The Dildorks

We're both pretty subby, but we have some feelz about dominance. Find out the difference between topping and domming, what sex acts make us feel toppy, and what we enjoy about bossing people around. Topping vs. Domming | Kink-sey Scale | Partner-Dependent | Vanilla Sex | Gender Differences | Suz | Toppy Fantasies | Facesitting | Empathy | Spanking | Fisting Lessons | Caretaking | Overstimulation |...

We just went to the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit and had some Thoughts and Feelings! Hear about our favorite and least favorite sessions, the weird/cool sex stuff we got up to, and the new toys we got! BLM , NAACP , and Beloved Community Charlottesville | Live Show | Whiteness | Femme As Fuck | Keep Giving a Fuck | The Height of Luxury | Body-Safe Toys | Shame & Perfectionism | Why Does He D...

We recorded this episode live at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit! Find out our best tips for attending conferences: how to meet people, learn things, and take good care of yourself! Playground Conference | Sex Blogger Summer Camp | Approaching People | Twitter | Nina Hartley | Information Processing | Rest | Spreadsheets | Expectations | Self-Care | Jiz Lee | New York Toy Collective | Oral Lovi...

This week we sat down with our friend Suz , a sex blogger, unicorn, and online-dating aficionado. She told us about her best and worst threesomes, gave some group-sex advice, and shared her Tinder secrets! Threesome Math | Dick Video | Bloody Panties | Fi(r)st Time | Worst Time | Sex Movies | Power Dynamics | Best Time | Put Your Mouth On It | Boundaries | Unicorn Hunters | Football Team | Tinder...

This week we sat down with our friend Taylor J Mace , blogger, educator, and sex worker ! They told us the nerdy strategies they use to plan group sex, some tips for attending sex parties, and thoughts on playful domination! Anal Fisting | Intense Talkers | Hotel-Room Orgy | Spreadsheets | Privacy | Feelings | First Time | No Expectations | Going Solo | Condom Fairy | Playful Domination | Dom Ster...

This week we get wild and talk about edgeplay: kinks that kinda terrify us, but in a hot way. Find out what we find compelling about knives, piss, consensual non-consent, and a plethora of other pervy deliciousness. Rekinkarnation | Taboos | Humiliation | Knives | Open Source Sex | Fantasy vs. Reality | Watersports | Service | Embarrassment | Enough to Make You Blush | Anxiety | Consensual Non-Con...

Our passion for penises knows no bounds. In this episode, we discuss all things dick: our first schlong sightings, our current criteria for commendable cocks, and our favorite things to do with wangs. This one gets a little porny, folks! BJ Cast | High Passion | All Dicks Are Good Dicks | Surprise! | Sementics | Dick vs. Cock | First Time | You Show Me Mine | Envy | Anxiety | Technique | Responsiv...

Ah, the wonderful and complex world of non-monogamy! This week, we get nerdy about polyamory. Find out how we realized monogamy didn't work for us, which resources taught us about poly, and what the hell we do with all our feeeeelingz. Polynormativity | Choosing Monogamy | Proto-Kate | Solo Poly | Monogamous Exes | Unnatural Rules | Labels | Freedom | Disclosure | Jealousy | Reid Mihalko | One-Pen...

What the heck is sex-positivity and why does it matter? This week, we discuss the sex-positive movement: its advantages, its criticisms, and how to live a sex-positive life. Pride Glitter | Definitions | Safe vs. Risk-Aware | SwedenManatees | Sex is Fun | Sex Nerd Sandra | Vanilla-Shaming | Opposition | Kinks vs. Behaviors | Callouts | Beacon of Permission | Sex Shops | Sexual Attitude Reassessmen...

Happy Father's Day! Let's talk about Daddy Doms. Find out how we realized we were into Daddies, how we deal with weird feelings around this taboo, and how we feel about people calling us Daddy! Coffee Dom | Pup vs. Little | Nice Dominance | Lawyer Prof | Why Are People Into Ageplay? | The Big Little Podcast | Ageplay | Little Space | DD/lg and Pups vs. Poly | Incest?! | Vanilla Daddy | Daddy Feelz...

We were thrilled this week to chat with Andre Shakti , sex educator, sex worker, and sex journalist. She gave us advice on managing jealousy, meeting metamours, and getting fisted for the first time! I Am Poly and So Can You | Vocabulary & Context | Therapists | Jealousy | Metamours | Femme Competition | Compersion | Humanization | Strap-On Workshop | Sex Down South | Fisting | Cathartic Cryin...

Fanfiction is a wonderful exercise in imagination and perviness! Find out our favorite fic pairings, our thoughts on the ethics of real-person fic, and why we wanna make out with Gregory House and Jake Peralta. Testosterone | Grindr | Rachel Kramer Bussel | Nerve Endings | Bones | Harry Potter | Brooklyn Nine-Nine | House, M.D. | Real-Person Fic | Cumbersmut | Stephanie Beatriz | Supernatural | #D...

Maaan, we really like making out. This week we're talkin' about kissing. Find out which Indiana Jones movie underscored Bex's first kiss, what improv has to do with kissing, and whether good cunnilinguists make good kissers. Ziti Siren | Indiana Jones | Report Card | Spin the Bottle | Passion | The Thigh-Grind | Koala Nest | Contact Improv | Lip-Biting | Casual Kisses | Oral Sex | Bad Kissers | IK...

