Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by sex therapist and licensed psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Dr. Kate educates us on all things enmeshment trauma -- how it can impact our romantic relationships, the types of partners we’re drawn to, our familial relationships and friendships, as well as how it shapes our identity, self-worth, and perspective on love and boundaries. Whether you're j...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Former Deputy Sheriff, Joy Farrow, and Technologist and Domestic Violence Survivor, Laura Frombach, to discuss street-smart safety and defensive living. They share practical tips for a variety of scenarios -- online dating, rideshares, traveling on your own, being home alone, and more. Plus, a variety of affordable safety tools and technology options,...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are talking situationships -- signs you’re in one, pros and cons, tips for defining the relationship (if you want to), and offering up their variety of personal experience with these kinds of relationships from all ends of the situationship spectrum, including how friends with benefits turned into a marriage for one of them. Whether your situationship is working gre...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing the concept of a quarter-life crisis, and how they’re definitely amidst one (they thought they were passed this sh*t!?). They're sharing how this experience differs to what they went through in their 20s, what feels eerily similar, and the things that actually help them stabilize during times of uncertainty. They also audit some major life categories...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by the creator of Zen Habits, Leo Babauta. Leo shares about the complete 180 he accomplished by transforming his habits nearly two decades ago (starting with how he quit smoking cigarettes for good), offers his juiciest tips for lasting change, and covers the range of feelings we can experience as we simplify our lives and become more present. Whether you...

This week the girls share their very honest daily routines vs. their ideal routines. They cover a typical work day, what they do in their free time, self-care regimens, as well as the habits they’re currently working on (and massively failing at). We hope this episode gives you simple ideas for implementing more joy into your day, helps you reject the false narrative of a perfect Insta-worthy rout...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook share their experience with being adult children of divorce. The challenges, benefits, and how it’s impacted them overall -- as well as reveal some massive aha moments they’ve had recently around this topic. They’re covering everything from struggles with boundaries and self-love, to navigating their own romantic relationships and appreciating a blended family. Whet...

Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer are celebrating 6 years of The Self-Helpless Podcast! They’re reflecting on where they were 6 years ago in their careers, relationships, and health vs. where they are now. Everything from what they wish they would’ve known back then, their biggest insecurities, and how they’ve evolved overall as they continue to crawl in the direction of their dre...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are talking bucket lists. They share some of the things on their personal and professional bucket lists, the experiences they’ve crossed off their lists through the years, and how they prioritize and implement what they’d like to do next. We hope this episode not only helps you create your own unique list, but inspires you to bring it to fruition! For exclusive rewa...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are joined by comedian, Aparna Nancherla. Aparna shares her personal experience with anxiety, depression, and impostor syndrome, the highs and lows of pursuing an unconventional career, and the biggest tools that have helped her feel as grounded as possible along the way. If you have a love-hate relationship with your creative pursuits, this is definitely the episod...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are doing some shadow work together. They share how this darker side of their psyche usually manifests, some of their biggest triggers, and how they integrate this part of themselves with who they strive to be. They’re touching on judgment, guilt, shame, jealousy, restlessness, anger, and anxiety. This one’s a real doozy so strap in. For exclusive rewards, and to in...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are sharing some of their favorite simple, daily pleasures. The things that can ease them out of a funk, fill them with gratitude, and instantly promote some well-being. Tune in for inspiration to be more present, and practical tips for infusing moments of peace and simple luxuries into your life.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join o...

Delanie’s chatting with her friends about their experiences with pregnancy, childbirth, and their transition into motherhood. Her friends are dishing out their favorite tips, tools, and products that they wish they would’ve known about earlier, the unexpected challenges they faced, and what they’ve enjoyed most about becoming mothers. Whether you’re a new parent, or you’re considering becoming one...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing some of their experiences with money. They share how their beliefs around money have evolved, the variety of approaches they've taken to earn money, and the simple tips they’ve implemented to spend, save, and share in a way that feels great for them. Whether you think money is an awesome tool, the root of all evil, or something in the middle, let’s ta...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are chatting about their dear old friend, overthinking. They share play-by-plays of what happens inside their minds during rumination spirals (including how they even overthought the recording of this episode), the areas of their lives where overthinking is most prevalent, and the prompts and exercises that help them reduce anxiety related to unhelpful thought loops...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing the 4 phases of the menstrual cycle (menstruation, the follicular phase, ovulation, and the luteal phase) and how they relate to the four seasons of winter, spring, summer, and fall ("...all you've got to do is calllll"). They explore how to use each phase to your advantage in both your personal and professional life, holistic tips for managing hormon...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook reveal their favorite quotes of all time! The ones that have inspired them in times of indecision, comforted them during heartbreak, and the quotes that continue to give them a boost of courage as they pursue their freakin’ dreams. Get ready to feel totally amped after this quotable buffet! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patre...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing their favorite tips for getting great sleep, and how their habits have evolved over time. They share their go-to remedies, what keeps them up at night, and the fluctuations they’ve experienced in their energy levels. Plus, how the heck Kelsey survives without caffeine as she flies herself all over the planet! For exclusive rewards, and to influence co...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing the various ways we change our minds, and the range of feelings that can come along with it. They share some of their personal and professional pivots, how they manage any fear or guilt around shifting gears (especially publicly), and why we tend to have such complicated feelings about evolving in the first place. If you’ve been hard on yourself for c...

Delanie Fischer is joined by educator, best-selling author, and content creator widely known for his viral debates and speeches, Ed Winters. Annoyed by vegans? We were too. Eat meat, dairy, and eggs at just about every meal? We did too. Ed answers questions like isn’t vegan food expensive (and gross)? Don’t we need to eat animal products for optimal nutrition? Won’t animals overrun us if we stop e...

Kelsey is joined by comedian, Ryan Sickler. Ryan shares about his recent month-long stay in the hospital after a simple procedure went completely sideways, how he feels about the current healthcare system, as well as some silver linings connected to his experience. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie...

Delanie Fischer is joined by EMDR Therapist, Lucy Sherman. Lucy uses a variety of creative modalities to support her clients with processing and healing from complex trauma -- including oracle cards. Lucy guides us through 7 of her favorite oracle deck prompts that she uses with clients, as well as in her own self-care practice. Don't have an oracle deck? Grab a book, magazine, or some paper and y...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by co-founder of The Underbelly, yoga teacher, and body positivity advocate, Jessamyn Stanley. Jessamyn shares the difference between body positivity vs. body neutrality, how body positivity can turn toxic (and how to combat it), and the awesome story behind her naked yoga practice. Everyone gets vulnerable in this episode about their bodies, self-image,...

Kelsey is joined by comedian, Drew Lynch. Drew shares his experience with a traumatic sports injury, becoming a different version of himself, and the breakthroughs he's had after implementing lifestyle changes and working with a neurologist.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefi...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by sex educator and intimacy expert, Susan Bratton. Susan debunks all the myths we’ve been fed about the female orgasm, shares practical tips for tapping into your large capacity for pleasure, how to sexually reconnect with a partner -- even if it feels like you’re on different planets, and gives some seriously hot demonstrations that they WISH had been i...