The Dildorks

Ready to get thoughtful and a bit heavy? This week we’re discussing our mental illnesses – depression, hypomania, anxiety, and more – and the ways they intersect with sex, kink, and dating. Sex Drive | Bipolar Type 2 | Mania | Consent | Safe, Sane, & Consensual | Hypersexuality | Responsive Desire | Dysphoria | Thought Spirals | Performativity | Trust | Crying | Self-Harm | Hello Cruel World |...

What does it mean to be compatible with someone – for love, sex, friendship, or all of the above? This week we're discussing the concept of compatibility in all its many dimensions! Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.    

This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more... Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.    

Your sexual fantasies are an incredibly intimate window into your soul, and that's the topic of this week's episode! Find out what we fantasize about, why, and how. Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.    

This episode is short and silly because we were both too sick to think! We discuss our best and worst sex of the past year, assess how we did on our 2018 sex goals, and set new ones for 2019. Illdorks | Best Sex | Gender Euphoria | Sadists | Best Kink | Dry-Humping | Cocks | Just One More | Worst Sex | Challenging Assumptions | Sexual Identity | Pleasure | CBT | Relaxing Sex | Topping & Dommin...

What kind of year did you have, sex-wise? That’s the topic of this goofy, uncut (lolol) episode where we wrap up our 2018 and touch on what we’d like to try next. No Second Takes | Gender | Phone Sex | Spreadsheet | Number of Partners | Dating??? | Locations | Hotel Sex | Rope Suspension | Sexperiments | Watersports | Kink Satisfaction | Bootblacking | Hypnosis | Kicking | Femdom | Being Stepped O...

Once “Where do babies come from?” has been asked and answered, obviously the next question to tackle is: “Where do kinks come from?” This week, we’re theorizing on the origins of kinks! Japanese Whiskey | Narnia | Kinks As Hobbies | Breaking Bones | Authority Figures | Trauma | Baking | Childhood | Samuel Hughes’ Kink Identity Development Theory | Perception vs. Identity | Born This Way? | Velvet...

As it’s holiday time, this week we’re discussing whether or not you should ever buy someone a sex toy, our fave and least fave toys we’ve received as gifts, and our top tips for getting through the holidays. Christmas Music | Should You? | How to Know | Impact Toys | Favorites | Worst/Weirdest | Gifts for Anyone | JeJoue MiMi | Sex Nerds | Kinksters | RodeoH | Thanks, I Hate It | GenderCat | NYTC...

We have lots of feelings 'n' fantasies about objectification, whether the sexual kind or the kind where you literally take on the role of an object. This week we discuss this contentious kink! Fucktoy | Sexual vs. Literal | Favorite Toy | Holding Still | Exhibitionism | Service | Human Furniture | Cum | Sex Doll | Humanity | Voyeur | Implements | Loving vs. Degrading | Enough to Make You Blush | K...

While together in Toronto, we sat down for a discussion of platonic kink! Find out what it is, why we like it, and how to partake of it responsibly. Reasons Why | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Low Pressure | Context | Emotional Topping | Jealousy | Non-Monogamy | Impact | Arousal | Negotiation | Aftercare | Crying at a Party | Post-Breakup Comfort | Aftercare Dad | Rope Suspension | How to Ask | Service...

Get out your leather boots, straitjackets, and stethoscopes: it’s time to talk about fetish objects! This week, we discuss some of our fave sexualized possessions, and the role they play in our fantasies and sexcapades. Leather Belt | Fetish vs. Kink | Talismans | Corset Fetish | “I Wish I Was…” | Boots | The Slave | Bootblacking | White T-Shirts | Suits | Sleeves Rolled Up | Pantyhose | Bible | L...

Hold your horses: this week we’re talking about orgasm control! We discuss forced orgasms, chastity, abstinence, and various other facets of this fascinating kink. Definition | Fanfiction | Consent | Asking Permission | Power | Signposts | Chastity | Sex vs. Kink | Pre-Sex Abstinence | Forced Orgasms | Beginner Tips | Mindfulness | Solo Play | Abstinence Movements | Conditioning | Quiet | Multiple...

Take a peek inside our minds as we discuss voyeurism! Learn about ways we've explored this kink, why we find it hot, and what voyeuristic fantasies we hope to live out. Porn | Watersports | Consent | Interest | Play Party | Introversion & Anxiety | Voyeurism for Beginners | Closet Photographer | Subtle Signals | Ghost Sex | Fake Sleep | Group Sex | Trust | Service Bottom | Sunglasses | Dark Od...

Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play: what it is, why we like it, and what kinds we want to try. Scary Movies | Fear | Trust | Roleplay | Knives | Hook-Ups | Anxiety | Humiliation | Confrontation | Eye Contact | Njoy Eleven | Nipples | Body Mods | New Kinks | Intoxication | Aftercare | Predator/Prey | Vampires | Bullying | Naked Heart Festival Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork b...