This week we're chatting with Stella, a sex-savvy, queer, kink-positive, badass astrologer. They taught us how our star charts inform our sex lives, relationships, and even our business partnership! Skepticism | Sun, Moon, Rising | Antisocial Scorpio | Service | Spreadsheets | Poly Boundaries | Libra Logic | Flirting | Bossy Sub | Taurus & Virgo 4Ever | Luxurious Masturbation | Too Many Ideas...

Happy belated Mother's Day, y'all! This week we're talking about how our childhoods and parents influenced our sexuality. And, bonus: Kate interviews her mom about masturbation, boys, and celebrities! DD/lg | Fellati-eww | Pleasure | Books | TMI | Anatomy | Equality | Acceptance | Butts | Bath Faucet | Sex Therapist | Sexagenarian Superbabe | Feminist Hero | Boy-Thirsty | White Wine | Funny Weirdo...

Aftercare is an oft-overlooked part of kink, but a super important one! This week we discuss why aftercare matters, how we like to do it, and what happens if we skip it (hint: bad stuff!). Pajamas | Altered State | Distance | Poly Partners | Debriefing | Chocolate | #BirthdayBruises | Little Space | What Do You Need? | Kink Savasana | Dissociation | Casual Kink | Mike Tyson Mysteries | Tops/Doms |...

We went to the Toronto International Porn Festival and it really pissed us off, y'all. Here's our episode-long rant about the consent issues, organizational problems, and ethical snafus at the porn fest. Oh, and a few good things happened too, I guess. Feminist Porn Awards | The Best Porn of the Last Decade | Trans Entities | Sexing the Transman 3 | Morgana Muses | Crash Pad Series | Rough Sex 2 |...

This week we’re talkin’ shop with Kenton , lead fucksmith at Funkit Toys ! Find out how silicone toys are made, what’s in the works at Funkit, and what inappropriate question people always ask Kenton at cons. Genderless Toys | Paddles | Customer Feedback | Ideas | Silicone | Signet | Dream Toys | Glass | Toymaker Brain | “Is That Your Dick?” | Tantus Plunge | Plagiarism | “Revolutionary” Toys | Ve...

This week is 4/20 so we decided to get high and ask each other goofy hypotheticals. How do you suck a 6-foot dick? What are our desert-island dildos? And which two Beatles would be the best threesome buddies? Podcasting High | #DildorksLive | Magic of Editing | Dick-Sized Persons | Sex on Food | Grocery Store | Edible Toys | Cheese | Labia-Swappin' | Good Pups | Gender Constructs | Beatles | Subby...

Why are people so terrified of "ruining the mood" during sex? This week, we investigate alleged mood-ruiners, like consent conversations, technique criticism, and laughter. Spoiler alert: if the mood is good, it's hard to ruin! Silent Sex | Hard Conversations | Yes, And... | And Then What? | Laughing | Consent | Redirects | Princess | Safer Sex | Reid Mihalko's Elevator Speech | Escalati...

Porn makes great jerk-off fodder, but it's also so much more than that! This episode, find out why Bex doesn't really watch porn, why Kate's mom is a sex-positive superhero, and why we both get hard and wet for authenticity. Consumption Styles | Porn vs. Fantasies | Gagging | Heather Harmon | Bushes & Butches | Kate's Mom | Audio | Authenticity | Dylan Ryan & Danny Wylde | Educational Porn...

This week we're joined by smart, savvy sex educator Dirty Lola ! We chat with her about ethical polyamory, what makes someone a slut, and why Bill Nye needs to host a sex ed show. Sex Ed A Go Go | Bill Nye | Sharing Details | Unfollow Me | Poly Tips | Sluttiness | Sex Matters | Science Experiments | Online Dating | #SlutProblems | Non-Disclosure | Sex Geeks | Condom Tailor Credits: Music by PROTOD...

Today we discuss the much-debated G-spot! Why does Bex find big muscles hot? Why do Kate's partners not even know where her G-spot is? And how do we deal when we unexpectedly squirt all over everything? Prehensile G-Spot | Is It a Thing? | Magic Button | Clit Stim | Squirting  & Spurting | Pelvic vs. Pudendal Nerve | Emotional Bonding | A-Spot | Njoy Eleven | Pure Wand | NobEssence Seduction |...

As per usual, we're enthusin' about enthusiasm! Find out the strangest sex compliment Bex ever received, what Kate's boobs have in common with Mario the plumber, and why tourism induces better sex. French Fries | Picky Sluts | Blowjob Quests | Authenticity | Desirability | Passion | Before, During and After | Anxiety | Compliments | Out-of-Towners | "Thank You" | Overenthusiasm | Contact...

Service isn't just unpaid labor; for us, it's a kink, too! In this episode, find out how cleaning can be hot, what craft beer has to do with kink, and whether semen is a good reward... Helpful & Useful | Is It a Sex Thing, Tho? | Falling In Kink | Vanilla Confusion | Anxiety | Structure | Threesomes | What Should I Do? | The Marketplace | Sexual vs. Nonsexual Service | Remembering Preferences...