Therapy, Without the Couch

A former patient and current clinician joins me to discuss her journey through trauma and the therapy that helped her. We talk about facing shame, owning your narrative and embracing your sexuality. We also discuss how trauma impacts intimate partnered relationships. *Trigger warnings: Rape, sexual assault and suicide are discussed.

Here I discuss the danger of rating our "goodness" or status only on visible, quantifiable metrics. What about being a good person, or happiness, or feeling energetic, or connecting with your family? While less visible, comparable, or tangible - aren't these areas just as important? Even more so...than say, wealth or number or kids or cars? This gets more personal than usual as I share some of my...

Here we review the many factors that factor into attraction - what gives you an "Ooooh" excitement versus an "Ewwww" detest and "ick" - including past relationships, family of origin, sociocultural unconscious factors, peer pressure, and so on. Learn a bit more about why we are drawn to certain people and not others - and is that a good thing? Should you listen to that pull or ignore it because it...

We dive into the notion of identity - what defines you? What makes you, YOU?! Is it what you do? What you like or believe? Can you be defined by something even if you feel like an imposter? Is our identity ever-changing? Listen to hear more...

I discuss the belief that we can just have love, health, and success due to luck, or the universe. When if fact a great deal of effort goes into obtaining and keeping these positives in our lives. We need not fear steps toward being in love or on shape, and instead see how this gives us control and direction towards what we want.

We explore the multiple avenues of mental and physical healing that sit outside of traditional Western medicine and pharmacology. Considering the way these techniques have been pushed down as they were the domain of women or indigenous people, and thus not as valued by Big Pharma or Western medical providers. I call myself out on my own ignorance and history of downplaying these methodologies. We...

This episode reviews the need for emotional or energetic release for mental health benefits. We discuss the varied way to offload your energy, using gross but memorable metaphors and analogies. You will learn at least 5 new ways to cope with your emotions by getting them off your chest and shoulders.

I give 3-4 lessons from couples therapy that should help you see your relationship differently. Looking at the relationship as a house helps you learn and retain the lessons.

I discuss the difference between the "ick," red flags, and personal issues when looking at relationships through the lens of the show "nobody wants this."