The Gay Relationship Podcast

In this conversation, Tom Bruett interviews David F Khalili (he/him), a queer licensed marriage and family therapist and board certified sexologist based in San Francisco and founder of Rouse Relational Wellness. They discuss David's mission of "Shame Less, Love More," his journey into sex therapy, and the unique challenges faced by queer Middle Eastern men navigating identity, family, and belongi...

In this conversation, Tom Bruett interviews Mickie Kennedy(he/him), a gay poet whose work reflects on his experiences living through the AIDS crisis and the complexities of intimacy and relationships. They discuss the emotional journey of writing poetry, the impact of societal issues on personal creativity, and the importance of documenting the history of the LGBTQ+ community. Kennedy shares insig...

In this insightful conversation, Michael Pezzullo, LMFT (he/him), explores the complex dynamics of pretty privilege, aging, and self-worth within the gay community. He discusses how external validation impacts mental health, the cultural obsession with youth, and practical ways to develop inner strength and authenticity. Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards for gay men: https://www.q...

In this conversation, Dr. Miguel Toribo-Mateus(he/they) shares his personal journey with ADHD and autism, discussing the importance of diagnosis and medication. He explores the intricate relationship between nutrition, gut health, and neurodivergence, emphasizing how these factors can influence ADHD symptoms. Miguel also highlights the unique experiences of queer individuals in relation to neurodi...

In this conversation, Ed Bell (he/him), a gay dating and relationship coach, shares his journey from being a musician to a coach, discussing the importance of authenticity, the challenges of modern dating, and the impact of dating apps. He emphasizes the need for community and real-life connections while addressing issues like biphobia and the evolving culture of gay dating. Ed offers some practic...

In this conversation, Dr. Roger Kuhn(he/him) discusses the themes of connection, cultural identity, and the importance of vulnerability in healing. He emphasizes the significance of understanding one's cultural background and how it shapes our experiences and relationships. The discussion also explores the concept of soma-cultural liberation, the impact of trauma on our bodies, and the necessity o...

In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) speaks with Finn Deerhart (he/him), an AASECT certified sex counselor and coach, about his journey from ministry to sex counseling, the importance of writing in his life, and the complexities of navigating sexuality in urban environments. They discuss the significance of embodiment, community, and the impact of religious trauma on sexual identity. Finn sha...

In this engaging conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Dr. Ty (he/him), a sex therapist and advocate for the kink and leather communities. They discuss the integration of personal and professional experiences in therapy, the importance of consent in relationships, and the need for mentorship within the kink community. Dr. Ty shares insights on navigating stigma surrounding polyamory and kin...

In this interview, Tom Bruett, sex and relationship therapist, interviews Cator Sparks, a life coach for gay men. They explore topics like loneliness, connection, intergenerational friendships and relationships. About Cator Sparks: Cator Sparks is a life coach for men based in Atlanta, Georgia, and a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) through the Co-Active Training Institute. He came ou...

In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Nick Wolny (he/him), an author and columnist for Out Magazine, about his new book, Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt, and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future. They discuss the unique financial challenges faced by the queer community, the emotional connections to money, and the importance of financial literacy. Nick s...

In this interview with Tom Bruett, LMFT, CST, interviews Dallas Bragg, a Chemsex Recovery Coach. The interview talks about some of the devastating ways that chemsex is ravaging the gay community. More importantly, there are tips for what to do if you or someone you love is struggling with sex and meth addiction. Dallas Bragg is the Founder of Recovery Alchemy, a 1:1 and Group Coaching Chemsex Reco...

In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) speaks with Zach Taylor (he/him), a fitness coach specializing in helping men over 40. They discuss the changes men experience as they age, the importance of mental health and body image, and the impact of social media on self-perception. Zach shares his journey through various careers, his passion for teaching, and the significance of community in fitness...

In this interview we talk with Dr. Luke Wilson about his story surviving conversion therapy and the new book that he has edited which compiles the stories of other survivors out there. Dr. Lucas Wilson is a SSHRC Postdoctoral Fellow at University of Toronto Mississauga and was formerly the Justice, Equity, and Transformation Postdoctoral Fellow at University of Calgary. He is the editor of Shame-S...

In this conversation with Andy Scahill, we explore the intersection of queer culture, film, and community building. Andy shares his journey of creating Rainbow Cult, a platform for queer film screenings that fosters a sense of belonging and interaction among audiences. They discuss the importance of in-person experiences in an increasingly digital world, the challenges of archiving queer history,...

Get a free set of 48 discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards Tom Bruett, LMFT, sex and relationship expert for gay men interviews Brian G. Murphy about his new book, Love Beyond Monogamy. This interview explores the intersection between love, polyamory, spirituality and the gay community. Brian G. Murphy  @thisisbgm  is an author and certified relationship co...

In this conversation, Keegan Hirst (he/him) shares his journey from being a professional rugby player to becoming a coach for gay men. He discusses the importance of community, the impact of representation in media, and the unique challenges faced by gay men in personal development. Keegan emphasizes the need for a holistic approach to coaching, focusing on mental, emotional, and physical well-bei...

Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) and Dr. Matthew Brinkley (he/they) explore the importance of authenticity in therapy, particularly within the queer community. They discuss the challenges faced by queer individuals in navigating their identities and the need for therapists to b...

What are gay men actually craving in bed—and why doesn’t porn, hookup culture, or Instagram perfection satisfy it? In this deep, honest conversation, sex and relationship therapist Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with porn performer, intimacy coach, and podcast host Vance Hedman(he/him) to talk about authenticity, masculinity, porn myths, body shame, loneliness, sobriety, and the kind of intimacy ga...

The conversation with Owen Schiller provides insights into the Easton Mountain Retreat Center, highlighting its impact on the queer community and the diverse experiences it offers. From overcoming initial apprehensions to establishing connections and relationships, the retreat center fosters personal growth and community building. The chapters cover the introduction, mission, visitor experience, i...

In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with Dustin Oliver(he/him), the creator of boy meets therapy, to talk honestly about what it really takes to become a therapist - especially a queer therapist building a career in today’s mental health landscape. Dustin opens up about the messy, beautiful, and often overwhelming process of entering the field, why accessible mental health content for q...

In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with the brilliant and wildly creative Jayden Aubryn (they/them) - a therapist who blends movement, art, somatics, kink, and community care into a transformative approach to trauma healing. Together, they explore what holistic healing really looks like, why therapists must do their own internal work, and how joy, play, and embodied expression can beco...

The conversation delves into the complexities of body dysmorphia, exploring its roots in early trauma, societal conditioning, and personal experiences. It also highlights the impact of steroid use and the transformative effects of psychedelic healing. The importance of embodiment, intimacy in relationships, and creating supportive environments for healing are also discussed. Takeaways Body dysmorp...