The Susan Winter Show

What should you do when you've discovered your partner has cheated?  Leaving is a clear choice for many. However, there are other options should you (and your partner) care to salvage your relationship. For more on this topic, check out my feature in Bustle: My Partner Is Cheating On Me — Now What? https://www.bustle.com/p/my-partner-is-cheating-on-me-now-what-50739

Rather than being afraid to love, the better option is to be a good sifter of which partner is worth the risk. Developing our skill of evaluating our prospective mates' disposition and core values will eliminate unneeded heartache. Here's how to do that.

Clarity around what you want is essential for creating a relationship you'll enjoy. If you don't take the reins, you'll have to take what you get. The person with the strongest desire and clearest vision will dominate the relationship.  It might as well be you.

Creating tension is a long-standing dating game that's been used throughout time to reboot a lover's interest. It was a key tactic for courtesans to maintain their patron's interest. Be wise, and learn this game — so that you'll never be destabilized by a desperate (and fearful) date.

Only a heart that's pure in its intention can open the hardest of hearts. The animal inside of us is constantly aware of agendas and games. The only way to hack into another's heart is to check your weapons at the gate.

The person you're seeing is pulling away. What you do depends on what you've already established with them. New connections are handled differently than established relationships. Here's your step-by-step guide.

Here's how to master a passive aggressive partner who blames you for their bad behavior. My offensive strategy counters their turnaround, and frees you from having to defend yourself against their mistakes.

Differences in personality and lifestyle are exciting in a mate... until the very thing that was a plus becomes a negative. Here's how to balance those extremes.

Learn the incredible power of playing full out in all your romantic connections. Showing up completely adds value to each partnership, and prepares you for embracing love when your ultimate partner arrives.

All mixed messages have one thing in common; confusion. Whether that confusion is real or a game is the part you need to discern. This video shows you how to deconstruct an internal battle from a con to manipulate you for their control.

In new relationships, we wonder if we're texting too much or too little. What's the right amount of contact to make? Here's how to effectively use texting to increase attraction and create a deeper connection.

Breaking the news of your age-gap love can create tension and fear for both you and your mate. Here's how to present yourselves as a unified front to garner the respect and understanding you both deserve.

No matter how bad your break up, resist the urge to air your grievances on social media. Whatever you write or say will come back to haunt you.  Here's the safe (and classy) way to handle your social media PR after a breakup and retain your dignity and power.

Is someone you're dating holding you in place, but not letting you advance? Becoming the “place card” is for their convenience, and rarely means your moving closer to partnership. Learn who plays this game, and how to handle them and yourself.

Single doesn't mean unwanted. Single doesn't mean lonely. Being single is a complete category with full status and merit that needs no justification or excuse to be made. Here's how to know your rights and your worth if you find yourself judged by the ignorant.

Updating your romantic model of love is essential after a divorce. You're not the same person as you were in the past. So, your love can't be built on the same foundation as it was in the past. Here's how to navigate your way to finding a love that works.

Questioning how to handle a dating situation? How do you know what behavior is correct? The best way is to check in with your ‘sandbox rules' to see what's right and wrong — you'll get the correct answer every time.

Red flags are markers we need to heed in dating. Sometimes we ‘imagine' we see red flags in an effort to protect ourselves. Here's how to know if what you saw was an off-colored green flag that signaled a partner how deserves a second chance.

Current dating trends are moving beyond hookups and inching their way toward more rewarding formats. Sexual exclusivity (without the relationship title) is answering the STD dilemma, and serves as a gateway option to counterbalance the emotional fallout of our previous dating models.

Many an older woman has voiced her fear of ruining her younger man's life. This form of projection is based on what society has said is the ‘normal transit of one's life.' However, age-gap love breaks all barriers to be united with the prefect match (regardless of convention).

We hesitate to share the truth of our feelings for one reason only — fear. Will they reject us? Eliminate neediness and activate your power by using “The Monologue Technique” to communicate your emotions.

The first step to getting off the game board is to realize you're on it. Freedom to be yourself can never be had while someone else is pulling the strings. No meaningful relationship can be formed with ‘game' as its foundation. Learn how to set yourself free and turn the tables toward love.

Here are the signs that tell you whether someone has the ability to care (but is hesitant), as opposed to someone who's unable to care and unwilling to be a true partner.

Duty dating is a way to kick-start your love life by expanding your options and pushing past your comfort zone. Whether you've been too lazy or too fearful, a couple of practice rounds will loosen you up while showing you what you like and want.

The emotional rollercoaster caused by a lover's unwanted behavior can be so dramatic that we assume we're in love. Here's the difference between ‘needing to win' control and what we often think is love.