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Cathy and Todd discuss the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, and why California Surgeon General Nadine Burke Harris plans to incorporate it into early-childhood wellness screenings. They discuss how an ACE score determines the long-term health of a child, and why understanding an ACE score can help deepen our self-awareness and evolve our parenting. Time Stamps 51:44 Painting or remodeling needs...

Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk about money and responsibility with your older kids. They discuss Rupture and Repair and how to recognize your own baggage so you can communicate effectively (rather than defensively). Time Stamps 6:50 Tony Porter A Call To Men 9:30 Listeners question regarding teenager driving responsibilities 39:10 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. Resources 202...

Todd and Cathy interview author/podcaster and all-around amazing guy- Rob Bell Time Stamps Resources 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. Upcoming Events CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events &#...

Todd and Cathy discuss the different types Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) and why it’s important to recognize our own experiences and blindspots. They discuss Malcolm Gladwell’s new book, Talking to Strangers , and how it can help us think in a more nuanced and expansive way. Time Stamps 4:10 Chance The Rapper’s paternity leave 8:02 Malcom Gladwell’s interview with Oprah 11:02 Childhood Emotion...

In the second half of this two part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child’s Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence They discuss weed, gaming, identity traffic,  and much more. Time Stamps 9:58 Is it ok for kids to know mom is seeing a therapist 11:00 Identity traffi...

Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child’s Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence  They discuss alcohol, family secrets, the 5 commandments of parenting and much more. Time Stamps 9:15 Working with teenagers 10:00 Julie 11:44 Table of contents 13:05 Go to school on teenagers 15:4...

Cathy+Todd introduce the speakers for the 5 th annual Zen Parenting Conference , February 28+29, 2020. They share why there’s more to love, more to learn, and MORE TO THE STORY . The 2020 conference is for parents, educators, therapists and definitely TEENS. Go to zenpopparenting.com and click events for your early-bird tickets! Only $25 for a teen ticket! Time Stamps 5:03 Rachel Simmons 14:36 Ton...

Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram – it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with modern psychology. They discuss the light and dark of each number and why understanding the different types develops self-compassion and empathy for others. Time Stamps 6:48 History and intro of the...

Cathy and Todd breakdown the manipulation tactic known as gaslighting, where the goal is to abuse or control through lying, manipulating, and destabilizing. They discuss how it can be used by partners, parents, friends, bosses, and the political system, and why self-awareness and reality testing are essential to keep yourself from being victimized. They also discuss Norway’s approach to childhood...

We couldn’t tape a show this week because Todd was sick ☹, so this is our Pop Culturing Podcast where we talk about the movie Say Anything… (1989) – we share why Lloyd and Diane’s love and friendship inspired us to be better people. We will return to our regularly scheduled programming next week! Say Anything …  is a 1989 American  romantic   comedy-drama  film written and directed by  Camer...

Cathy and Todd discuss the benefit of mental health days after a law passed in Oregon allowing them to be excused. They also discuss the light and dark side of empathy, and how pain and challenge is a an opportunity to become more compassionate toward ourselves and others. The discuss post-traumatic growth and how we are hard-wired to help people in need, especially if we relate to their experienc...

Cathy and Todd discuss why alone time or time away from your partner can be healthy and connective. They share the benefits and discuss the balance of togetherness and individuation. They share why it’s important to keep a sense of self and why the healthiest partnerships exist within the paradox of safety and adventure. Time Stamps 2:06 Should we have different words for trauma? 11:52 Being apart...

Cathy and Todd discuss Stranger Things Season 3 and how it deals with grief, trauma, and growing up. They also discuss the “believe women” theme and all of the obvious and less obvious 80’s references. Time Stamps 45:45  Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 1:06:55 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code...

Cathy and Todd discuss how we all have different approaches to challenging situations, and why there isn’t one way to speak up or solve a problem. They discuss how we can help children build a “self-awareness muscle” through question-asking and curiosity, and why understanding and honoring who we are is a life-long endeavor. Time Stamps 7:05 Random observations on a Monday afternoon (quick takes)...

Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Momen t (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9 th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it’s important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire,...

To celebrate their 500 th episode and 8 years of podcasting, Todd and Cathy talk with their daughters Jacey (16), Camryn (14), and Skylar (11) about their experiences with “zen” parenting, and discuss the issues confronting teens and pre-teens today. Todd and Cathy also announce the launch of their new podcast, Pop Culturing – they discuss movies, tv shows and books, and break down key momen...

Cathy and Todd discuss some questions that Lori Gottlieb addresses in her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone , and share their own experiences with being the practitioner and the patient. Time Stamps 1:07 Thrifty McSavesalot 3:05 Maybe you should talk to someone 5:22 Do patients ever bore you? 15:06 Are there clients you don’t like? 17:32 What are you like outside the office? 26:22 Welco...

Cathy and Todd discuss how fatherhood is being redefined and expanded as we learn more about ourselves and gender, Team Zen, Taylor Swift and much more… Time Stamps 4:24 Team Zen Clip 6:40 Cleo Wade quote on fathers 24:42 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 45:00 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon...

Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Paul’s book The Wisdom of Anxiety, and why anxiety is an opportunity to be curious rather than afraid. They discuss how compassion, stillness, and gratitude play a role in understanding and coping with anxiety, and why anxiety is a wound and a messenger. They also discuss the Equal Rights Amendment and how it hasn’t yet been ratified by 38 states. Time Stamps 2:54 Joh...

Todd and Cathy discuss Sister Joan Chittister and her new book The Time is Now: A Call to Uncommon Courage. They discuss civil discourse, why we get our loves out of order, and why we yearn for the genuine. They discuss why self-care is the first step toward bettering our partnerships, parenting, and engagement in community and activism. Time Stamps 20:21 Is your computer backed up?  No?  Checkout...

Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4 th – click here to join Team Zen and participate. Time Stamps 1:49 What is emotional labor? 6:08 “Tell me what to do.”  Helping vs...

Cathy and Todd discuss why the new laws in Alabama and other states strip women of their reproductive and human rights. They discuss how we have to take a wider view and not assume everyone has access to the same resources or education. They discuss how men make these decisions but remove themselves from what should be legislated or criminalized, and how we could refocus our energy to educate and...

Cathy and Todd discuss girls and stress and play clips from Rich Roll’s interview with Under Pressure author Lisa Damour . They also discuss the conflict between James Charles and Tati Westbrook, and how to talk to boys about being a bystander. Time Stamps 1:06 Tribe Men’s Group https://tribemensgroup.org/ 2:40 Bystander Moment Screening on July 9 th –  View Trailer Here 3:50 Women’s Reprodu...

Cathy and Todd talk with Former New York Times reporter KJ Dell’Antonio about her book How to be a Happier Parent. They discuss some common issues that challenge parents, and explore how to decrease the stress and find more joy. Time Stamps Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” fo...

Todd and Cathy discuss how people and organizations are both light and dark, and why it’s important to recognize this in ourselves. They discuss the You Tube Original Show Cobra Kai , specifically the nostalgia and surprises, and how all the characters are multidimensional and imperfect. They also share Carol Cadwalladr’s TED Talk where she calls out the Titans of Tech and Ricky Henderson’s Baseba...