1 in 3

When parents age, society often assumes adult children should automatically step in and provide care. But what happens when the parent needing help is also the person who caused years of emotional harm, manipulation, or trauma? In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast , Ingrid sits down with elder care educator and advocate Amy Friesen to unpack the complicated reality of parental estrangement, careg...

Trafficking is not always a stranger in a parking lot or a dramatic abduction story. Sometimes it looks like coercive control inside a relationship, grooming by an older partner, or manipulation powered by fear, shame, and trauma bonds. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with former FBI agent and retired SWAT operator Eric Robinson to unpack what sex trafficking actually looks like under...

Love shouldn’t feel like a test you keep failing — but coercive control often starts quietly, gradually, and disguised as romance. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid is joined by Jas Rawlinson, coercive control educator, domestic violence awareness advocate, and creator of Red Flags 101, for a practical and eye-opening conversation about the relationship warning signs people are taught...

A breakup should be an ending—not a new battlefield. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with Jane, an ER nurse who shares her experience with coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the devastating reality of legal abuse after separation. What started as charm, fast attachment, and love bombing quickly turned into gaslighting, isolation, and fear. When Jane finally said “no,” her ex es...

Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail...

When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court. In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast , Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation. Together, they unpack how abuse can con...

Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and w...

Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe. T...

Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals. To...

What if your body has been guiding you all along? In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Tara, a domestic violence survivor and intuitive healer, to explore how rebuilding self-trust after abuse begins in the body. We talk about nervous system regulation, energetic boundaries, and how to tell the difference between intuition and trauma-driven fear. Tara shares her personal jo...

Power doesn’t always leave a bruise. In Episode 109 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, negotiation professor and relationship scientist Dr. Merideth Thompson breaks down the subtle but devastating patterns of emotional abuse, financial control, and gaslighting — and how they slowly erode self-trust. We explore: • Early signs of emotional control • How gaslighting creates chronic self-doubt • The hidden impact...

Reproductive coercion isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s abuse. In this episode of 1 in 3, Lynn joins Ingrid to break down how pregnancy pressure, sabotaged birth control, stealthing, and financial control strip away autonomy long before survivors recognize what’s happening. We move beyond headlines to define reproductive coercion in real life: Stealthing and condom removal without consent Birth cont...

 A life can begin in chaos and still choose compassion.  In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with Malisa to explore healing complex trauma shaped by childhood neglect, addiction, and domestic violence. Together, they unpack trauma not as a single event, but as years without safety—and why healing often begins with who showed up when it hurt. Malisa shares how perfectionism, achie...

What if confronting masculinity required stepping inside it? In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with artist Christopher Quigley, whose immersive traveling installation asks men and boys to physically experience how power, consent, and violence are learned—and how quickly harm can unfold. Across eight sound-sealed bathroom stalls, participants are immersed in scenarios shaped by locker ro...

What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter? In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly...

One in three women will experience domestic violence. But what happens when the survivor wears a badge? In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid speaks with Mia, a law enforcement officer who entered policing at 21 and was groomed, isolated, and assaulted by a senior officer who framed abuse as “consent” and control as “lifestyle.” Her story exposes how coercive control works behind closed doors and ins...

When headlines fade, survivors are often left with the aftermath. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid speaks with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, about what really happens behind high-profile domestic violence cases—and how abuse often escalates when someone tries to leave. Using lessons learned from the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, Norma explains how control, isolatio...

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child. Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, earl...

What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises? In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, ca...

The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure. Mia shares practical tools for reco...

What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth? On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast , Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse , for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction. Kath shares how suppressed memories of childho...

What if the person most likely to spot early signs of domestic violence isn’t a police officer, clinician, or counselor—but your hairstylist? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with salon owner and advocate Susanne Shepherd Post to reveal how Shear Haven is transforming everyday salon appointments into potentially life-saving interactions through a free, 20-minute domestic viole...

Shame often masquerades as a moral compass—but for many survivors of narcissistic abuse, it becomes the cage that keeps them stuck. In this 1 in 3 episode, Emma breaks down how shame fuels narcissistic abuse, why it fuses with identity, and how it traps survivors in the same relationship patterns even after they leave. She explains the key difference between guilt (which supports repair and growth...

What if the smartest “person” in the room during your most stressful moments isn’t a person at all—yet it remembers your story, protects your privacy, and helps you plan your next safe move? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Anne, creator of Aimee, a survivor-first A.I. tool designed specifically for domestic abuse and coercive control. Together, they explore how focused t...

Your brain can remember the past without reliving it— that’s the power of EMDR therapy . In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with licensed therapist Laurel to break down what EMDR is, how it works, and why it’s become one of the most effective trauma therapies for survivors of domestic violence, PTSD, and complex trauma. We explore how traumatic memories get “red-flagged” in th...