely to blame. Pye and Dr. Glen dug in to find out why the traditional approach is so ineffective. Having realistic expectations is important when seeking help and the research revealed common misconceptions couples bring into therapy that prevent them from making lasting change.

Did you know only 25% of couples in traditional therapy actually see lasting change? Pair that with the insane costs and the time invested and you’ll see that something just isn’t right. Pye and Dr. Glen dug a little deeper to see what the heck is going on and were shocked to find that therapists will often rely on opinionated, unsubstantiated, and biased approaches to “solving” relationship probl...

Spending 40+ hours a week in an office full of drama is something nobody wants to do. Unfortunately, the feeling of dread when going to work is all too common and it’s usually caused by simple behaviors that might seem innocent, but can stir up serious conflict between co-workers. This can have pretty negative consequences on morale and productivity, not just at work, but in your personal life as...

When Pye presented his framework to Doctor Glen, he had a big bold thesis right on the cover. Pye claimed, “outside of romantic intimacy, all relationships follow the exact same patterns.” Yeah, if you’re surprised, Doctor Glen thought he was crazy too. But seriously though, do all healthy long-term relationships follow the same patterns? As Doctor Glen dove into Pye’s data and framework, he began...

Nearly 15 years into a broken marriage, Pye Jirsa decided to create a framework for healthy relationships when his counselor said, “You’ve read every book on my shelf, I don’t know how to help you.” While photographing weddings, Pye collected anonymous data to help better understand the nature of healthy relationships. Simple points of behavior and interactions between the people that stood in fro...

Let’s talk about triggers. First, being triggered sucks, period. Common advice might be to avoid triggers, but unless we’re to become hermits, this is not an effective solution. In this episode, we discuss the root cause of our triggers. In the process, we also uncover the natural solution within a process we call Trauma Triggered Therapy.

How do we all create better, more healthy, relationships? Not just with your spouse or partner, but with your family, friends, and even co-workers? 12 Week Relationships is a coaching program led by clinical psychologist, Dr. Glen Hong, and wedding photographer & educator, Pye Jirsa. It’s a practical coaching program designed to help you make long-lasting improvements through a process we call CVF...

Welcome to 12 Week Relationships. This video will give you an idea of what we do and how we can help you build better relationships in weeks, not years!