Friend of the show Dick Wound , of the Off the Cuffs and Being There podcasts, joins Kate this week for a goofy discussion of intense kinks ranging from knives to piss to sweat! Dude From the Internet | Knife Play | Fear Play | Death | Off the Cuffs | Kink Origins | Balloon Fetish | Sweat & Smells | Food | YouTube | Vomiting | Watersports | “Basic Bitch” Kinks | Impact Play | Being There Podca...

This week we're bustin' some myths about our fave relationship style: polyamory! Hear us get sassy about hierarchy, infidelity, stigma, and more... Hierarchical vs. Not | Solo Poly | Not Serious? | Sluts | Sex at Dawn | Cake | Failure | Break-Ups | Cheating | Whoever You Want | Synced Cycles | Ersties Podcast | Getting Permission | Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | “I Could Never!” | Jealousy | Processing |...

Got a flair for the dramatic? This week we're rolling out our thoughts on roleplay: why we like it, what kinds we like, and whether or not it’s a strictly sexual thing for us. Psychology vs. Sensations | Cultural Narrative | Flirting | Bullying | High School | Taboo | Non-Sexual Kink | Riddle Club | Flow State | Homework | Hysteria | Con Non-Con | Massage | Outsmarting | A Month’s Worth of Phone S...

School is back in session, so we’re discussing sex ed! Find out what we learned about sex in school – and what we learned, um, elsewhere. Skipping Health Class | Gender Segregation | Anatomy | Gender | Shame | Consent | Doug Ford | Emotional Maturity | Kink | The Clit | Books | Erotica & Fanfiction | Cybersex | Eavesdropping | Podcasts | Bear Bergman | Emily Nagoski | Allison Moon | Dr. Liz Po...

You asked, we answered! This week, we address listener questions on topics ranging from awkward set-ups to platonic kink to dancing dilemmas. Hope this helps! Unsolicited Advice | Vanilla Set-Ups | Dating While Kinky | Toy Storage | Hiding Toys | Toy Cleaning | Platonic Kink | Friends with Benefits | Polyamory Stigma | It’s Called Polyamory | Building Open Relationships | Poly Role Models | Domina...

Impact play has left quite a mark on us! This week we discuss why we like pain, how beginners can get into spanking, and the answers to all your burning questions about hittin' and bein' hit. Pain Slut | Thuddy vs. Stingy | Psychological Motivations | Topping | Floggers | Lexan Paddles | Sweet Spot | Weal & Breech | Pervertibles | Punishment Spankings | Safe Areas | Communication Tools | Bruis...

Sexting is a truly modern sex act. This week we discuss our favorite sext-initiation methods, secret screenshot-ogling, and most treasured emojis, among other sextual topics! No Limits | Access Need | Jumping the Gun | Consent | Casual vs. Dedicated | Screenshots | Selfies | Limitations | Words | Yes/No/Maybe List | Keeping It Fresh | Fantasy vs. Desire | No Babies | Violet Blue’s Book | Aftercare...

This week we’re reflecting on butt stuff in all its delightful forms: anal sex, rimming, butt plugs, and more! Girth Enthusiasm | Butt Barometer | Pain | Nausea | Physical vs. Psychological | Vulnerability | Beginner Tips | Asking For It | Mess & Prep | Topping | Njoy Toys | Tantus Uncut #1 | Condoms & Lube | What If You Don’t Like It? | Double Penetration | Rimming | Spanking | CockyBoys...

This week, we revisit one of our fave topics: hand sex! We describe how we’re feelin’ about fingers and fists these days, and then answer listener questions about hands-on pleasure.  Hand Puns | Dysphoria | Morning Handjobs | Fisting | Vixen Randy | Sliquid Silk | The Butters | Assumptions | Surprise! | Skills to Practice | Positions | Infinity Gauntlet | Fleshlight Quickshot | Tenga Eggs | Foresk...

It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centered pleasures. Blowjob-Friendly Lipsticks | Sex Ed Workshops | Dysphoria | Aslan Jaguar Harness | BJs As Aftercare | Dommy BJs | Hysterical Literature | Receiving | Threesome Fantasies | Eye Contact | Blowjob Porn | Rimming | Samantha Fraser | “You Only...

It's our 100th episode!! We celebrated by taking one of those weird 100-point purity tests to determine which one of us is sluttier. Any guesses?! Accountability | Who’s More Pure? | Dates | Dancing | Kissing | Positions | Birthday Hickeys | Strippers | Drinking | Drugs | Caressing & Fondling | Manipulation | Sauna-ing | Intercourse | Lube | Butt Stuff | Sex Workers | Masturbation | Exhibition...