The Transformational Leader

"The responsibility for how my communication lands lie entirely with myself." In transformational leadership, the leader steps into the stand that they are 100% responsible for how their communication lands. If I say something to you and it upsets you, that's my responsibility. If I say something to you and it lands beautifully with you, that's my responsibility. When you start getting into the fa...

What is boredom? How do you relate to boredom, and how do you work with this?  Boredom is a common thing that many people struggle with. The default relationship you have with boredom is that something is wrong when boredom shows up. If you are bored, something is missing, and you want to get away from it by watching TV, drinking, or playing games. It creates this internal experience of boredom th...

How do shadow and relationship work?  Your shadow self-perpetuates your fears. Every time your fear is getting triggered, what the fear does is it goes out looking into the world to find evidence to prove that it's true. That's natural. Fear does not get defeated through rationality. The way to get out of this is to distinguish that this is all just fear. In a relationship, your partner's fear is...

In the Western world, you don't have a context from medicine the way indigenous peoples do. Instead, you only have a context for drugs, and if you look at the context for drugs, it's something that you can take and stabilize, but the drug itself will lead to dependency and addiction. It doesn't support you in healing, and it is just like a bandage. There is another healing modality available for y...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as Finger pointing, Suppressing your being at work, and learning to shift, Navigating the breakdown, Transmuting energy and learning to create art, Transcending the pendulum (aka, The Transcendulum), and more.

As a leader, if you are committed to developing the leadership ladders, the effective way to do that is by coaching, telling, educating, advising, and mentoring. Lack of coachability is a classic issue in leadership, and as a leader, you can easily label someone as "uncoachable" if they are not cooperating. Uncoachability is an easy label to grab and slap on someone, but most of the time, it is pa...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as retreats, 15-minute coaching, Cleaning up our messes (and who determines a mess), Bad parenting and giving feedback, a life free of compromise, and more.

Blaming is your default state as a human. Blaming happens when you perceive something is wrong, and two things show up: The first is your behavior, and internally, you arrive at a point where they are wrong. If you see something wrong, you call it out. Listen to how the call-out culture works against its intentions and why blaming makes people defensive. You will also learn why Laissez-faire or br...

It's the continuation of a much-needed retreat of Adam Quiney with her wife, Bay LeBlanc, now in the rainforest of Costa Rica! In this episode's highlight, they recalled how they started as a new couple. Adam and Bay recalled their experiences when they first met and became life partners. He was still in law school, and Bay graduated with her MBA with a lot of debt. All the hardships, trauma, and...

We all need a retreat after long, tiring days. In this episode, Adam Quiney and Bay LeBlanc share their experiences on their latest retreat in Costa Rica, specifically in the mountains of La Fortuna. It is always best to travel somewhere new and do work together. One of the benefits of traveling is you get to experience an adventure. Listen as they share their experiences from their first retreat...

Are you responsible for how things went? The way we typically operate or relate to responsibility is that it is a fact. Whether you are responsible or not, there are problems with this approach. Some of the problems are that when responsibility is a fact, then taking responsibility for how things went becomes a fact-finding mission. As a leader, it diminishes your capacity to be responsible. It al...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as talks his book, Who Do You Think You Are, with regards to your niche, and what to do when we know what to do, but can't seem to do it.

People say, "People will follow not what you say as a leader but what you do." I'm not saying it isn't accurate, but it's incomplete. It is more of, "People will follow not only what you do, but they will follow who you are underneath what you are doing." It is the art of modeling --- Modeling something is the act of showing people through your being and what you're doing. The art of modeling is b...

What do you stand for? Do you stand for something safe, easy, and comfortable? Your stand supports you. It is why you go in a different direction. It might be somewhat comfortable, easy, fun, or safe. --- this is the nature of a stand. Leadership often works with your stand, and without a stand, you will turn into the so-called "default stand." Listen as you learn the definition of a "created stan...

As a leader, you are either having people be attracted to you or you're enrolling them in something. The former will create fast yet short-term results while the latter will create long-term and lasting transformational results. In addition, while attraction feels good and appeals to your ego, it's actually enrolment that really causes people to want to travel forward with you. So how do you make...

Part of a leader's job is to be impeccable. Unfortunately, even some of the most brilliant leaders equate impeccability to perfection. And nothing can be further from the truth. On the contrary, impeccability does not mean you are perfect. In essence, it means you are responsible for your edges, you recognise them when they show up, and you address them accordingly. Of course, this is all better s...

On the surface, cults and leaderships can seem very similar. However, when examined closely, it's easy to see one couldn't be more different from the other. What's interesting is many cults often start out well-intentioned. Unfortunately, they often end up sinister because their leaders end up believing they have everything sorted and does not need anyone else to guide them. Truly powerful leaders...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as Sneaky strategies for avoidance, Creating more powerful inquiries for yourself, What it means to look at something ontologically, EQ and how it grows, You vs. You, Responsibility as a Stand, rather than a Fact, Flow vs. Resistance, Identity and how we relate to ourselves, and more!

At one point or another in their leadership, leaders will most likely encounter the phrase "just the way you are." While seemingly harmless, this phrase is actually the antithesis of a really powerful and transformative leadership. If you're a leader who hides behind the excuse it's just the way you are, you'll create a leadership that's dictated by the past rather than the transformative leadersh...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as Polarity and the fundamental tension in life, Being in Flow vs. Pushing Beyond Your Comfort Zone, How to Communicate Artfully, Getting Your Services Known, Looking at the World Ontologically, The Imago Lens, and more!

Have you experienced doing something because you are unwilling not to do it? It is not the same thing as doing something because you want to. It is challenging to choose what you want because you are trained to do what you should do first. So much of leadership has chosen from being something that you should do. As soon as you have something you should do, you don't have much choice for your 'No.'...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam talks with special guest Fayzan Rab about his journey into medicine and ontology, as well as (hot) takes on the coaching profession and the work of a leader.

Why is the shit sandwich shitty? If you do not know, a shit sandwich is a technique of providing feedback when you give people two pieces of bread. It's an idea of couching the true feedback you want to give someone by giving them some complementary feedback, so they don't feel bad. Shit sandwich happens when you relate to what's happening, like a deficiency or something they need to fix. All of t...

On this week's mid-week episode, tune in as Adam discusses a variety of topics such as Freewill, Living in a Simulation, and other Philosophical musings, Structures that support him, Staying in connection and conversation, Practising vs Finishing, Generation vs Stimulation, and more!

According to the dictionary, collusion is a secret or illegal cooperation or conspiracy to cheat or deceive others. In transformational leadership, collusion happens between two human beings when one agrees and buys into the other's story. It is getting into the story with them. Collusion is the human tendency to seek agreement with each other, but did you know that it stops you from creating a br...