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Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing. They discuss Dr. Bessel van de Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps Score , and his interview with Krista Tippet on the Being Wise podcast , and how trauma becomes lodged in our bodies and what we can do to move...

Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, and why we need to be thoughtful about words we say and write. They also discuss why intimacy coordinators are being used at HBO, why Todd can continue to express himself authentically, and Dax Shepard’s i...

Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute . They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why pleasing everyone will exhaust you, and how our wounds can become our greatest source of strength and inspiration. Glennon and Abby are the keynotes at the Zen Parenting Conference on March 8&9, 20...

Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead , and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be practiced, and how we can teach and role model leadership in our homes, so our kids can take it into the world. Time Stamps 1:23 Family meeting on certain people not picking up after themselves 4:54 Magi...

Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids, in our partnerships, and even on-line – has the potential to teach compassion and deepen relationships. They discuss why stepping back is sometimes necessary, why stepping forward can be powerful...

Todd and Cathy discuss the history of not believing women, and why recognizing what we’ve missed and creating change can be messy and difficult. They share clips from a Hidden Brain podcast about how social proof and horizontal action play a role in the #metoo movement , the truth about Anita Hill’s testimony ( click here to hear the “You’re Wrong About…” podcast ), and why the Duke Lacrosse story...

Cathy and Todd discuss #WhyIDidntReport and why it’s important to listen, rather than assume we already understand, other people’s stories. They discuss the importance of hearing – women who talk about sexual assault, our spouses, our children – rather than assuming we already understand their experiences. They talk about questioning unconscious bias and share clips from a vulnerable and brave Cha...

Todd and Cathy discuss how Todd wants to make his daughters watch the documentary “RBG” and how it’s not working.  They also talk about a dad who wants to force his daughter to attend “optional” soccer practices. They talk about their own struggle of brand vs. mission for Zen Parenting Radio.  Lastly they play a clip from the “flu” episode. Time Stamps 3:1...

Cathy and Todd talk with Rea Frey about her new domestic suspense novel, Not Her Daughter . She shares the story behind the book, the conversation it has created, and why it makes the reader question the line between right and wrong. They also discuss modern-day parenting, the trauma of birth, and some real-life kidnapping scares. Not Her Daughter will be made into a major motion picture, and it’s...

Todd and Cathy discuss how kids can practice self-care and why a mental health day may reduce their anxiety and possibly decrease the odds of physical illness. They also discuss how couples can discuss balance and equity in the home, and how our society views female anger, specifically Serena Williams anger, during the U.S. Open. Time Stamps 1:30 Gemma Hartley’s book- “Fed Up” 2:...

Boundaries and Compassion Todd and Cathy discuss boundaries and compassion, and how they are threads that run through so many questions posed by parents, especially during Team Zen conversations. They also share why discussing controversial subjects doesn’t need to create more controversy, and why understanding how Fortnite makes kids feel will help explain why the game is so popular. Time Stamps...

Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise and 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speaker , about supporting/guiding a child through their first-phone experience. They also discuss recent movies such as 8 th Grade , BlacKKKlansman , and the new documentary, America to Me, filmed at Oak Park River Forest High Schoo l. Time Stamps 4:34 America To Me Documentary 9:20 Need furniture...

Todd and Cathy discuss the rituals and habits the set the tone for our days and nights, and why recognizing and understanding our power is the great success determiner. Time Stamps Go to  http://zenparentingconference.com     for the details… 7:54 Rituals 23:00 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   23:15 Need furniture?  Check out Campaign  Save $75 off any sofa, loveseat, or ch...

Cathy and Todd announce their 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speakers. They share why you MUST get to know these amazing women, read their books, and get your early-bird tickets to the conference. They discuss the difference between FOMO and JOMO and why JOMO can help us lead healthier and more peaceful lives. Time Stamps Go to  http://zenparentingconference.com     for the details… 2:11 JOMO...

Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It’s an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child – you don’t want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss P...

Cathy and Todd discuss Episode 4 of the series We Are Man Enough where they process the #metoo movement, consent, why it’s important to listen to other people’s stories, and how men can support other men. Time Stamps 34:21 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  55:28 Team Zen Resources/Videos used on today’s show We Are Man Enough Building a culture of consent and resp...

Todd and Cathy discuss Brady Bunch, Serena Williams Wimbledon interview, how to deal with conflict, empathy, and finding out who you can count on for honest, yet compassionate feedback. Time Stamps 2:14 Silver Platters perform 3:39 Serena Williams from Wilmbeldon 6:36 Todd’s blog is criticized as sexist and racist 8:06 Barack Obama’s take on unhealthy masculinity. 15:08 Dylan Marron&#8...

Todd and Cathy discuss one of Toby’s quotes from This is Us , and explain why his wisdom could strengthen any relationship. They discuss how to love our inner child without letting it take control, and why there are always only two options, love or fear. They share wisdom from Richard Rohr and Gary Zukov and some humor from Friends . Time Stamps 2:42 This Is Us Clip 9:00 Todd’s birth family...

Todd and Cathy speak with Kara Valentine, co-Founder of Threads Worldwide, an organization that creates life-changing work for women around the world through the fair trade of artisan jewelry. Threads Worldwide was founded in 2011 to give back and weave together a community of women leaders and change-makers. Resources/Videos used on today’s show Threads Worldwide https://www.youtube.com/wat...

Cathy and Todd discuss a productive definition of hope based on insight from Parker Palmer and Howard Thurman . They discuss Hannah Gadsby’s Netflix Comedy Special and share why her bravery and willingness to speak up is leading the way. Time Stamps 7:49 Parker Palmer- The Growing Edge 23:06 Hannah Gadsby discussion 59:05  Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  Resources/Videos used on...

Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School . Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast , and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life. Time Stamps 6:49 J...

Todd and Cathy talk with Patty Monahan, founder of Our Whole Village, a company that specializes in family vacations and adventures . They discuss why travel is so important at every age, why we should teach our children to be global citizens, and why travel creates confident parents and strong families. Resources/Videos used on today’s show https://ourwholevillage.com/ https://www.youtube.c...

Cathy and Todd talk with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World . They discuss why this book is rally cry for all parents raising exceptional children, and why it benefits every parent to listen and understand differences. Debbie also shares 18 powerful “tilts” or paradigm shifts that can change how we see ourselves and our children. Resourc...

Todd and Cathy talk with Josh St. Pierre, a 42 year old full-time soccer coach who is need of a kidney. Josh explains why live liver and kidney donation is essential and how to figure out if you are a match with someone on the registry. He also shares his story, starting with being diagnosed with kidney failure at 30, and why he is willing to ask for help and speak up for every person needing orga...

Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss why allowing our darkness and discussing mental wellness is essential. They offer a recipe for fulfillment and share why we need to call women’s sports just “sports”. Time Stamps 2:50 Suicides of Kate Spa...